My daughter-in-law earns 500,000 yuan a year ago and bought a house for me to retire half a year ago. I was too lonely to live alone, so I called my daughter's family to come and live together. My daughter-in-law firmly disagreed, and I scolded her angrily, and I wanted my son to divorce her. My daughter-in-law made a decision in anger, and I regret it now!
I am Aunt Hao, 63 years old this year, I have been married to my wife for 40 years, and the relationship between the two has always been very good. We have a son and a daughter, a 39-year-old daughter, a restaurant waiter, a cook, and both work in a restaurant, but the salary is not high.
My son, 36, is a product manager, has a busy job, and travels a lot. My daughter-in-law is a designer, has a high income, is a good person, and is very good to me and my wife, but her relationship with my daughter is very poor.
Before the daughter-in-law had to go to work after giving birth to the child and taking maternity leave, she was not at ease to leave the child to the nanny to take care of, so she called and asked me if I could come over and help her take the child? Of course, I was happy to hear it, so I came with my wife.
My son and daughter-in-law are very busy at work, and my wife and I take care of all the housework in the family in addition to taking care of the children. Daughters-in-law often buy us clothes and shoes, and can also tolerate the living habits and lifestyles of our elderly, so there is no big contradiction in living together.
But the daughter always said that the daughter-in-law was lazy, did not share any housework, and worried that my wife and I were too hard. Once I was suddenly dizzy when I got up after washing clothes in the bathroom, accidentally slipped, and took to the hospital for examination the doctor said that my femur was broken and that I had high blood pressure.
My daughter thought that my hospitalization was the responsibility of my daughter-in-law, and she had a big fight with her daughter-in-law, and the two of them formed a knot.
After being discharged from the hospital, my daughter resolutely disagreed with me and my wife to help my son and daughter-in-law again, and let us go back to our hometown for the elderly. My son and daughter-in-law did not want to go because of this matter, and also hoped that we would go back to our hometown to enjoy the blessings, saying that the child was about to go to primary school, and they decided to hire a nanny to help.
In this way, my wife and I went back to my hometown, although the life was easy, but it was boring, and I could not see my little grandson, and I especially missed the days of helping in my son's house.
Unexpectedly, a few years later, my wife suddenly died of a heart attack, and I suddenly became a lonely person. I told my son that I wanted to go to his house to live with them, but my daughter-in-law did not agree, saying that she was worried that my sister-in-law was gossiping again.
Daughter-in-law said: Mom, if you want to come here to live, I can buy a house near my house for you to live in, so that the eldest sister-in-law will not say me, we are also convenient to come and go, do you see the line? I think this is also good, happy to say yes!
My daughter-in-law was promoted and raised last year, and her annual salary rose to 500,000, which is much higher than my son's income, and the family's economic power is in her hands, and the purchase of a house is also handled by the daughter-in-law.
My daughter-in-law bought a hardcover house of more than 120 square meters in a new building near their community, and after half a year of ventilation and smell, I moved in. The garden and equipment in the neighborhood are good and I go to the garden every night to do square dancing.
But I was the only one living in such a big house, and there was no one to talk to at home, and I felt particularly lonely, so I thought of my daughter. My daughter's family of four is still crammed into the 80-square-meter old staircase, and I called them to ask their family to move in with me. The daughters and grandchildren were overjoyed, and soon they moved in.
I didn't expect that last week my daughter-in-law came to see me with her grandson, and when she learned that her daughter's family lived here, she was furious and had to move out, saying that this house was hers and that her daughter was not eligible to live in her house.
My daughter did not show weakness and said that my brother also had a share in this house, and wanted us to leave unless my brother also spoke!
Seeing that the two quarreled and the son-in-law was not there, an old woman of mine took a lot of effort to persuade them to stop. I said a lot of good things to my daughter-in-law, hoping that she could understand her sister-in-law's difficulty and understand my hard heart!
But the daughter-in-law just didn't agree, I think she is too impersonal, I was a mother-in-law almost knelt down and begged her, she also did not agree. I think my daughter is right, my son also has a share in this house, why must she agree?
I scolded my daughter-in-law and said if you are so selfish again, I will let my son divorce you!
The daughter-in-law burst into tears in an instant, and she said: Mom, I didn't expect you to say such a thing! I've always treated you like a mother, and you never treated me like a daughter! After saying that, she left.
When I heard my daughter-in-law say this, I felt bad in my heart, but I couldn't let my daughter be wronged, and wasn't that what parents were like?
Unexpectedly, the next day my son came to me and told me to let me move back to my hometown, this house daughter-in-law will sell it later, if I don't leave, my daughter-in-law will divorce him, and even the divorce agreement is written!
I was a real blow to the head! I didn't expect my daughter-in-law to be so cruel! It seems that this time she made up her mind to "prefer to be crushed by jade rather than for waquan".
I really regret it now, I asked my daughter-in-law to apologize but she ignored me. But I'm a mother-in-law who has done this, what else does she want? Everyone says that the daughter-in-law here is too much?
@Entertainment: Hello auntie, after reading your description, I think you have several places where the practice is really inappropriate.
First, the daughter-in-law is filial to you and bought a house for you to retire, but you did not consult with her and called your daughter's family to come and live with you, which will feel that you have not respected her in your daughter-in-law's view;
Second, you know that your daughter-in-law and daughter have had an unpleasant quarrel, and you let your daughter live in your daughter-in-law's house, and even when the problem occurs again, you threaten to make your son divorce your daughter-in-law and force your daughter-in-law to submit, which is like inserting a knife in your daughter-in-law's chest, which is really excessive;
Third, you can understand that your daughter is distressed, but understand that now your daughter has a daughter's small home, and your son has a son's small home, and you want a bowl of water to level out, so that they can live their own lives. To understand that children and grandchildren have their own children and grandchildren, you really don't have to interfere too much.
From your description, it can be seen that your daughter-in-law is filial to her in-laws and tolerant of her in-laws, and such a good daughter-in-law is really rare! Think about what your daughter has done for you? What has your daughter-in-law done for you? A good daughter-in-law is not easy to find, you have to cherish it!
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