The first time Yaohui met Xiuhe, she was only 19 years old.
Yaohui rode his bicycle to the fields for a ride. He saw a girl flying a kite there, and Yaohui thought the girl was familiar, so he led the girl to an open green field.
Yaohui helped the girl fly the kite. A few days later, Yaohui married his third aunt on behalf of his eldest brother, and when he involuntarily lifted the corner of the hijab, he found that it was the girl who flew the kite before. He didn't bat an eyelid, threw the bride away and left.
In fact, in the days that followed, Yaohui did not hurt Xiuhe a lot, and he had many opportunities to take Xiuhe away and fly high, but he gave up.
He once gave Xiuhe unlimited hope and imagination, and ruthlessly abandoned her. In my opinion, Yaohui has never loved Xiuhe, but whenever it touches the interests of men, women will be ruthlessly sacrificed.
Love is just a whitewash of a man's vested interests. Once Xiuhe contradicts his own interests, Yaohui will not hesitate to abandon Xiuhe.
1. Flee with Xiuhe for the first time, which ends in failure
When Yaohui returned to the countryside, he offered to let Xiuhe study because he believed: "She should know her own dignity, have her own thoughts, and let her be an aunt and wife has seriously traumatized her self-esteem." ”
The eldest lady agreed, but only let Yaohui teach Xiuhe mathematics, and Yaohui took advantage of the absence of the eldest wife to go over and ask Xiuhe: "Are you willing to live a lifetime with a man as old as your father?" Xiuhe? ”
Xiuhe did not care, but Yaohui gave Xiuhe a book, this book is called "Awakening", the eldest wife's niece Wanqing secretly brought Xiuhe a book, she knows Xiuhe literacy.
As a result, Xiuhe also began to be influenced by Wanqing's words, and involuntarily began to believe everything said in the book.
Wan Qing proposes to let Yaohui help Xiuhe escape from this home and find her true happiness. Yaohui, who had a new idea, agreed, and at this time, the news came that the old man was going to return to the countryside from the city and marry Xiuhe.
Yaohui called Wanqing over and quietly talked about their plan of action.
The next morning, Yaohui carried Xiuhe on a bicycle, and along the way told her: "You should get out of here and go to freedom and happiness." “
Xiuhe nodded sensibly, looking in the direction the train was about to go, that was her hope, her savior.
When the train slowly drove into the station, Yaohui looked around for his girlfriend Xianya, but in the panic, he found the shadow of his big brother, and his heart began to feel uneasy.
Xiuhe is the third wife of the eldest brother but ran out with herself, and is going to escape, which is against the family rules, the eldest brother will definitely be unhappy, Xiuhe will not only fail to go this time, but also waiting for her will be a more cruel fate.
In fact, Yaohui fell in love with Xiuhe at first sight, and later, when he learned that Xiuhe was going to marry his eldest brother and be the third aunt, his mood was very distorted.
On the one hand, he likes Xiuhe very much and has a good feeling for Xiuhe, on the other hand, he also knows from Xiuhe's words and deeds that Xiuhe is not a thoughtless woman, and her future should be decided by herself.
Therefore, he will plan everything with Wanqing and let Xiuhe leave the Rong family to find his own happiness. However, when he took Xiuhe to the train station, the eldest brother's return made Yaohui panic.
To put it bluntly, Yaohui's love for Xiuhe at this time was not deep, so once the eldest brother asked, he would definitely put away the theory of the new youth.
Because Yaohui was brought up by the eldest brother since he was a child, the eldest brother is like a father-like existence to him, and he is also a big parent, although Yaohui has the idea of breaking the feudalism and pursuing freedom in his bones, but once he has to face the opposition with the eldest brother, he is afraid.
After that, the eldest brother liked Xiuhe more and more, and Yaohui felt less guilty in his heart, because he felt that Xiuhe would not be like the eldest sister-in-law, and he would not get the love of the eldest brother for a lifetime, and live a very painful life.
So with this thought, he felt less guilty about not being able to save Xiuhe, and he still lived his own life and talked about his love.
2. Yaohui is torn between his girlfriend and Xiuhe
Xianya is the girlfriend of Yaohui Qingmei Zhuma, the two families are right, and the parents of the two sides have long had the idea of marriage.
In the years of getting along, Xianya has a deep-rooted love for Yaohui and is difficult to extricate herself, until she finds out that Yaohui quarrels with herself for Xiuhe. She realized the importance of the matter, she had an argument with Yaohui, and left in a negative mood.
A few days later, Yaohui fell ill, Xianya put down her self-esteem, took the initiative to visit Yaohui, Yaohui was depressed because of Xiuhe's matter, and saw the upright and gentle Xianya, he couldn't help but propose to Xianya, saying that after marriage, the two people could go where they wanted to go, and Xianya happily agreed.
Yaohui felt that Xiuhe's affairs were put aside, and he no longer had the heart to care, because the eldest brother really liked Xiuhe, and he would never do anything that made the eldest brother sad, even if the other party was Xiuhe.
After that, after Yaohui was in the same room with Xiuhe, he felt more and more that Xiuhe's pink cheeks always appeared in front of his eyes and did not leave for a long time.
Rong Yaohua finally found that the person Xiuhe liked was not himself, he was very depressed, he was upset that he was too old, and Xiuhe was not a good match, but he did not want to admit this, so he found Yaohui, "Yaohui, I never thought that this girl would have such a big impact on me, I have never been so much to any woman, Yaohui, from childhood to adulthood, I have never begged you, you must help me this time, tomorrow be my best man." ”
Yaohui agreed, but also softened, he constantly comforted himself, thinking that Xiuhe could get the love of the eldest brother and would be happy, so he once again let go and gave Xiuhe to the eldest brother.
After a while, Xiuhe sent out the news of the pregnancy, which made Yaohui completely dead, and he threw himself into a sweet love affair with Xianya, looking forward to imagining the future.
In the days that followed, Yaohui and Xianya decided to get engaged, and everyone blessed them, but when he left the Rong family and took the train back to the city with Xianya, he found that he had lost the purse that Xiuhe had given him, and he completely ignored Xianya and went back to find the purse.
At this time, Xianya found that Yaohui had different hearts, she perceived that Yaohui's feelings for Xiuhe were very unusual with female sensitivity, and in several temptations, she finally got the result, that is, this marriage must be postponed, and she made a difficult decision.
Yaohui swayed left and right between Xiuhe and Xianya, he did not have the courage to personally rescue Xiuhe from the predicament, ignored the eldest brother and his family, took Xiuhe away and flew high, nor did he have the courage to hurt Xianya and admit that he had Xiuhe in his heart.
3. Yaohui has "abandoned" Xiuhe countless times, even if he knows that Xiuhe is pregnant with his child
Xianya went on vacation outside the province, and Yaohui watched Xiuhe arrive in the city, and he avoided suspicion, so he enjoyed his talents at work.
Glory Hua is also a smart person, under the telling of others, he once again discovered that xiuhe and Yaohui have a different relationship, and when he confronted Yaohui face to face, he was angry and went to the hospital.
Yao Hui was a cowardly and soft-hearted person, as soon as he saw the strong big brother, he was angry with himself, he felt guilty, he had long forgotten his promise to Xiuhe, plus he received a letter from Xianya.
He was touched by the words in the letter, and he had an epiphany that he had hurt Xianya and could not save Xiuhe, and that his cowardice and uneasiness had taken over his heart.
Thinking of the conversation that the eldest brother had with him, saying that he would protect the family and protect the reputation of his younger brother, Yaohui compromised again, and his love for Xiuhe would not let him leave the eldest brother and leave everything behind.
Xianya's unreserved love for him made him feel that he had a responsibility to marry Xianya, so he said to the eldest brother, "Big brother, I have decided to marry Xianya."
"Good, good, Yaohui, thank you!" Rong Yaohua looked at his brother, who had been speechless for a long time, he swallowed hard, and the brothers' eyes were filled with tears, and they hugged each other tightly.
In this way, Yaohui left Xiuhe again, and Xiuhe returned to the countryside and was diagnosed by Langzhong as pregnant with a child.
Driven by motherhood, Xiuhe fell into a kind of happiness, she deeply knew that she was pregnant with a child, she could never walk into The arms of Yaohui, so she did not have any resentment towards Yaohui, and only felt sorry for Yaohui.
After making a decision, Yaohui also wrote back to Xianya, and he warned himself to never forget Xiuhe, forget everything that happened in the past, and cherish the days with Xianya.
This is Yaohui's character, with the passion of a new youth, but lacking courage, once he touches the core interests of the family, he will be soft-hearted and automatically give up Xiuhe.
There is a saying that goes like this: there is only true love, truly loving someone, no matter how long, no matter what they are, they will choose each other and love each other.
Yaohui thinks that he loves Xiuhe deeply, but at every critical moment, he will forget his vows to Xiuhe, which is human nature and the inferiority of men.
As for Xiuhe, there is only Yaohui in her heart, and she thinks that all hope comes from Yaohui, and ignores the meaning of self.
So every time Yaohui approached, she gladly accepted, even if Yaohui abandoned her at will, she did not have any complaints, only blindly lamented that her life was not good.
In the end, Xiuhe's personality is very similar to Yaohui's, with a shallow self-consciousness awakening in her bones, longing for freedom, longing for happiness, but whenever she needs to overcome many difficulties, she withdraws.
The kindness and cowardice in her bones make her lack the courage to take the initiative to break the barriers of fate, on the one hand, she misses the kindness of the old lady and is unwilling to break the beautiful dreams they project on herself, on the other hand, she longs from the bottom of her heart that she can have an independent consciousness and love her husband completely.
She blindly bet all her life on Yaohui and placed high hopes on him, but when Yaohui retreated, she did not resist, so she was "abandoned" by Yaohui again and again, and she lost her active consciousness, so her tragedy is traceable.
One of her favorite books, "Awakening", gave her unlimited vision and courage for a better future, but it could never change her character weaknesses that went deep into the bone marrow.
Therefore, until the end, she also stubbornly wanted to give birth to the child and complete the retribution to the wife and grandfather.
And when she pleaded with her wife before she died, it was her epiphany to see everything clearly, and she wanted to leave the Rong family and live the life she wanted.
However, in the Rong family compound that bound her thoughts, she died in childbirth, and yaohui, the lover who had sworn to take her to break free from the feudal marriage barriers, held a lively wedding with Xianya.
Write at the end:
I never thought that Yaohui loved Xiuhe deeply, he had said love to Xiuhe, and he had also said love to Xianya. The word love, uttered in his mouth, became blasphemous.
He obviously has a fiancée, but he still has feelings for the pure and beautiful Xiuhe, and when he does not assess whether he can bear this love, he lets a 19-year-old girl have the best wishes, but when she is full of courage and wants to escape, he ruthlessly shatters this illusion.
In the final analysis, Yaohui did not love Xiuhe as much as he imagined, he was distressed, pitiful, and liked Xiuhe, but definitely not love.
I think YaoHui is very much like the pastor in "The Red Letter", who would rather give up love than give up his vested interests. To put it bluntly, he is an exquisite egoist, and Yaohui and the priest are simply the same kind of people.
I have always believed that the tragedy of Xiuhe is that she has invested too many fantasies in love, and has not started from reality, understanding the meaning of self, and confusing the correct meaning of awakening.
Miyazaki said: "Don't rely on a person easily, it will become your habit, when the separation comes, you lose not a certain person, but the pillar of your spirit." Whenever and wherever you are, learn to walk independently, it will make you walk more calmly. ”
Therefore, love is not the whole of life, everyone has their own mission, no matter what stage of life, as long as they have not fallen, they must continue to move forward.