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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Someone asked, "What is a woman's greatest pain in a marriage?" ”
In my opinion, the most painful thing for a woman in a marriage is not a difficult life, but a bad marriage, painting the ground as a prison, and losing her life.
No matter how difficult life is, women can bear it, but facing a man who does not love you and holding on to an unhappy marriage is the greatest sorrow of women.
Many women are wronged in marriage, even if they know that the marriage is not happy, it is difficult to get out, which is the real pain of women.
I have chatted with many married women, they are obviously let down by men, but they can't leave, because they can't put down the family, can't put down the children, can only let themselves suffer in the unfortunate marriage.
They did not live their lives, did not have the courage to leave, and were very disappointed in their future lives.
Therefore, when men snubbed you, please concentrate on doing three things well, you win, this is a one-person pattern, hope women can understand.
First, work hard and remain independent
Yi Shu said: "Who else will take care of who for a lifetime, that is a heavy burden." So you have to be self-reliant. ”
In marriage, women must work hard, work hard to earn money, and remain independent so that they can have a real sense of security.
If the man doesn't love you anymore, you have to plan your life carefully when he is indifferent to you.
Earn more money and maintain the dual independence of economy and personality so that you do not fall into an unhappy life.
If the man snubs you, you still go to humble and flatter, do not know how to improve yourself, will make him look down on you, and even speed up his departure.
Therefore, women must remain independent after marriage and must not live dependent on men.
Otherwise, you will live as an appendage to a man, not only will you not get the happiness you want, but you may also suffer greater grievances and not be worth it.
Men's love is usually difficult to sustain, and when they first start, they may love you, but over time, it is inevitable that there will be changes.
Women must always maintain their ability to be independent, no matter when, as long as you find that men have snubbed you, you must have the confidence to live independently.
In this way, you will not be attached to the man's life, in order to have the capital to stand side by side with him, he does not care about you, you can live better.
Don't cherish your man, don't have to please, women can't lose themselves because of marriage, and they can't draw the ground as a prison.
You must have your own opinions, but also have your own pursuits, life can be done, but dignity must not be trampled.
When you are independent and become a better self, you have the capital to obtain happiness, which is the pattern of a woman.
Second, adhere to self-discipline and read more
After marriage, if the man does not cherish you, you do not have to be nervous, and you need to be calmer at this time.
You must have a self-disciplined life, everything according to your own wishes, read more, enrich yourself more, and make yourself more connotative.
In the second half of life, women really have to fight not for their husbands and children, but to let themselves have a rich connotation, to precipitate themselves, in order to finally live themselves.
A woman with a strong heart and extremely high cultivation can be impressed by others at any time.
Even if the men around you don't care about you, you can't let yourself go, but you have to actively improve your connotation.
When you become a patterned and cultivated woman, you will naturally meet men who appreciate and cherish you.
As the saying goes: "There is poetry and bookishness in the belly." ”
A woman's best state is to read, which is the fastest way to precipitate connotations.
Reading more books not only broadens their horizons, but also precipitates a unique temperament, and will have a more open-minded and optimistic attitude towards life, life, marriage, etc.
Therefore, whether a man loves you or not, that is his business, and he cannot force it to come, let alone humble and please.
Instead of retaining men with a humble mentality, it is better to strengthen yourself and make yourself rich in heart and elegant in temperament.
When you do this, you also have the dignity in front of men and take the initiative.
In this life, we can't ask each other to love you forever, but we can strengthen ourselves, learn to love ourselves, and precipitate our beautiful life.
As YiShu said, "The more no one loves, the more you have to love yourself." "That's the pattern of a woman's strength.
Third, the heart is positive, calm and live
After marriage, women must maintain a positive attitude towards life and live calmly.
Even if the man snubs you, you should not be passive, but have an optimistic attitude towards life.
You can divert your attention and change your mindset so that you don't get caught up in an unhappy life so that you can avoid withering away in your life.
For example, when you are fine, you can clean up the house, live in a different mood, and no longer worry about the alienation of men.
Especially when you are in a bad mood, you change your mood by cleaning up the house, and often let the negative emotions disappear.
For example, you can also exercise more, when a person exercises, it is easiest to release their emotions, so that the mood can instantly improve.
Moreover, when you focus on doing one thing, your body and mind will also change, and your temperament will change from the inside out.
When you have greater charm, you will also allow yourself to have more choices, even if one day the man leaves you, you will not lack love.
Because, you have a positive attitude to life, know how to live calmly, and will not consume yourself on unworthy men.
Sooner or later, you will understand that your love can only be given to men who cherish you, and only such men can be worthy of your good.
For those men who are not worth it, it is not worth nostalgia at all, rather than drawing the ground as a prison, it is better to live out of yourself.
A woman maintains a sound body and mind, calmly and calmly, in order to walk in life and feelings without hurrying.
Therefore, in marriage, when men snub you and no longer cherish you, you should not go to humble and flatter, but live with a more positive and optimistic attitude.
In this way, it will not only appear that you have a pattern, but also let you have a better choice.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
There is a saying in "XiBao": "I want a lot of love, if there is no lot of love, I want a lot of money, if there is no two, there is good health." 」 ”
A woman, can not spend her life on men, especially men snubbed you, you have to love yourself more.
If men can't give you the love you want and can't give you the life you want, then you have to live for yourself, do these three things, and you win.
Work hard and stay independent; adhere to self-discipline and read more; be positive at heart and live calmly.
At any time, women must understand that even if there is no love, you can still live your own wonderful.
Those women who live happily are not lucky, but they understand these truths, become better selves, and have strong abilities.
This is the pattern of a woman, I hope that no matter whether you have a man to love you, you can precipitate your own abundant life, so that you can have real happiness.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.