The best way for a person to live: learn to forget, know how to see

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Everyone doesn't want to have troubles, but everyone's world is full of troubles, allowing themselves to live in pain.

We think that many of our troubles linger, but in fact, it is our own obsession that is again making a mistake.

Forgetting may be forgotten, and if it is not painful, it is not painful.

It is easy to say this, but it is difficult to do it, because we are always good at magnifying troubles, good at contrasting, and feeling that we are abandoned by heaven.

In fact, many things are just our mediocre self-disturbance, and we can only have a better life if we forget our troubles and sorrows.

Life is a journey, the heart is full of troubles, the days will be unhappy, rather than this, it is better to learn to forget, as Su Dongpo said, nothing is precious.

To put it simply, in this life, no matter is the best thing, and the best way to live is to forget the troubles and forget the feelings that have passed.

01: Forget about troubles and be happy naturally

A person is unhappy, not because he does not have the ability to be happy, but he does not know how to forget, life is short, and what we have to do is to enjoy life with a limited life, rather than constantly seeking troubles.

There is nothing going on in the world, and the mediocre people disturb themselves, and this is the truth.

If in the journey of life, you always can't get through the troubles, then all you can get is pain, if you can give up the troubles and learn to look down on everything, it will naturally be accompanied by happiness.

I've seen two short stories, and these two little stories illustrate this point. First of all, let's talk about the first small story, this story is written by YiShu, although the story is short, the philosophy is deep.

One day, Yishu went to visit her brother Ni Kuang, and after a brief chat between the two of them, Yishu saw that the green plants on the balcony grew very well and were full of love.

Since he also liked potted plants, he learned from Ni Kuang:

"Your potted plants are so well raised, is there any secret?"

Ni Kuang said with a smile:

"There's no secret, it's very simple, after you die and lose it, buy a new one."

Obviously, this is not the secret, because this who will, although it is not a secret, but it seems to be not unreasonable, since you can't keep it, let it go, die and buy a new one, it is indeed an open-minded attitude towards life.

The second story is a friend, but it is similar to Yi Shu's.

My friend loves to keep fish, and I used to think he was very good at keeping fish because my fish would die in a few days, and he seemed to have no problems keeping them.

I asked him what the secret was, originally thought that my friend would tell me to change the water frequently, feed less, remember to disinfect and other words, did not expect that the friend did not say anything.

He laughed and said:

"Mine also often dies, you are diligent in changing water, I am diligent in changing fish."

His words directly made me laugh, who would not, children will probably.

Friends said that although they will, but many people can not do it, always think about how to work hard to raise well, do not know that this is to add to their own troubles, raising fish is originally a mood, since the mood is good, how to do it.

When we think about it, it seems that we do something originally to seek pleasure, but we didn't expect to end up making it upsetting.

There's a saying that goes something like this:

"Troubles have no roots, do not pick up nature, confuse have no source, do not correct themselves easily."

Many things we do not entangle will be fine, try to forget and forget, if you do not want to forget and hold on, a lifetime can only be associated with troubles.

02: Missed feelings, please forget

We all know that good feelings are the right time, meet the right person, nothing else, the right time, meet the wrong person, the wrong time, meet the right person is not.

Some feelings, since they have missed, they must laugh and let go, and some people leave, they must smile and accept.

If you have to keep the other person in your heart, the suffering is yourself, whether you like it or not, the past is the past, not loving is not loving, losing is losing.

No matter how uncomfortable you are, the other party will not come back, you regret it, and the feelings will not come back.

Half a year ago, my friend was as if I had lost love.

When she thought that the relationship would go on forever, the boyfriend chose to leave, there was no betrayal between them, not even an argument, a word of no love to end the relationship.

When she first broke up, Chunru was particularly painful, she didn't know what she was doing wrong, she was unwilling, she asked her boyfriend why, why did she have good feelings and said that if she didn't love, she wouldn't love.

She asked her boyfriend to tell her why, and she was willing to change, as long as she didn't break up.

At that time, she thought that her boyfriend would say the reason, but she did not expect that her boyfriend was still a faint no reason.

In this way, they went from being lovers to strangers.

From the person who said that they would be together for a lifetime, to the person who was together for a short time, although Pure Ru was particularly unwilling in his heart, there was nothing else he could do.

At that time, she asked what it would take to keep the relationship?

I didn't say anything because I didn't feel the need to go on, and it would be more painful for her to say so.

When people are in the most pain, we have to follow it, even if it is wrong, we must follow it, so as to give the other party some comfort, as to whether it is right or wrong, the other party will figure it out for himself.

All feelings, time is the best medicine, temporarily can not forget does not mean that it has not been forgotten, and what cannot be released now does not mean that it has not been possible to let go.

Now that Chunru has come out of this relationship, she felt that she was too stupid at that time, since she couldn't keep it, why did she force herself?

She wasn't wrong in the relationship, the other person wasn't wrong, they were all wrong people, they just met at the right time.

Chun Ru mistakenly thought that this short encounter was a lifetime, but in fact it was just his own wishful thinking.

Some things, want to open not so tired, some feelings, relieved, but also happy.

In this world, almost everyone wants to have a good love, but not everyone can do as they wish, there are often many feelings in the world that cannot be loved, and there are often too many regrets, we have to accept it with a smile.

If you can't forget, can't let go, and is always suffering and entangled, then the only thing that hurts is yourself.

As the saying goes:

"Sometimes there must be something in fate, and there must be no demand in fate at any time."

Know at all times that we come into this world to seek happiness, and if there are some things that don't make us happy, and some emotions that make us miserable, forget about them.

When you forget, you can grasp the current life and meet the bright future.

About the Author:

Su Xiaobei, a young emotional writer and marriage counselor, focuses on marriage recovery and intimate relationship repair.