The people who are still deeply in love are worth redeeming
Hello sisters, it's Wednesday
Share a few recent cases where I've received similar issues.
The female client's new boyfriend, who has just started dating for a few days, will propose to spend the night at his house. The woman felt too fast and refused the man's request. And the man thinks that you are not willing to develop further with me, that is, he is not interested in me and wants to give up the relationship. At this time, the woman considered that the other party's conditions were good in all aspects, and she was reluctant to give up, so she was embarrassed.
Many girls can't figure this out.
Nowadays, the concept of society is relatively open, and it seems reasonable for men to ask for premarital awakening behavior. Promise him well, I'm afraid the relationship will end soon, I'm afraid he thinks I'm too easy to get and won't cherish. Don't promise him, and I'm afraid I'm too conservative and miss a quality man. What should I do at this time?
I would say that women are always entitled to say no to men. Keeping the bottom line is one of the most basic rights of women.
As long as you're uncomfortable, as long as you feel it's not the right time, as long as you don't want to, you can refuse. You don't even need to explain it. It should have happened based on the fact that both people were looking forward to it.
As long as one party is unwilling, it cannot be forced. If this man could not understand even this most basic reason. What else do you expect and fantasize about about him? Lose interest in you because you refuse, or even give up. Then it's very obvious that he's only interested in one thing, and that's getting your body.
And the man who really wants to develop with you in the long run and is interested in you, he will be willing to take this time to get to know you and respect you is the least. Of course, everything must have a degree, and you have the right to develop feelings according to the standards in your mind. But this time should be reasonable. Everyone is an adult, and if it is for the purpose of serious interaction, reasonable time and emotional situation, it is possible to further understand each other.
But in a very short time, let's say we have known each other for less than two months. Three or five times, the man will make a request, and make it clear that you do not agree to him, he will immediately turn his face. This man doesn't respect women, he doesn't have even the most basic decency of being a human being, he's definitely not the right guy.