When reading Jin Yong's novel, the sentence that I felt empathy for was:
"Men who try to change themselves, but later on, what they reap is tragedy."
This sentence is to tell the story of Li Moxuan, when Li Mochou saw his man, he always wanted to change the other party, and tried to make the other party practice a skill, just so that the other party could protect himself in the future, but this man not only did not change, but also tried to hurt Li Moxuan.
Some men are disobedient, even if you are good for this man.
Han Han said:
"Beauty makes men stop, wisdom makes men stay."
So when women treat men, they must have their own wisdom, Li Moxuan's man met a humble woman behind him, but it is such an inconspicuous village girl, but he and the other party rubbed out the spark of love, this is because this woman's emotional intelligence is high enough, smart enough, so she will do things.
Men don't obey, smart women will do it, stupid women will sulk, even more mean.
01. Side knock side attack
When men are not obedient, women must know how to knock on the side.
In fact, sometimes you say a lot of words to the other party, so that your prestige will be lower and lower, because the other party will feel that you will get better after arguing, so the other party listens to you and returns to calm, then at this time, the other party has not changed at all.
Sometimes the man does not learn something, or the man does not pursue self-improvement, you make a big fuss about the other party, and after that, the calm is restored, and the person continues to be lazy.
So smart women are knocking on the side, such women can not be angry and threatening, sometimes this kind of woman does not speak, but as soon as they open their mouths, they make men feel different, and men will also feel that this woman is obligatory, so they are a little afraid of women.
If sometimes the side knock has not yet achieved the effect, then the woman can pay back appropriately, because this kind of man may not have you in his heart at all, and one day you may also lose this man. Of course, women can't make unreasonable trouble.
Yishu said:
"What you've lost has never really belonged to you, and you don't have to regret it."
Women have to understand that if you do this, the other party has not yet obeyed, and finally leads to the separation of the two of you, you also want to open up a little, what you lost has never really belonged to you, as long as you do it, everything you should do, then everything is not worth regretting.
02. Speak out about grievances
Women must be very gentle to say their grievances, do not sulk each other.
When you say your grievances, men can understand your intentions, sometimes you do some things for the good of men, but men do not see the essence of things, so they will misunderstand you, then in this case, there will be some small problems in the feelings of two people.
But if a woman says her grievances, but all the men who love this woman, will make some slight changes for the woman, even if they do not change, they will pay a little attention, which is also a good start.
Because as long as men pay attention to some of the woman's words, then men in later life can be subtly influenced by women.
Yishu said:
"The grievances that can be spoken are not grievances; the lovers who can be snatched away are not lovers."
But sometimes the grievances that can be said are not real grievances, and girls can easily hold some things in their hearts. This is one of the reasons why the misunderstanding between the two people will become deeper and deeper.
So sometimes women must not let men keep guessing, but to make everything clear, after all, men are not prophets, and they can't figure out what you are thinking in your heart.
03. Treat others in the way they are, and treat them as they are
Women must understand that in their own way to treat their bodies, sometimes men do not obey, then at this time, you also have to develop in the direction that men do not want to see, then in this case, men will naturally remind you, when men remind you, men will experience this pain, so at this time, men can feel the same pain for you.
Some women themselves are very rule-abiding people, and they are also very self-motivated people, but men are just the opposite, at this time, women always want to turn men into their own appearance, but men just don't listen.
Then at this time, you have to know what kind of women men hate, and develop in this direction, for a long time, men will be tortured, so as to persuade you, then at this time, you go to persuade each other, and then exchange equally.
Although it is a little tiring to do it, the effect is really better, because there is never a spiritual connection in the world, and some just feel empathy. Only when a person feels empathy will it be easy to be moved to tears, and after suffering in love, can they realize the difficulty of others.
Baby Anne said:
"Smart women deserve sympathy."
If a woman is smart enough, after the woman has suffered setbacks, she is a woman worthy of sympathy, if she is not smart at all, then this woman can not complain about others even if she suffers losses in love.
Interaction between people is an art, especially between men and women.
So, before interacting with men, women have to make a draft, and sometimes they must master some skills.