Text/Xia Mo
01, frontispiece
Love, like flowers, will soon wither if it is not carefully cared for.
Many people will gradually neglect the management of their feelings in the long time they get along.
Men completely leave their families and children to women to take care of, while women are full of complaints and accusations, and it is difficult to see traces of love.
Men have been away from home for a long time and neglect the management of their families and feelings, and women should not be left to their own devices, and they should not be noisy and entangled. Find out what is most advantageous to deal with, and you win.
If, your man is away from home for a long time, learn to deal with it this way, you win.
02. The man is not at home, and he is assigned family tasks
I know a rich wife, Yu Hong, whose husband is successful in his career.
I am busy with socializing all day, liaising with friends and customers, and I am on a business trip for a week.
The husband and wife often just take pictures at home, and because of the lack of communication and exchanges, there are many conflicts and misunderstandings.
Faced with this situation, Yu Hong no longer took care of the family's affairs and began to assign family tasks to her husband.
For example, this week, I have to accompany my parents to go for health check-ups, clean the range hood at home, dispose of unused clutter accumulated in the garage, and so on.
The husband was reluctant at first, but Yu Hong completely did not interfere and let her husband face it alone.
He gradually realized how irresponsible it was for him to throw all his family responsibilities to Yu Hong.
After that, he began to consciously devote more time to the family, and strive to take on more responsibilities to reduce Yu Hong's burden, and the family atmosphere gradually became warmer.
Men may be away from home for a long time because of a weak sense of family responsibility.
He didn't realize what kind of responsibilities he had to take on as a member of the family and how he could grow in his marriage.
A woman can assign family tasks to a man, guide him to contribute to the family, and make him feel the pressure and responsibility of being neglected.
Napoleon said: "A true man is responsible for his loved ones and provides them with safety and protection." ”
Men are not at home, and if women keep accusing and arguing, it will only make men want to go home less and more.
A man can be assigned family tasks to involve him in the family. Gradually, a man will become aware of his responsibilities, and he will begin to grow and know how to take responsibility.
03. Let the child establish a relationship with him and give him more opportunities to get along
In "Our Marriage", Sheng Jiangchuan is a very famous investor.
He is very busy at work, and he does not have time to spend with his wife and children even on weekends.
The wife tried to change the mode of getting along, let Sheng Jiangchuan pick up the children to school, and go to the parent-child sports meeting prepared by the school.
And the child thinks that her father can accompany her to participate in the sports meeting, which is the happiest thing for her.
Sheng Jiangchuan decided to take his children on a business trip because he had no time for work. As a result, unexpectedly, the car broke down in a resort.
Sheng Jiangchuan simply put down his work, accompanied the children to barbecue, fly kites, and set up tents, satisfying the children's desire to camp.
Seeing the child's happy smile, he began to wake up: the child's growth is only once, and if he misses it, there is only regret. I have been busy with work and ignore my family, which is really undeserved.
After that, Sheng Jiangchuan made many changes, often making breakfast for his wife and children, accompanying the children to amusement parks, and sharing the pressure on his wife.
When a man is away from home for a long time, the relationship with family members can become very distant.
Women can give men and children more opportunities to get along, so that they can build feelings with each other, so that men can have more concern and attachment to the family.
Career will occupy most of a man's time and energy, making him neglect his responsibilities to the family and children.
A woman will let her children establish a relationship with a man and cultivate a good way of getting along, and the family will become more stable.
04. Take care of the family's money and know his income
In married life, there are also many hidden crises, and each other needs to be sensible enough.
Men have been away from home for a long time, probably because they don't care about this home in their hearts. I don't care about everything at home.
Women have to work hard to run the home, but also prepare for the worst. If one day, the relationship between the two is no longer and the marriage is broken, the woman will not be caught off guard.
You need to manage your family's money, know how much money men earn, and know where they spend their money.
It is a joint property between husband and wife, and it must be maintained diligently. At the same time, maintain a high degree of sharpness and calm, and don't be easily blinded by men's lies.
If a man is not at home at all, he will only show favor to a woman when he needs financial support, and be courteous to women, and he must be vigilant and not gullible.
When love is completely exhausted, women also have to plan for themselves and strive for more security in life.
05. Summary
Women, don't get lost in love.
No matter how much you love someone, don't get used to him, don't take on everything, and take on all the responsibilities and pressures.
When men are not at home, women should not blindly make excuses for men, and use their bottomless tolerance to encourage men's irresponsibility.
If the man's heart is no longer in this family, the woman should wake up in time and don't expect to exchange her own efforts for the man's change of heart.
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Author: Xia Mo, a cutting-edge emotional tutor, a psychology scholar, a popular emotional writer with more than 1 billion people on the whole network, a happy woman manager, focusing on emotion, sexes, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law for more than ten years.