Yi Shu, a talented woman who is called "the three wonders of Hong Kong's literary world" with Ni Kuang and Jin Yong, treats her feelings like her career, likes it, does not give up, must get a hand, regardless of gains and losses, twice used all her strength to chase backwards, but in the end they all failed miserably.
Because she ignores a principle in the backward pursuit of women: women can chase backwards, start ahead, and leave a broad space for men's enthusiasm and desire to conquer.
All women who have achieved success in their careers, the desire to conquer is not generally strong.
Yi Shu, who published her first novel collection "Sweet" at the age of 17, had her first relationship, not because of love at first sight, nor because of the attraction of the opposite sex, and she was not willing to fall behind her brother Ni Kuang and Jin Yong, trying to write novels, she was also inspired by her competitiveness.
That year, she met Cai Haoquan, a painter who published paintings for many years, at the newspaper where she published articles for many years. Painter Cai Haoquan, who is a bit wooden in the world, is born with the cold face of an artist, and will not make a scene and usher in the courtesy and enthusiasm of sending. Because he has not received attention and love in his original family, he has a kind of repression and loneliness of undeveloped love in his heart, and his expression always reveals a melancholy and indifferent coldness, which is respectful and far away. This kind of respect and distance is seen by mature people as weak temperament and difficult to deal with, but in the eyes of 17-year-old Yi Shu, it is seen as "indifference" and "contempt".
Yi Shu was the youngest writer to publish a collection of novels at that time, and also the youngest reporter in the newspaper at that time, very famous, wherever he went, he would receive envious and appreciative eyes, and all he heard in his ears was praise. And Cai Haoquan did not know how to behave in the world, did not flatter this little girl, and even she cast a friendly smile as a colleague, Cai Haoquan did not know how to smile back, and still walked over with a cold and arrogant face. Ordinary people see Cai Haoquan like this, and they smile at him, just when his emotional intelligence is low. And Yi Shu did not, thinking that he was only eight buckets high, looked down on himself, and did not care to deal with her.
How can a talented woman who does not accept defeat, a strong person who publishes a collection of novels at the age of 17, tolerate a small newspaper painter who does not look amazing? So he made an astonishing decision: he must be conquered, let him look at himself with admiration, and fall at his feet.
Girls who have just entered the world understand the dangers of this conquest, and they do not understand how easy it is. A 17-year-old girl who doesn't need to be conquered at all, just a shy smile can impress an adult man who is many years older than her. But Yishu did not understand, she wanted to use the writing momentum that could publish novels at the age of 17 to pursue Cai Haoquan.
Cai Haoquan is very timid, he is not unloving, he does not dare. Yi Shu's brother Ni Kuang knows him, is a peer, and has a reputation for his friend's 17-year-old little sister? What virtue? Moreover, estimating his own strength, how can not match the young Famous Yi Shu. Therefore, at first, he did not accept the eyebrows and courtesy that Yishu took the initiative to send. But who expected, the more unmoved he was, the more indifferent he looked, the more Shu went on the pole to pursue, wrote love letters, greeted him warmly, met him without any trouble, and even approached him pitifully and committed suicide for him.
Cai Haoquan couldn't resist, mistakenly thinking that this was the true feelings of the young girl who had just opened the love dou, if he refused fiercely, it would hurt her too much, and he mistakenly thought that he accepted Yi Shu who was burned by love was the real kindness, the real consideration for her, and the real good for Yi Shu. In fact, subconsciously, he just loved this young and beautiful girl with a passion like fire. Cai Haoquan then accepted Yi Shu with openness and integrity. He was really honest and honest and fell in love with Yi Shu.
But here in Yishu, Yishu is also touched by her own perseverance and conquest, and her subconscious is the satisfaction after success, not deep love. This love can continue, but also from another resistance, Yi Shu's mother.
When Yi Shu's mother learned that her promising daughter was in love with a poor painter, she became angry and reprimanded her daughter for self-destructing her future and forced her to break up.
Who is Yishu? Never admit defeat, never compromise, the difficulties in the eyes are no matter how big or small, all won. Yi Shu's stubbornness was once again stimulated, and she may feel that she disobeyed her mother's orders, very brave, very courageous. Therefore, in the opposition of her mother's family, she made her own claim and married Cai Haoquan with a license! The wedding ceremony was just a table in Tsim Sha Tsui and a friend was invited to a meal.
After marriage, she became pregnant at the age of 19, and her mother thought that she was too young to give birth to a child, so she beat her up, and Yi Shu resolutely refused to do it, desperately protecting the fetus in her belly.
The son was born smoothly, and then, the resistance of her love was no longer there, the husband loved her and loved the child with a dead heart, and the mother's family did not speak. Even when public opinion saw this, it was silent. At this time, the inadequacy of the two is like an island on the sea after the calm of the wind and waves, towering in their lives. Cai Haoquan has a fierce temperament, and Yi Shu is notoriously bad tempered, male and female fierce, and the two quarrel endlessly. What makes Yishu even more unbearable is Cai Haoquan's "poverty", Yishu chases a delicate life, and the two often argue over silver money.
After only 3 years, the conquest was over, the sense of accomplishment disappeared, and Yishu divorced Cai Haoquan.
Divorce is really not because the man has any fault, Yi Shu's brother Ni Kuang once expressed regret for his sister's marriage, he said: I don't blame Cai Haoquan, this person has an artistic temperament, until later he did not stop calling me after the big brother before the big brother, Yi Shu's temper is not good, men can't stand it, it is the common sentiment of people.
From this point of view, Cai Haoquan is really passive, and there is still a little injustice.
After the divorce, Yishu went to Shaw's "Hong Kong Film and Painting" as a reporter and became a girlfriend with Shaw's popular actress Zheng Peipei. At that time, Zheng Peipei had a boyfriend yue Hua who had very good feelings.
In Zheng Peipei's eyes, Yue Hua Yushu is windy, his face is like a crown jade, he is from a good background, English, Russian, Chinese switch freely, he is proficient in accordion, piano, flute, wen can write columns in newspapers and periodicals, martial arts can dance swords in a flowing and elegant manner, and he is also a well-known good man, does not smoke, does not gamble money, does not go to dance halls, does not participate in the circle of fools, lectures to friends, and pets his girlfriend to heaven. Zheng Peipei loves this boyfriend very much.
As a girlfriend, Yi Shu saw it, and her heart was like being shocked by an electric shock. This time she really moved the heart of love.
However, Yue Hua has a stable girlfriend Zheng Peipei.
Yi Shu, who has been divorced once, or the Yi Shu who likes to get it, used not to ask about difficulties, and now even morality is not asked. Girlfriends are equal in front of love, and friendship is black and white in front of gorgeous love. Yi Shu knows very well that what he wants is to seduce the soul of love.
As a result, Yi Shu, who had a lot of experience in backward pursuit, began to chase back with greater difficulty. The difference is that this time it is heartwarming.
When Yue Hua drove to pick up Zheng Peipei, Yi Shu found various reasons to rub the car, and when she went upstairs at home, she said that she had night blindness and had to send Yue Hua upstairs. In this repeated delivery upstairs, she used her novelist's language talent to get Yue Hua.
Later, Zheng Peipei suddenly married the United States and flashed marriage to a Taiwanese. And from then on.
Yi Shu really broke Zheng Peipei's heart.
In the same year that Zheng Peipei married the rich man, Yi Shu announced his love for Yue Hua in Jin Yong's Ming Pao. She succeeded again, sweetly saying in the newspaper that she could not look up the dictionary, Yue Hua was her dictionary, and praised Yue Hua: "There is a good man's face, a good man's character... It is a rare example in the world. ”
Yue Hua is indeed so good that women meet female love, such a boyfriend, even if he is not a soul confidant, is better than a soul confidant, which is an almost perfect ideal partner for human beings.
The person who got Yue Hua, Yi Shu also wanted to occupy Yue Hua's heart as a whole.
But this time is different, Cai Haoquan did not fall in love at that time, his heart was blank, and after being touched by Yi Shu, his whole body and mind were only Yi Shu. But Yue Hua once loved Zheng Peipei deeply.
Yue Hua once worshipped Zheng Peipei. When Yue Hua came to Shaw, Zheng Peipei was already a well-known actress of Shaw. Yue Hua glanced at Wannian and was attracted by Zheng Peipei's graceful style. But Yue Hua is more deep, because he is a newcomer, he feels that he is not worthy of Zheng Peipei, his feelings are buried in his heart, and he silently strives to catch up with Zheng Peipei. And Chen Honglie, a friend who entered Shao's with him, was also attracted to Zheng Peipei, but he did not think about it so much, followed the passion, and was ten times better than his true feelings for Zheng Peipei. Zheng Peipei couldn't resist, thinking that it was deep love, so she threw herself into Chen Honglie's arms. Yue Hua, who was obsessed with the side, watched the lover in his dream throw into the arms of his friends, did not get angry, did not disturb them, silently followed the development of the two people's feelings, and quietly cared about Zheng Peipei.
People who follow the feelings tend to sway. At the moment of passionate love with Zheng Peipei, Chen Honglie escorted another big star Pan Yingzi home every day, and he had a feeling of coming and going, and the scandals flew all over the sky, and Zheng Peipei left sadly.
Zheng Peipei's sadness, Yue Hua is in the eyes, pain in the heart. He did not care about the previous suspicions, every day to Zheng Peipei booed cold greetings, trying to coax Zheng Peipei happy, not only warm words, but also did a lot of things for her. Gradually, Zheng Peipei found that Yue Hua was the one who really loved him and was very attached to Yue Hua. Yue Hua cherished this hard-won love even more, and loved Zheng Peipei without distraction. The relationship between the two is very stable, but the weather is unpredictable, falling down Yishu and stuck in the middle of them.
Zheng Peipei is stronger than Yishu everywhere, but he is short of the momentum of not accepting defeat and not giving up.
Yishu is that as long as he likes it, he will never give up, do not ask difficulties, and ignore resistance. And Zheng Peipei did not, a look at the queue, angry, left.
Yue Hua was seduced, and there may be a little bit of heart shaking, but the root of his inner love for Zheng Peipei did not waver. Zheng Peipei should see how Yue Hua does, how he thinks, and chooses according to Yue Hua's behavior, rather than being carried away by the behavior of the third party when there is interference from the third party, and his mind is directed by the third party, making trouble with the boyfriend, blaming the third party's fault on the boyfriend, gambling and getting angry, and breaking up. But should be figured out, is the third party seduction, or the boyfriend empathy do not love, if the boyfriend did not change his heart, and he loves him very much, then you should vigorously maintain your love, see someone robbed, quickly pull the boyfriend to their side, drive away the third party, rather than make the sex boyfriend, and finally misunderstand and break up, right in the third party's arms.
But unfortunately, when Zheng Peipei saw that someone had robbed her, she was angry and broke up with Yue Hua, and in a rage, she gave up her career and gambled to marry the American rich man who had been pursuing her, away from the sad place. But it turned out how wrong her approach was. She was very angry at her in-laws' house after the flash marriage, and then remembered Yue Hua's goodness, wrote a letter to Yue Hua, poured out her heart, and was also discovered by Yi Shu. Yishu vinegar jar shattered to the ground, and Directly published Zheng Peipei's letter in the newspaper. This directly led to the final divorce of Zheng Peipei.
Alas, Zheng Peipei, the result of the deliberate action is to lose all his positions.
Here Yi Shu had already obtained Yue Hua's people, but she was still desperate to occupy the uncultivated wasteland that Yue Hua had left for Zheng Peipei in the depths of her heart. In fact, as long as Yi Shu was bent on managing her relationship with Yue Hua, that wasteland would naturally grow flowers and grass planted by Yi Shu after a long time, and it would not be possible to keep it. However, Yi Shu's character must be complete, and there is no room for others. Female writers are particularly sensitive to love, so Yue Hua, an honest person, can't hide that bit of heart, and Yi Shu makes unremitting efforts to attack it.
Yue Hua accepted Yishu in frustration after Zheng Peipei married the United States. This stimulated Yi Shu's competitive spirit to burn, how much she loved Yue Hua, Yue Hua must at least love her in equal amounts. But in front of Yishu, who is enthusiastic and active in thinking, Yue Hua is enthusiastic, but he can't surpass Yishu's enthusiasm, and how to take the initiative is not as active and active as Yishu. He couldn't achieve the romantic sweetness and affection that Yishu wanted.
Yi Shu could not mobilize Yue Hua's enthusiasm, believing that Yue Hua loved her less than Zheng Peipeiduo, and in a fit of anger, cut Yue Hua's suit into strips of cloth. Cutting a suit doesn't work, and then committing suicide.
Yue Hua was calmed by Yi Shu's crazy behavior, and was also afraid that something would happen to her, so she married Yi Shu.
Married, Yi Shu's desire to conquer came to an end, but her strong love slowly slid into the abyss of control. She did not allow Yue Hua to have the slightest "mind-wandering" behavior towards her, and Yue Hua's people and hearts must focus on her alone. Once, Yi Shu was angry, and even took a dagger directly and violently plunged it into the "heart position" of the bed where Yue Hua was sleeping.
The good man Yue Hua still endured. However, when Yishu published a letter that Zheng Peipei wrote to Yue Hua to be angry at her in-laws' house, resulting in Zheng Peipei's inability to gain a foothold in her in-laws' family, Yue Hua could not bear it and filed for divorce.
Yi Shu regretted it and knelt down to apologize to Yue Hua. But Yue Hua was unmoved and resolutely divorced.
The life that Zheng Peipei gave up was not better, and the life that YiShu was chasing after did not live to old age.
Professor Li Meijin said it well, "It is okay for women to chase backwards, but at the beginning, the back must be left to men to do." "Because men and women are not the same, at the beginning women can remind him, let the dull man understand his thoughts, but after mutual affection, women must mobilize men's enthusiasm and desire to conquer, and the initiative behind must be men, otherwise, men have no motivation, women in love and marriage, the road will be more and more difficult. Biologically, males can force females, but females have a hard time forcing males.
Author: Wei Feihong: Contributor, screenwriter. In the colorful world, figure out the yardstick behind the success or failure of life, and show you.