I want to ask you after you get married, who cares about the money in the family? On the question of how to manage money after marriage, today I will talk about my views on this matter. Because there are indeed many little girls who come to me before getting married and say: Teacher, I am about to get married, I am very worried about saying that we will manage our money in the future. Or how do I get the economic power? Otherwise I think he's going to get bad when he has money.
There will also be many couples who feel: My husband now has money and has begun to raise a small third, how can I get the economic power back? Many of us women have tied money to the same thing – a sense of security, thinking that it is more secure to hold money in your hands. Let's not talk about how to manage the money? But from the sense of security to talk about it, not to hold the money to you have a sense of security, but you do not have a sense of security, only to think of holding the money. If you really try to hold the money and your feelings collapse, will you still feel safe?
So how do you manage money? I can only give you a few suggestions for this, and you can also combine your feelings and practice it! When the husband and wife are in charge of money, you must have a concept, you and your partner are a whole, in the legal sense, after marriage, the property of the two of you is called joint property! That is to say, what you spend is your common property, and so does what he spends.
If you have this concept, after marriage, you are still calculating who pays, who suffers, who takes advantage, because when you enter marriage, you must have this awareness, whether it is from the legal or emotional level, otherwise it will be difficult for you to go on. Because the effort between husband and wife is not the same, you say a girl, she may pay more to the family, pay more to raise children, if you only use money, you don't feel that this money is two of us.
For example, if you earn ten thousand a month and your wife has children at home, in this case, you think I earn ten thousand and she does not earn money, then it is finished. The ten thousand you earn is the two of you, and the payment she pays for the family with her children is also the two of you, only in this concept can you deal with economic problems, and the husband and wife are a community.
To give a very simple example, most couples are like this now, two people will have a common account, I take a part of the money to deposit every month, you also take a part of the money to deposit, but we will have a lot of expenses in life, such as today we had a meal together, tomorrow paid a utility bill and so on, these things depend on what, rely on your respect, trust, understanding.
I know very well that many men, eager for financial freedom, say why give you money after marriage? But you remember one thing: freedom presupposes self-discipline! If you are not self-disciplined and unconscious, then naturally no one can give you freedom. So to sum up, if the husband and wife manage money, there are many models, some are this kind of common account, some are engaged in their own, but they are all in ten words: big things are discussed, small things are not calculated. I don't think you'll affect your feelings because of money problems!
Finally, if you still often think that I have to control the money to have a sense of security, or one party says, I don't want to give her this money to manage, you will still expose the problem, I give you a suggestion, do not think about dealing with each other, but take a good look, where is the problem with your feelings? Why is this trust broken? I also hope that this issue has some reference to your feelings.