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In the past, because marriages were arranged by parents, it was generally believed that marriage was a man and a woman partnering to live a life, and then complete the task of succession. With the development of the times, people began to idealize marriage, thinking that it should be the result of free love. In the Marriage Law, it is also clearly stipulated that arranged, bought and sold marriages and other acts that interfere with the freedom of marriage are also clearly prohibited.
But some people say that marriage is a transaction in a sense, but the transaction is mixed with some feelings. It is even said that not only marriage, but any other relationship can be said to be a transaction of complementary resources. These statements may sound contrary to the true meaning of marriage and love, but in real life, transactions are indeed everywhere, and marriage is inevitably used as a transaction.
Xiaolong, a 33-year-old man who lives in Changzhi City, just married his wife more than a month ago and established a marriage relationship, his wife was locked in her mother's house and could not come out. The reason is that the father-in-law believes that the marriage between the two families is originally a transaction, and if the Xiaolong family does not meet his requirements, he will naturally break up their marriage.
After Xiaolong and his wife Xian Xian were introduced to each other, they spent more than half a year together, and then they were licensed to hold a wedding and married as a legal couple. On the 4th day of marriage, someone from the wife's mother-in-law said that her father-in-law was sick and needed to go back to take care of her for a few days, and then took her back to her mother's house.
Several days passed, and xiaolong saw that his wife had not yet returned and the phone could not be called, so he went to his father-in-law's house to visit his wife, only to find that his wife was locked up by his father-in-law. It turned out that the father-in-law was not sick at all, but just found an excuse to take his wife back, the purpose was to prevent them from continuing to live together.
A small couple who have just finished marriage will be inexplicably separated like this, and it is difficult for anyone to accept it. However, in the face of his father-in-law's insistence, Xiaolong, who was deeply helpless, had to invite the mediator to the door together, hoping to successfully take his wife home.
As soon as everyone entered the door, they saw Xiaolong's wife walking freely in the courtyard. When asked why his father-in-law, Master Wu, did not let his daughter and son-in-law go home, he said that his daughter did not have enough to eat at her son-in-law's house and could not let her go back.
According to Master Wu, when the daughter was at home, she had to eat two steamed buns every morning, but only one steamed bun was eaten at the son-in-law's house. When the mediator tried to talk to his daughter, he stopped her and immediately pushed her into the house and locked the door.
Then, Master Wu explained that her daughter's brain was a bit problematic, sometimes very awake, sometimes her memory was impaired, and she was reluctant to speak. And the daughter grew up, in order to prevent her from running around, as long as they went out, they would lock her in the house.
Everyone also said that they could understand Master Wu's statement, but since Xian Xian had now married Xiaolong, she was not only the daughter of the martial family, but also the wife of Xiaolong. Even if she does not have enough to eat at her in-laws' house, as a mother-in-law, she should first communicate well with her son-in-law, and this lock is not only difficult to solve the problem, but also affects the happiness of her daughter. But no matter what everyone said, Master Wu was unwilling to let his daughter out again.
As for the problems his father-in-law said, Xiaolong also explained that their family steamed a large steamed bun that three or four people could not eat, and there was milk and instant noodles, and the wife could not have eaten enough. Just the next day after the marriage, his wife also dragged his mother out to buy a pound of fritters and a bowl of tofu brain, so that his wife could eat enough alone.
Listening to the son-in-law's words, Master Wu turned his head and said that more than a month ago, because the weather was still very hot, the clothes xian xian was wearing when he was ready to get married were short sleeves, but he did not expect that it would rain on the wedding day, and the weather suddenly turned cold. He asked his son-in-law to buy some long-sleeved clothes for his daughter, but the son-in-law did not do it, so he had to buy clothes for his daughter himself.
Xiaolong took his father-in-law's words and said: Since I can marry her home as a wife, can I not give her clothes to wear? I just can't buy all my clothes at once.
The mediator also advised Master Wu that since he could get the dowry of 66,000 yuan, he would not be stingy with a steamed bun, and he would certainly be able to afford to buy a few clothes, so that he could rest assured that he would hand over his daughter to his son-in-law and bring him back to live a good life, but Master Wu was still unmoved.
Seeing that his father-in-law had a tough attitude and that even the mediator could not persuade him, Xiaolong couldn't help but say: All this is just an excuse for my father-in-law, he just wants to marry my mother, but my mother does not agree, so he locked up his daughter and did not let her come home with me.
Xiao Long's words made people very surprised, there are only parents in this world who want to do their best to make their children happy, who will use their children's marriage as a chip to exchange for their own marriage parents? Besides, now is the era of marriage and love freedom, since one party does not agree, the other party should dispel that kind of thinking. How could this martial master ruin his daughter's happiness because his marriage was not successful?
Master Wu was a cheerful person, and when he heard his son-in-law mention that he was going to marry his mother, Sister Hao, he did not shy away from admitting that this was indeed the case. He also stressed that more than half a year ago, when Hao's eldest sister entrusted a matchmaker to come over and wanted to match the affairs of the two children, she specifically promised him that when the two children got married, the two of them would also live together, and Xiaolong was also present at the time.
Master Wu also said that at that time, more than five families came to tell their daughters about the media, and the Xiaolong family had the worst conditions, and it was because of The promise of Hao's elder sister that they agreed to marry their daughter to Xiaolong. He felt that when the two families were combined, they would be able to take better care of their daughters.
As for his father-in-law's statement, Xiaolong said that he was not present at all, and he did not know what was going on. Sister Hao also denied it one after another, saying that Master Wu did offer to live with her, but she did not agree.
Because 10 years ago, Hao Dajie looked for a man. After 3 years of remarriage, the man hated her son and drove them out. Since that time she was hurt, she never wanted to look for a wife again. What's more, Master Wu still lived in the same village as the man, and she felt that if she really lived together, she would definitely attract people's jokes.
Hao Dajie also stressed that she and Master Wu's wife can be regarded as distant relatives. When the two families were married, Master Wu's wife just fell seriously ill and did not pass away, and she took her hand and said, "I will be relieved to hand over my daughter to you." Therefore, she could not have agreed to the marriage with Master Wu under that circumstances.
But Master Wu said that he had explained to Sister Hao behind his wife's back, because his wife was about to die of cancer, and he hoped that after his daughter and Xiaolong got married, they would move in with Sister Hao. After a few years of living and having a daughter, they can take their daughter and move back together. At that time, Sister Hao also agreed, and specifically told him not to let others know about this matter, so he always kept it in his heart.
Soon after the two families were betrothed, Master Wu's wife died. He thought in his heart that he was about to become a family with Sister Hao, so when he was preparing for the marriage of the two children at Sister Hao's house, he spared no effort to help them, and at the same time, he also checked with Sister Hao again about the things they would live together in the future.
After getting The promise of Sister Hao, Master Wu not only helped her daughter and son-in-law clean up the wedding room at her home, but also renovated her own home. And specially prepared two rooms, one for the daughter and son-in-law to live in, one for themselves and Hao Dajie to live.
Unexpectedly, the daughter and son-in-law had been married for 3 days, and Sister Hao had no intention of moving over to live together, and Master Wu felt that he had been deceived. He was angry and found an excuse to pick her up on the 4th day after his daughter got married.
But Sister Hao always said that it had always been Master Wu's request, and she had never given any promises. The mediator had to dial the matchmaker's phone to understand the situation, and the matchmaker said: During the blind date, Master Wu did propose things that he wanted to live with Sister Hao, but Neither Mother and Son Xiaolong agreed.
It seems that this martial master has been wishful thinking about marrying Sister Hao home, and even uses his daughter's marriage as a bargaining chip. When the opposite happened, he disregarded his daughter's happiness and locked her in the house to blackmail the other party. As everyone knows, his behavior of interfering with the marriage freedom of others is likely to be suspected of violating the law.
The mediator reminded Master Wu that his daughter and son-in-law were a legal couple with a license, and that his forcible separation of them was illegal. At the same time, I hope that he can understand that people are not willing to live with you, that is the right of others, and you cannot treat marriage as a transaction.
But Master Wu said with a straight face: We are originally a deal, if she did not promise to live with me, I would not let my daughter marry his son. They are cheating on marriage, I will not admit it.
Master Wu's paranoid concept makes the mediator not know what to say for a while, and who is a father who plays his daughter's marriage for his own selfish desires! In desperation, the mediator had to temporarily stop the topic, and then persuaded Master Wu to let Xiaolong enter the house to meet his wife Xian Xian.
As soon as the young couple met, Xian Xian showed an expression that was both shy and excited. When asked if her husband and mother-in-law treated her well, she said yes. When asked if she wanted to go home with her husband, she quickly and happily began to pack her clothes, but was stopped by master wu. As a result, everyone was driven out of the house by Master Wu, and his daughter was locked up again by him.
Faced with the uninhabited master wu, the mediator dialed his son's phone. However, the other party said that he could understand the father's feelings of worrying that his daughter would not have enough to eat at the in-laws' house and be wronged, and he also agreed that the Xiaolong family would move in, so that at least the father could see his daughter.
After the mediator hung up the phone, he thought of a compromise. Since Master Wu could not rest assured of his daughter, he let his daughter and son-in-law move in together and let Sister Hao live alone in his own home. But Master Wu said: This is contrary to the original!
As soon as Master Wu's words came out, he completely exposed his thoughts. He did not let his daughter and son-in-law go home, not because he said that he did not trust his daughter, but because he determined that his daughter's marriage was bound to his own marriage. To put it bluntly, he just wants to marry Sister Hao, and if he can't do it, he will regret the marriage and take his daughter back. And he also firmly believes that his daughter has scattered this family and is not afraid of not finding the next home.
In desperation, the mediator took Xiaolong to the village committee. But the village leader said that they did not know what was said between Master Wu and Sister Hao, only that Master Wu never let his daughter go out.
When the village leader followed the mediator to Master Wu's house and prepared to do ideological work for him again, he found that he had left the house with his daughter in a tricycle. It seems that he has already made up his mind that if he can't marry Sister Hao, he will break up the marriage of his daughter and son-in-law, so what should Xiaolong do next?
At this time, Xiaolong said that he had just received a call from the court, saying that his father-in-law had gone to the court to sue him. However, because the reason given by the father-in-law was not to let his daughter have enough to eat, the court would not file a case, but would adopt pre-litigation mediation. As for the day on which mediation will take place, it has not yet been decided.
Xiaolong said that since his father-in-law was really reluctant to communicate face-to-face and had already sued the court, he would not come to his wife again. In order to avoid complications, he intends to wait at home for notice of pre-litigation mediation in court.
Looking at the whole thing, I first felt that this martial master's approach was very inappropriate. Although it is not easy for him to raise his daughter, he has crossed the moral bottom line of fatherhood by treating her marriage as a transaction.
When his daughter's marriage has become a fact, he even used his daughter's happiness as a chip to blackmail the other party in order to meet his own needs, which shows that he is an extremely selfish father.
Under normal circumstances, when we learned that our wife's time was short, it must be the most painful period, and we didn't have the heart to think about anything else except to accompany the other party through the last time.
However, when his wife's life was in danger, Master Wu was anxious to make a private decision with Sister Hao for the second half of his life, and this practice and idea were actually a betrayal for his wife. And such a man is not worthy of a woman's lifelong trust.
However, to get the marriage of her children into this situation, Sister Hao also has a certain responsibility. Although she repeatedly said that she did not agree to Master Wu's request, she probably did not completely refuse.
Because when we face the problem, if we choose to be silent and do not answer, or do not answer positively in terms of left and right, it is easy to make the other party have an illusion, and even think that you are acquiescing.
Master Wu has always had ideas about Sister Hao, and both sides are cleaning up new houses, and Sister Hao cannot be unaware of these things. Master Wu's ultimate disappointment should be caused by Sister Hao's ambiguous attitude. If from the very beginning, she had seriously and seriously spoken clearly to Master Wu, there would have been no subsequent contradictions.
However, according to Master Wu's tough attitude, there is also a possibility that sister Hao deliberately gave Master Wu a certain hint in order to let her son marry Master Wu's daughter smoothly, or half pushed his request, creating a relatively large hope for him. Therefore, after Master Wu was disappointed, he would justifiably say that the son-in-law's family was cheating on marriage.
If there is a deliberate deception, Master Wu's final approach may not be to marry Sister Hao, but to block his breath in his heart, and then form a concept: Since you have deceived me, then I must also repent and bring my daughter back to marry someone else.
Hu Jianyun once said: The same thing, if you want to open it, it is heaven, and if you don't want to open it, it is hell. Most of people's troubles come from selfishness and greed, from jealousy and comparison, from their own harsh demands on themselves. Whether a person is happy or not is not what he has, but how he perceives what he has.
The same thing, if you imagine it from a different perspective, will be handled in different ways, and there will be different results. And Master Wu always looked at his daughter's marriage from his own perspective, which led him to make a series of extreme moves.
If he can think from his daughter's point of view, he will feel that her daughter has finally found her own happiness, which is a fortunate thing. Although he was not able to live with Sister Hao, he at least became a relative, and as long as they help each other to live in the future, they can also live happily.
In the end, I hope that the two families can communicate well in the court's pre-litigation mediation, and Hao Dajie expressed her rejection clearly, and at the same time expressed her apologies for making Master Wu have an illusion; Master Wu also thought more about the happiness of her daughter, let go of the obsession in her heart, and let the little couple live a normal married life as soon as possible. After both sides show sincerity, maybe one day they will truly realize the dream of two families.
What do you think about such a marriage agreement, about master Wu's extreme behavior?
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