Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
For most women, love is like a necessity of life, and when you are with a beloved man, you will feel the colorfulness of life.
A man, on the other hand, is more practical, and when he chooses a partner, he values the value of the woman more.
Behind the commitment of marriage, it actually comes from the man's consideration of the current situation and the future, and has nothing to do with love.
After the age of forty, most of the men marry you for a purpose, and you have to stay sober for women.
02. The rest of your life is difficult, find someone to help you in the same boat
His boss Xiao Hong divorced a few years ago, and he lived alone with his son, so he never thought about starting a family again.
But as he got older and the burden of life became heavier, he gradually felt that there was no time to breathe.
The son who went to college called him every once in a while to ask for money, his parents' health was not good, he always asked for leave to accompany his parents to see a doctor, and the dissatisfaction of the company leaders with him was already written on his face.
Xiao Hong told his friends about his idea of starting a family, and he also said that he had no requirements for the other half, as long as he could help take care of his parents and take care of his daily life.
Later, under the introduction of a friend, he married a down-to-earth and virtuous woman. He also seemed to breathe a sigh of relief, and instantly felt that the burden on his shoulders was lightened a lot.
After the age of forty, a man chooses to start a family, most likely because he wants to find someone to help him share the pressure.
There are still many difficulties in the rest of his life, and men alone are powerless to resist. If he can find a woman who is willing to be in the same boat with him, the future situation will be much better.
Men after the age of forty are likely to enter into marriage with a woman with a very strong personal purpose because of the difficulty of life.
He only thinks about his own situation more and wants to share the responsibility with the woman and live the rest of his life together.
03. The sense of happiness in life is low and needs to be taken care of by someone
If a man lives alone for a long time, he will also have a lot of loneliness and loneliness in his heart.
Perhaps, when you are young, you will not feel any discomfort.
As long as you have a job, friends, and things that you are interested in, you can live a colorful life.
But as you get older, you will pay more attention to the happiness of life, and yearn for the warmth of your family and the happiness of being taken care of.
When I see other people's families happily getting together, I will inevitably feel envious in my heart, and when I see my friends around me all concerned by their families and taken care of by their lovers, I will also feel lonely.
When a man who has passed the age of forty marries a woman and returns home, he just needs someone to take care of him and wants to improve his happiness in life.
Among them, how much sincerity is unknown. But what he wanted was obvious.
04. I hope that in my old age, someone will be by my side
The more a person experiences, the more he understands that in this world, parents and children are not his greatest support.
In old age, it is also a great comfort to have a wife by your side, take care of your daily life, and gossip about homely things.
Men who still live alone after the age of forty will inevitably think of the situation of their later life, and they will also have faint worries in their hearts.
Fear that I will fall ill in bed and have no one to take care of me, and fear that in a deserted room, there will only be myself talking to my own voice.
He didn't want to imagine that he had spent such a long lonely life alone, and he was unwilling to be forgotten by everyone in the corner.
Men will try to seize the opportunity and find ways to impress the woman and start a new life with her to start a new family with her.
He will try his best to show his sincerity and win the kindness of women with his dedication. I just hope that in my old age, someone can be by my side.
05. Summary
Zhang Ailing said: "I have tried marriage for you, if the other half of your life chooses the wrong one, every step for the rest of your life will be wrong." ”
When it comes to middle age, when a man chooses a partner, he thinks more about his own needs and how to improve his quality of life.
He doesn't have to be you, as long as he can achieve his goals, any woman will be his choice.
In the face of men's pleas to start a family, women must think carefully, do not make decisions lightly, and do not let themselves fall into passivity and disappointment.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.