Wu Zhihong said:
"A person's faith in love is faith in the whole world."
Who still has that confidence today?
We often hear such a sentence, some people are about to say at every turn - "I don't believe in love anymore", but do you believe that it has anything to do with others? You don't believe that what affects you is only your own love, your own emotional life, and the quality of your own life.
Emotions are very private things and have nothing to do with anyone.
Who doesn't want to have a good love?
Most of those who don't get it are just a mentality of "not eating grapes and saying grapes are sour".
Writer Wu Xiaobo once said:
"Every unique good thing is premised on unparalleled diligence. It's either sweat, it's blood, or it's a lot of good times. ”
Not to mention love!
Miyazaki once said:
"Countless moments of needing you, I have chosen to shut up, you do not understand my sudden silence, how can you understand that I do not want to say sad; the details of this thing, I said you do it, it becomes cheap, I said you do not do, I became very cheap! 」 What you reach out for and what you voluntarily give me is not the same, adult feelings, not only like it is enough; you can never grow up, but I can't be insecure forever. ”
If you want to have a beautiful love, if you want to have the courage to believe in love, you can't do without the word "heart".
In marriage and love, in love, these "small emotions" of women are permeated with the ultimate love for you, indicating that she is deeply in love with you, don't understand, don't pretend to be stupid.
01 Can't help but take care of you
Yishu once said:
"If you like a person, you will always feel that he is the stupidest person under the sky, and you have to worry about people everywhere, and for people who don't like him, you often think that he is smart and clever, and we don't have to worry about it at all." 」
When a woman loves a man deeply, she must not help but take care of him, take care of his life, take care of his emotions, and want to do anything for him that she can do. It was as if the lover had become the "little boy" in her heart, and sometimes she would be as attentive and nagging as her mother.
When the relationship between the two enters this stage, the "mask" of each other at the beginning has been removed, and the woman believes that this man is the person who spends her life with her, and wants to be good to him and wants to take care of him.
But this strong love will also bring a feeling of suffocation.
Actors Cecilia Cheung and Eason Chan acted in a movie called "Twelve Nights" in their early years, from hot love to flat, and then from plain to unbearable, and finally helplessly dispersed, which can be called "love horror film".
Obviously, both of them are deeply in love with each other, but why do they regret breaking up?
Everything has a degree, too much is too late, this love, how strong, how suffocating.
In the film, there is a clip that is impressive. After work, the man wanted to have dinner with his colleagues, while the woman had been waiting across the road for a long time, and bought the man a repaired computer and underwear that he had just bought.
As a result, the man said to the woman, "Go home." The woman turned her head angrily and left, and the man asked what was wrong, and the woman said, "Yes, I'm crazy again, okay?" The man said goodbye to his colleague and came to accompany her, but the woman was not discouraged, saying that she did not need to pity her.
The man shouted, "I'm tired, very hard, don't you have this kind of temper all day, okay?" The woman mentioned breaking up, and the man said; "You divide enough!" ”
The woman chased after her and said, "You will never appreciate what I do for you!" The man said incomprehensibly and helplessly: "I didn't ask you to do so many things!" Why do you do so many things? This (pointing to the underwear that the woman just bought for him) I'll buy it, without you buying it for me. I can ask my secretary to pick it up, I can ask my assistant to go, why do you always have to do so many things for me. ”
"Because I hurt you!"
"Hurting a person is not like that."
"I don't understand."
"I don't understand."
"I'm so hard."
"I'm also hard."
"What the hell am I doing wrong? Isn't it true that the more I treat you, the more arrogant you become? You weren't like this before. ”
"You weren't like that before."
"That's because I'm getting better at you!"
"A quarrel is always a man's fault."
How familiar the conversation, how familiar the quarrel, the person who has really loved can understand the pain. I feel that this love is going to crush myself, but saying the word "break up" has a cone of pain.
Break up, or cherish?
As a man, understand! Women take care of you like this, in fact, love you deeply, of course, do not miss!
02 Can't help but coddle
Normal girls will not be spoiled without moving, let alone spoiled when they see people, and will only be spoiled in front of their families and lovers.
Two people who really love each other are together, they don't have to be defensive when they get along, they have no scruples when chatting, they stay together, they don't talk, and they feel very comfortable and at ease.
And women in front of the deeply loved man, willing to remove all the "disguises", unconsciously return to the state of the little girl, just like the psychology of the self of their own "inner child", in the intimate relationship, this "child" will be awakened, how can not be spoiled to you!
I remember that there was a movie called "The Best Life of a Spoiled Woman", which I really don't dare to agree with. I have always believed that women do not have a good life because they will be spoiled, but because of a good life, they have the capital to be spoiled. When you are a child, with the love of your parents, how can you not be spoiled; when you grow up, when you meet a man you love deeply, how can you not be spoiled?
Otherwise, no one loves, who will show it?
You can only do the same thing and humiliate yourself.
When the woman you love will be spoiled in front of you, she must also love you to the extreme.
03 Want to possess your "willfulness" at all times
As a married woman, I have found a phenomenon that after a man gets married, or even after two people have a stable relationship, he wants to return to the state of being single.
What else to say about "men to death are teenagers"!
How many married men are at home in two positions – lying flat looking at their phones and crouching in the toilet to look at their phones!
You can't catch up with it, and everything will be fine!
After a woman falls in love with you, she wants to "possess" you all the time and let you accompany you. In the heart of a woman who loves you deeply, you are much more interesting than the phone, she wants to go out with you, want to eat, watch movies, and chat like before.
When a woman just won't let you look at the phone, that is, let you accompany her, don't take this as willful, the more you think about it, the more angry you are. This "willfulness" is permeated with the ultimate love for you, think about when you first pursued her, didn't you also want to be with her at all times?
Give the phone and entertainment time, give it to the lover, no loss.
Xiaojiao Heart Language:
In the movie "Smell the Fragrance of women", there is such a classic line:
"I think a woman hugged me, I buried it in her hair and smelled it, and the next day I woke up and she was still with me."
When you have a woman who loves you so much, cherish it, cherish her care, her pampering, her willfulness, the hand of the son and the son with the old, how good.