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Walters wrote in his book Marriage is Designed: If most men regard career as the most important part of their lives, then almost all women will make love their whole. Women can have a career without scenery, but women cannot lack a happy marriage.
Because love, marriage and family are related to a woman's happiness and destiny for a lifetime, women will pay wholeheartedly for it. But marriage needs both husbands and wives to work together, if the husband encountered does not have a different heart, even if the woman tries her best, it is difficult to make the marriage happy, and the family is equally difficult to stabilize
Jiajia, who lives in Taiyuan City, works as an online salesman and earns two or three million in a few years. When she married her husband Qiang qiang 3 years ago, her in-laws said that they would give them two properties, but the result was that she bought a house and paid more than 1 million yuan for the decoration fee.
After marriage, Jiajia spent money to buy all the necessities for the family and gave her husband a new car. All the expenses after the birth of her son, as well as the family's expenses, were her expenses, including the clothes her husband wore, the mobile phone in his hand and the money she used when he went out to eat and drink.
After more than 3 years of marriage, Jiajia spent more than 2 million yuan without reservation. Originally, I thought that she was so dedicated to the family, and her husband, who earned less money, would be particularly fond of her, but in exchange for her husband's indifference and avoidance, he couldn't even go home.
According to Jiajia, two months ago, at 7 o'clock one night, she sent a video to her husband saying that her son missed him and asked him to come home early. Obviously promised to be good, but it turned out to be more than 9 o'clock, and her husband was still playing with friends, so she said a few words to her husband angrily on the phone. Unexpectedly, her husband ignored her when he returned home, and he also had a cold war for 20 consecutive days.
Jiajia felt that her husband took the money she had worked hard to earn and lived a free and elegant life outside, not only did she not have a sense of gratitude, but she also had a cold attitude towards her because she complained about him a few words, which made her feel very sad, so she gambled and sent the child back to her in-laws' house, and turned her head back to her mother's house.
After living in her mother's house for a month, her husband still ignored her and had no intention of taking her home. In desperation, she went home accompanied by her mother, but found that the door lock code at home had been changed by her husband, and the key was also in her husband's hand. There was no way, she had to follow her mother back to her mother's house.
But for the next month, her husband not only ignored her, but also avoided her at all times. So, she asked reporters to help find her husband, hoping to solve the problems between husband and wife.
After the reporter followed Jiajia and her mother to Jiajia's in-laws' house, she saw Jiajia's mother-in-law and Jiajia's children outside the door. Taking advantage of the gap between Jiajia and the child, the mother-in-law walked into the house without a word, and then locked the door.
The mother-in-law's attitude is obviously to turn Jiajia away, and then everyone is not welcomed. No matter how the reporter knocked on the door or communicated with her across the door, she would not open the door, did not respond, and did not answer the phone.
Then Jiajia called her husband again, hoping that he could go home, but her husband said that he had something to do in the field and could not come back for a while and a half. Ke Jiajia judged through the noise on the phone that her husband should be in the factory opened by her in-laws nearby.
When everyone rushed there, Jiajia saw her husband's car parked in front of the factory. After going in to inquire, the staff said he had left. Jiajia immediately went to the monitoring room, and through confirmation, found that her husband immediately left in her friend's car after receiving her call. It seems that the husband is deliberately avoiding her.
Without finding her husband, Jiajia had to return to her mother-in-law's house again, but her mother-in-law still refused to open the door. Such a situation makes everyone feel very confused, how can a woman who pays wholeheartedly for the family be avoided by her husband and mother-in-law?
At this time, Jiajia said helplessly: People are showing that they have betrayed their marriage, and he just doesn't want me.
Jiajia also said that she was not talking nonsense, but had evidence, and the other party was also a shopping guide in a clothing store. Because she often took her husband to the clothing store to buy clothes, after a long time, she became acquainted with a shopping guide named Mei Xiang.
In March this year, my husband often came home late on the grounds that he was busy at work, and later even did not return home at night. She originally thought that her husband was trying to earn money, but she did not expect that he actually cheated on her and came together with Mei Xiang behind her back.
In order to confirm that what she said was true, Jiajia asked the reporter to dial Mei Xiang's phone. On the other end of the phone, Mei Xiang did not shy away from admitting that she had indeed had a relationship with Jiajia's husband Qiang Qiang. At first, because Qiang Qiang told her that the couple could not live on and wanted to divorce, she believed in him.
Confirmed by Mei Xiang's own mouth, it shows that Jia Jia's husband did betray the marriage. However, Mei Xiang also said that not long after they were together, she found that she and Qiang Qiang would not have a future, and she always felt sorry for Jiajia. Therefore, in April, she took the initiative to break off contact with Qiangqiang, and she promised that she would never have anything to do with Qiangqiang again.
Jiajia insisted that even if her husband and Mei Xiang had nothing to do with each other, it was because of his betrayal of the marriage that the relationship between them had gotten so bad. However, the reporter felt that this kind of thing could not be concluded at will, and it had to wait for Qiang Qiang to explain it clearly in person. But no matter how everyone called Qiangqiang's phone, he would not answer.
Seeing that the time was very late, the reporter had to find the local village cadres. However, after the village cadres tried to contact Qiangqiang many times, they were unsuccessful, and Jiajia's mother-in-law was still reluctant to show her face. However, under the communication of the village cadres, he finally got on the phone with Jiajia's father-in-law.
In the face of the reporter's inquiry, the father-in-law denied that his son betrayed the marriage, but he said that his son had determined that he would not continue to live with Jiajia. But when everyone proposed to let him come forward to help his son and daughter-in-law communicate, he said that he could not come back from the field.
Seeing that her husband and in-laws have such an attitude, Jiajia sadly told that over the years, she had worked hard to earn money to bear all the expenses of the family, and she thought that she was not sorry for her husband and the family. Now, she has also lost confidence in this marriage and the future, and only hopes that her husband can stand up to her and make a decision, discuss the raising of the child, and return her property to her.
Just as the reporter and Jiajia were discussing solutions, some villagers around them actually came over and took the initiative to inquire about Jiajia and her husband. Listening to what they said, it seemed that they all knew very well what was happening between Jiajia and her husband.
When the reporter asked Jia Jia about it according to the clues revealed in the villagers' words, she took out her mobile phone and showed the reporter a group message. It clearly states the basic information about Qiang Qiang and his parents' home, and it is accompanied by photos.
What happened between Qiang Qiang and Mei Xiang was also recorded. The content also repeatedly emphasizes that Qiang Qiang has been raised by Jia Jia all these years, and even unscrupulously exposed some of Qiang Qiang's personal privacy. At the end, it is also specially noted that for every 5 local groups forwarded, they can find themselves to receive 100 yuan in red envelopes.
After reading this message, the reporter finally found the crux of all the problems. It turned out that when Jiajia found that she could not enter the house and her husband avoided not coming forward to solve the problem, she could not help but edit the resentment against her husband and in-laws into a message and send it to the circle of friends, and lured others to forward it by giving money. It is precisely because she has made such an extreme move that her husband and in-laws have avoided her, resulting in a stalemate.
Jiajia explained that it was her husband who always avoided solving the problem, and she made this decision. People said they could understand her eagerness, but they didn't agree with her over-the-top approach. Because this not only does not solve the problem, but also stimulates the contradiction between the two sides, and may even violate the law.
In the face of her husband and in-laws who avoid her, Jiajia also admits that her behavior is indeed inappropriate. But the mistake has been caused, she only hopes that her husband and in-laws will not run away anymore, whether the days continue or not, they will come forward as soon as possible to solve the problem.
Seeing that the time is getting late, the children have begun to make a fuss. Because the mother-in-law still refused to communicate, everyone did not dare to rush to take the child away, so they had to invite the staff of the police station. After communicating with Jiajia's mother-in-law through their mobile phones, the mother-in-law promised Jiajia to take the child away.
After a day of running, although the contradiction between Jiajia and her husband has not been resolved, the result of the situation seems to have been obvious. Because Jiajia's impulsive and radical behavior has completely angered her husband and in-laws, their attitude of avoidance clearly shows that they have drawn a clear line with Jiajia.
At this point, Jiajia finally understood that this marriage had no need and meaning to fight for. Finally, she said she would never make any impulsive moves again, but would pass the law to resolve the issue of marriage and property division between her and her husband.
MerleThan once said: Love is not who sacrifices for whom and who does what for whom. Once love becomes like this, it is not love.
In the marriage relationship, love is not a unilateral payment like Jiajia, but should clarify the responsibilities and obligations that they should bear, and then help each other, respect and love each other to grow together. Because whether it is a one-way payment or a one-way request, sooner or later it will break the balance that marriage should have, and cracks will appear in feelings.
Jiajia gave everything for this family, but in exchange for her husband's betrayal and indifference, so she felt that while she was hurt, she also had a sense of imbalance in her heart, so she made an extreme move under the impulse, and finally let herself lose the opportunity to reconcile with her husband.
Problems and contradictions in marriage are inevitable, and the key lies in the way we deal with problems. No matter what the situation is, first of all, we must remain calm, and both sides must communicate things objectively and tolerantly.
Impulse cannot resolve contradictions, and neither can escape solve the problem. No matter what, two people were once the most intimate couple, as long as they are willing to calm down and communicate sincerely, they will definitely be able to handle things well. Even if you can't continue to be together, you can try to get together and disperse.
If both sides can think about the problem from a different perspective, they may find that the other party is not so unbearable, and it will not be to the point of avoidance. If a pair of former lovers finally have to go to court, it is not only the adults who are injured, but also the growth of the child. So, as an adult, you must think twice when dealing with things.
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