There is a sentence in the "Vegetable Root Tan":
"The heart of harming others must not be there, and the heart of preventing people must not be without."
One should not do good deeds with the intention of harming others, but also guard against others hurting oneself.
In the present, many times we mistakenly think that bad people will reveal their malice directly, so that we can see clearly at a glance.
In fact, now some people are good at disguising themselves, which will make you have an illusion, and even let down their vigilance, thinking that the other party cares about themselves, in fact, the truth is not like this at all.
Some people do these things to you, not in a good relationship, but to harm you.
1 Confusing labels, belittling you, and knocking out your self-confidence little by little
In reality, some people who often hang the word friend on their lips feel that they are close to you, and you think that his words and deeds are for your own good, in fact, what they are best at is to label a person randomly, and then belittle you and knock out your self-confidence a little bit.
For example, if you think a person wants to become more excellent, reading is a good way. However, after letting the other party see it, it is to give an objection.
He thinks you are not suitable for reading, that you have no way to change yourself, and that this life is mediocre for a lifetime. If you have a different opinion, he will say" "I am close to you, I will tell you this", so that you mistakenly think that he knows you best and cares about you, so he will say such a thing.
In fact, the complete opposite.
Such a person does not seek progress on his own, and when he sees that you have the idea of progress, he does not want you to become excellent, so he will label you randomly, and then demean you, make you mediocre, make you like yourself, or make you inferior to himself, so that his heart can find some sense of balance and vanity.
For such a person, don't think that he has been with you for a long time, he actually can't see that you are getting better and better, it is just harming you in this way.
2 People who have no bottom line and like to pull you into the water
Some people always like to call brothers and brothers in their mouths, and they often say the word love and righteousness, so that you mistakenly think that their relationship with each other is recent.
In fact, they are completely based on profit, not really for your own good.
When working together, it is clear that this matter cannot be done in this way, in addition to the risk, there is also the possibility of being caught. However, they have been preaching in your ear that "rest assured, others are doing the same, it's all right", "you don't have to worry, there is me, what are you afraid of", their most obvious purpose is to pull you into the water, to achieve their own ulterior motives.
These people have no bottom line at all, only unscrupulous means for the sake of the end. Deliberately saying something vague to numb your guard, step by step turning you into a person like yourself.
However, once there is an accident, you will immediately run away, and you will not care about your life or death.
For such people, don't think that it is true for the heart, they are completely for the sake of seeking improper benefits to find you, and then by pulling you into the water to harm you, and then disappear without a trace.
If you are unfortunate to encounter, you must be vigilant and then decisively say goodbye.
3 Superficially close to you, secretly destroying your image
As the saying goes: "The forest is big, and there are all kinds of birds." ”
Living in the moment, we will also meet a variety of people, some people get along with you but can't see through each other's true faces, but there is one thing that can clearly judge the signs that the other party intends to harm you: superficially close to you, secretly destroying your image.
To be honest, such people are not in the minority, and what they are best at is to get closer to a person, let you confide in him at the first time, and treat him as someone who can speak the truth.
On the contrary, once you tell him some secrets, he pats his chest and promises not to reveal them to others, making you believe it. Turn your head and tell other people, and you will mold yourself into a righteous person, and you will shape what you do as a despicable little person.
Some people do not know the truth, so they choose to believe, then your image in the minds of others is getting worse and worse, and the person who destroys your image becomes a positive role.
For such a person, do not treat him as your own person, their contact with you is often with evil purposes, in this way to harm you to achieve their ugly purposes.
If you don't know people clearly, you will suffer losses; if you don't know people, you will be deceived.
Some people are good at disguise, and they will not let us see the truth at a glance, but we can see it clearly through what the other party says and does.
If you meet some of the above behaviors, do not question, do not hesitate, these people have ill intentions towards you, do not provoke, decisively stay away is the best policy.
I wish you all the way to meet good people and move forward freely in the light and cloudy years.
-EDN-