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Yi Shu said in the book: "Self-love, calmness, and then love others." ”
Indeed, the most important thing in a person's life is yourself, no one can love yourself more than you, and you should live for yourself.
Love is beautiful, but before you love others, you must first love yourself and stand on your own feet, and you can't let others look down on you.
"Life is in your own hands, others will never be responsible for your life, there is no reason to worry about you to the end, even if it is a loved one." 」
If you don't even take your own affairs to heart, others will naturally not look at you squarely, but will only despise you and use you.
In the world of love, two people can only go on for a long time if they pay the same time and energy.
The party that pays more is often thankless and can only end in tragedy.
You always have to remember that you are the protagonist of life, others are just supporting roles, you can't despise yourself and choose to put them first.
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Life is destined to be a lonely journey, and since you come to this world alone, you can only be alone when you leave.
Everyone you meet on the way is doomed to not end your life with you, and the only one you can rely on is yourself.
As Zhang Jiajia said: "There will not be many people who understand you, you must learn to understand yourself." ”
Everything is people-oriented, and you can only do other things and develop relationships with others if you put yourself first.
Instead of putting the cart before the horse, blindly seeking perfection, and thinking about others in everything. Otherwise, your "dedication" will only harm you in the end.
Living in this world, you are not short of love because you are able to use your abilities to give yourself enough love and care.
In other words, even if everyone leaves you, as long as you still don't give up on yourself, then you can embrace warmth and sunshine.
At the same time, life is inevitably up and down, you must have a normal heart, do not like things, do not grieve with yourself, and go with nature.
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Fight for what you really want, instead of just going with the flow and losing yourself in the crowds.
Your voice is always the most important, everything in the outside world is just a quiet voice, not a substitute for your own voice.
How to go in the future is up to you to decide, not to move forward in the fog with an impetuous heart.
The most rare thing to be a person is to be sober, there are too many temptations from the outside world, you must always remain calm and not forget your original intention.
Only when you calm down on your own can you see a lot of overlooked details and find a way out of the future little by little.
What other people think and do, or what kind of ups and downs you will experience, are things that you can't intervene in, and all you can do is take care of yourself.
As long as you do it with all your heart and do your best to let it go, you can count it without complaint or regret, and you don't have to care about the result.
As people often say, what matters from beginning to end is not the result, but the process of your effort.
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The journey of life itself has no way to predict where the end point is, so instead of struggling with the result, it is better to enjoy the beautiful scenery around you.
When you can be calm and calm, it also shows that you are a strong person. In this way, the decisions you make are rational rather than impulsive.
In this way, you can live a good life, be able to reasonably dispose of your time and energy, and have the capital to love someone.
This means that you are good enough to accept love without being able to, or the ability to share your future with someone.
You must understand that loving someone depends not only on a lonely courage, but also on your firm belief and perseverance.
After all, love itself is sacred and requires you to take responsibility for your actions and for your feelings.
Otherwise, your love is just a powerless thinness, can not give people touch and strength, let alone make people believe.
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Love also needs thickness, and this thickness lies in your own strong self-love and your ability to deal with things.
As for how the other party responds, it is all his business, which needs the pull of fate, and when fate arrives, you will naturally come together.
Doing one's job and then obeying the mandate of heaven is an immutable truth that no one has been able to question since ancient times.
After all, the twisted melon is not sweet, people who do not love you will never have feelings for you, and the things of this world itself cannot be clearly explained in three words, let alone the love between men and women?
This means that not the person you love will necessarily love you, and if you can't first achieve self-love and calmness, you will definitely spend the rest of your life in self-hatred and self-pity.
Moreover, it is a very common thing for him not to love you, because it is rare to encounter love in both directions in the world.
Everything must have a process, on the road of love is also destined to be full of bumps and thorns, you only have to go strong to go on, in order to usher in the final victory.
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So, be self-loving, calm, and then go to love people, so that you can accept the results of failure and always believe in love.
Everything depends on you to fight for, not self-love will make you humble in the relationship to the dust, not calm will make you blinded by love, easy to be frustrated.
You have to remember that you have to hold up an umbrella for yourself, not to be an alternative to others, but to be your own. In this way, you can better give love and accept love.