Interpretation of emotional topics, taking you into more positive emotional worlds! I am your emotional relief, but you have to know how to let yourself go!
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In intimate relationships, when the wind and waves are calm, you and I are not enough to call "true love". The attitude when arguing is the touchstone of feelings!
All along, most women have believed that as long as the contradiction comes, men obey themselves and endlessly coax themselves, which is a manifestation of loving themselves. Later, it was discovered that:
Men can be so "caring" to themselves, but also can be "pampered" to others.
From this point of view, although the man's attitude during the quarrel determines whether he loves you and cherishes you from the bottom of his heart.
But definitely not the man who "has no temper", "no bottom line", "endless humility", and "obedience" of women in quarrels, is the person who cherishes himself and loves himself deeply.
Remember that neither a man nor a woman, no matter how deeply they love their other half, will not truly lose themselves for love.
Humble pandering to love, why not fruit? Because the purpose is too strong and does not pay attention to the process, in the end, the building of feelings can only be collapsed.
People who truly love you and know how to love will not be completely disregarding themselves in order to get the continuation of love and the longevity of relationships.
True love is never distorted! People who know how to love, but also know that in the state of "wanting the rest of their lives", in the right way, they can truly be with the people they love deeply.
When it comes to the "cherishing" behavior between men and women, there is no better way to pay attention to the business process!
The feelings between men and women have never really been "smooth sailing" to eliminate quarrels, contradictions and differences. The more intimate a person is, the more inevitable it is to quarrel.
People are always willing to show their worst selves to the people closest to them. This is a foolish act that everyone knows is not desirable, but everyone is doing it!
Many times, based on the difference between thinking sensibility and ideals, women often like to use the so-called "communication" to solve the problem, but men think that some "communication" is not necessary at all.
Women's communication is mostly an accusation. Men's refusal to communicate is often a kind of "calm".
In this regard, women will be overwhelmed with difficulty in accepting. In men's "calm" attitude, women see that men want to separate, don't love, cold violence, selfishness...
In fact, in intimate relationships, if a man cherishes you, he will have some obvious "rejection" that he can't hide at all.
Among them, the 2 cold attitudes of men, the subtext is "cherish", don't be silly and don't know:
1: Refuse to expand the quarrel of contradictions
I believe that many women will have this experience:
When some contradictions and problems come, their emotions have not been released, and the problems have not been well resolved, men have begun to hang up the exemption card.
At this point, no matter how hysterical a woman is, men will be indifferent! At most, it will say, "You calm down first..."
In intimate relationships, some selfish and self-serving men are not excluded, and they always have an indifferent attitude of refusing to communicate when avoiding problems.
But more often, a considerable number of men are because of the problems that women want to solve, often superimposing new problems.
What's more, the problems that have been solved before, the problems of the present, the new problems stacked on top of each other, and snowballing together...
Encounter problems to solve the problem! The problems of the past were not solved at that time, and it is useless to mention new problems when they arise. As for the new problems, they should be eliminated!
Some women, on the other hand, are a problem making machines. When emotions come, just worry about your own pain and happiness, and do not consider whether you can bear the consequences of your emotional release.
In this regard, the man who really wants to cherish you must know your "characteristics" because of the long-term relationship, so he will make a truce in time. Even if you are hysterical for a while, don't stack the problems and completely break up the relationship.
After all, even if you cherish your man, he has a certain amount of endurance of his own. When the quarrel reaches a certain limit, no one can guarantee what kind of words will be said and what kind of things will be done.
So, in order to be able to make the relationship last a little longer, in the face of a woman with a problem stacked on top of the problem, the man who wants to cherish will only do the coldest treatment when the woman is crazy.
2: Reject you to break through his bottom line
The bottom line for men is actually very simple, nothing more than the following 3:
Quarrels should not affect his mother;
Don't green him;
Don't let him be in public, too faceless.
In the real moment, between men and women in intimate relationships, in general, men will be willing to be obedient to women most of the time, and only when they want to maintain the bottom line do they want women to be half-imperceptible.
Some women, on the other hand, want to touch the bottom line of men, as if to prove how "important" they are in front of the bottom line.
Some men, for the fact that a woman touches their bottom line, either one is enough to make him throw his sleeves away.
And some men, they will do enough cherished acts for love. Even if the bottom line has been touched, they never say "break up."
It will only use the coldest attitude to force women to self-reflect, and then take the initiative to admit and correct mistakes.
Yes, a man who truly cherishes you and loves you, even if you do something wrong, does not affect his love for you.
Unfortunately, some women regard men's love and cherishing as their own capital. In the end, it is the birth to push away another man who really cherishes himself and loves himself, and it is too late to regret it.
Smart women, never in a man's bottom line, test a man's patience. A man's bottom line will never be as much as a woman's, if your man sets the bottom line, after being touched by you, he does not separate from you, but only responds to you with a kind of indifference...
At this time, you must sincerely reflect, sincerely apologize, and sincerely correct. And, be sure to cherish him and never touch his bottom line again.
You know, the only person who can be touched by you and is not separated from you is afraid that this is the only one.
It is said that women are the most vulnerable people in their feelings, and who sees how helpless men are in front of people who want to cherish?
The interaction between men and women is not to make men endlessly lose their bottom line and endlessly obey, or the ideal appearance of feelings.
Feelings are always two-way, and when you love someone, you can have the rest of your life without just saying "you want the rest of your life".
The business process of intimate relationships is really important!
If someone ignores the process of business, it must be a person who does not love enough or does not understand love!
When two people are together, there will be quarrels and contradictions. When facing a problem, between each other, it is definitely not a broken horse, and another is the best way to deal with the problem!
In the face of men's "indifference", women must use the necessary rationality and sobriety to analyze, what is the problem? Who is the one who needs to sincerely admit his mistakes?
If you don't want to lose the man in front of you, you might as well use the appropriate "weakness" to exist in your feelings.
Perhaps, you have really suffered a lot of grievances, but if you ignore the importance of the business process, your he will leave you sooner or later.
Being a woman, in addition to true feelings, still requires some necessary wisdom!
I hope that every woman can get the reward of staying together for the rest of her life in the man she loves deeply!
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