Text: Xi Xihuan
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As the old saying goes, a man lives a face, a tree lives a skin. People live in this world, it is indispensable to deal with people, so what kind of person we are in each person's heart, we can not decide.
Some people are very concerned about the outside world's opinion of themselves, and hope that everyone likes themselves, but in fact, no one can do this, even if this person is flawless and excellent, there will still be people who do not like him.
None of us want to be hated, especially when we are hated, we don't know it yet, and we face the disgust of others with a warm heart, and when we finally know the truth, we feel both embarrassed and regretful.
In fact, being hated does not mean that we are not good enough, it may just not meet the expectations of others, as long as we do it properly, even if we are not liked, it does not matter, as long as it does not hurt others, we do not have to think too much.
However, if a person is hated by too many people without knowing it, it still means that the person himself has a big problem.
And people who are hated but do not know it often have these characteristics, if there is you, it is too late to correct it in time.
01 Always likes to discuss other people's private affairs
The person who is really on the table will never say right or wrong behind his back, because you neither know what the person has experienced personally, nor have you put yourself in the shoes of the environment he has experienced, so there is really no way to make up your mind.
But some people don't think so, they will arbitrarily evaluate other people's private affairs, even if this matter is obviously not related to him, they will be used by him to gossip, and even add a few very personal emotional views at the end.
Such a person can neither keep secrets nor know how to respect others, and the difficulties and bitterness experienced by others may become idle talking points here, and he will disdain, despise, and even ridicule.
But he did not think about what the person he was talking about was thinking in his heart, he was already in the trough of life, he did not get help, he did not say it, and he had to be commented on by people who did not know the details.
Such people are actually very annoying, but they themselves do not feel so, but feel that they are well-informed, always able to know a lot of other people's private affairs, and publicizing these private affairs will make them feel a sense of accomplishment.
Whether in the family, in the workplace, or in any kind of social relationship, no one wants to deal with such a person, people will only hate such a person.
Because no one wants their private affairs to be said and evaluated by a person who has nothing to do with it, everyone has unspeakable secrets, and everyone needs to heal their own wounds, so sometimes, when people are at a low point, what they need most is silent respect and understanding.
When we meet such a person in the social arena, it is easy not to reveal our hearts in front of him, because you do not know when your secret has become the object of his discussion.
02 Arrogance
Pride makes people regress, and modesty makes people progress. This sentence is never outdated, it does not matter how good a person is, the most important thing is what his mentality is.
If a person is always arrogant and looks down on the people around him, then even if he is excellent, he will not be liked.
There was once a colleague who was a graduate student from a key college, and his ability in the professional field was very strong, but there was no one in sight.
When he first entered the company, he solved some difficult problems and got the attention of the leader, which was even more indispensable, and sometimes the work that colleagues needed to cooperate with each other to complete was always stuck when he came here.
He either dislikes his colleague's low education, or speaks to his colleagues in a contemptuous tone, saying that colleagues have dragged his hind legs, but in fact, he also has deficiencies, such as no emotional intelligence in negotiating with people, and he has messed up several lists, but colleagues in the same group have never blamed him.
The popularity of this colleague in the company naturally need not be said, and no one is willing to cooperate or deal with him, even if some problems he knows he can solve, he is not willing to ask him.
But he feels good about himself, never aware that he is hated, but always laughs at others with a sense of superiority, and even if he finds someone alienating him, he will say that the other party is afraid to talk to him because of his inferiority.
It can only be said that such a person, even if he is capable, will not stand too high, because his emotional intelligence and attitude towards the world have created the height of his life.
People must understand that even if you are excellent, there will always be people who are better than you, even if others are inferior to you in your field of expertise, there will always be one aspect that surpasses you, no one is perfect, and no one is entitled to laugh at anyone.
Only by maintaining a humble attitude can a person make himself more progressive, and he will win the respect of more people, although it is not his fault to be hated, but if many people hate themselves, it is necessary to reflect.
03 Like to be jealous of others
What kind of mentality do you feel when you face someone else who is better off than you, or who has something you always wanted but didn't get? Envy or jealousy?
Most good people will envy and at the same time reflect on why they can't have more like others, so that they can put in more effort to improve themselves and let themselves have everything they want.
But there are some people who don't think that way, they will be jealous of others, jealous of others having everything they want but don't get.
These people are usually not very disciplined, even if they know that they can change the status quo through hard work, but they are not willing to pay hard work, and always want to take shortcuts to achieve the success they want.
Not reflecting on himself, not wanting to work hard, but being blind and jealous of the success of others, such a person will actually not be welcomed and liked anywhere, because the compliments he says are yin and yang, the blessings sent are not sincere, and his hypocrisy is to hide his inner inferiority and jealousy.
When we are successful, when our friends or relatives around us sincerely bless us, in fact, we can feel it in our hearts, and only those who sincerely bless us sincerely hope that we will get better and better.
In the face of a jealous person, all we need to do is stay away, not argue with him, prove what to show him, because your excellence never needs to be proven to anyone.
Jealousy can make a person look beyond recognition, disgusting but unaware, because all his mind is focused on what others get, not what he can get through his own efforts.
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