In the past two days, I believe that many Chinese in North America have been swept away by this incident. A Chinese couple in the United States has been married for nearly 20 years, both of whom are employees of a large factory in Silicon Valley in the United States, and have a son and a daughter after marriage. In 2020, the woman was diagnosed with advanced stomach cancer, and her condition began to deteriorate in 2021. In March 2021, the woman's parents traveled to the United States for hospice care. In May of the same year, the woman died after ineffective medical treatment. After the death of the woman, the beneficiaries of her estate are the spouse and two children.
This sad fact took a sharp turn for the worse just one month after the woman's death. In June 2021, the man began to solicit marriage online and met a new wife, and after 9 days, he registered his marriage. In August 2021, the new wife came to the United States and lived in the house left behind by her ex-wife, becoming pregnant in September of the same year.
The man originally planned to let his ex-wife's parents take care of the remarried wife to have children, but after the new wife's parents issued a U.S. visa, he wanted the former parents-in-law to return to China. In January 2022, the construction of the ex-wife's memorial was completed, and the woman's parents planned to return home after receiving the COVID-19 vaccine booster. However, at the beginning of this year, the epidemic in China began to worsen, the price of air tickets soared, and the man refused to pay for the full amount of business class, saying that he was only willing to pay 3,000 US dollars, and the remaining air ticket costs were borne by the woman's parents. In March, the man went to the police station to apply for an eviction order, restricting the woman's parents to leave the country within 30 days.
The woman's parents could not bear the humiliation, so they decided to disclose the matter to the majority of netizens. After the incident fermented, the man then gave a response, indicating that he was very good to his ex-wife's parents, because the old man's maintenance expenses were beyond the scope of his own responsibility, and there was a conflict. In fact, the man could end up with up to $3.26 million in damages, and he only paid his ex-wife's parents about $50,000 and $3,000 for airfare, which is not a huge sum of money for him at all.
For a 20-year-long relationship, the man's choice is to start a new family immediately after the death of his wife, no longer support his ex-wife's parents, and even take extreme behavior, which is difficult for ordinary people to accept emotionally. From another point of view, this incident also made us realize the importance of setting up property distribution documents such as wills in advance and preventing them from happening.
summary:
Remarry 9 days after the death of the wife: not against the law.
Burying the wife's ashes in the front yard: not breaking the law. (Later, it was said that the position could not be buried to change the position)
Wife's inheritance is not divided among the wife's parents: not against the law (saying that American parents are not the first in line)
Daughter doesn't have a birthday cake and new wife has Maserati: not against the law
Flush part of his wife's ashes into the sewers: not against the law
Angering the parents of the dead wife, they let them do it, and then called the police to evict them: not against the law
Fully understand that the law is the bottom line, is the bottom line.
Bengbu froze, and this question made me laugh all the time. First, the parents in China, the daughter immigrated to the cancer and died, preferring to let her ex-husband bury herself in the yard rather than bring her daughter back to The country for burial first, and then bring her back to the United States when the child is older. Second, the man who has lived in the United States for twenty years, it is described that the man with assets of tens of millions of knives still needs to Chinese mainland blind date, which makes me laugh, Huagao is really the bottom of the marriage in the United States. Third, although many small articles defending the man are very cold-blooded, one thing is extremely correct, they have immigrated, what is the old Chinese Internet "complaint" for what? No laws in the United States? America has no morality?
Don't know about China LAN? This shows that in Europe and the United States, Huagao is really unable to integrate into society, and its moral and legal life is at the lowest level. Don't think that the Chinese people are careful, it is you Chinese Americans who take themselves too seriously, of course, there are many Chinese like to take you seriously, I have no other meaning, I think it is a little funny, a little spit a little, I hope you are not too glassy. I hope that all Chinese Americans will participate in the local legal system and social life, instead of showing superiority when there is nothing to do, and come to find public opinion when there is something, it is a person who knows that the lives of ordinary people in developed countries are much better than in developing countries, but the living environment is the same, and the value of zz is won by themselves.
Author: First of all, how can the old man fight through Google executives, and be arranged to be clear and watertight. But even his own daughter does not care about her parents, the housework in this is really invisible to others, and at the last moment she voluntarily joins the American nationality in the hospital bed to cut off the inheritance relationship with her parents? There are six apartments in the family (even if only one is more than 20 million yuan), the parents have to spend all their savings to see her last side, and even the return ticket has to rely on alumni crowdfunding. The last two months or so of companionship, these things are not arranged clearly with the parents at all? Afraid that the parents will speculate in stocks and lose money, the man will be required to pay the elderly in installments, the elderly will ask for a one-time payment, and finally he will not have to pay the money and threaten the man with death.
Of course, no matter how much the old man wanted to compensate, he could not change the fact that Yu Ningzha was. Ex-wife only left, in the case of the epidemic is difficult to find a ticket how to achieve a 9-day blind date marriage honeymoon pregnancy, is there already a relationship before this? Still want your ex-wife's parents to take care of the pregnant incumbent? Whether FB's $2,000,000 insurance is true, if not why there is no one-word rebuttal. If so, why don't you even pay for the cemetery in the United States? To the two elderly people a total of 118,000. I made 54,000 + netizens donated 18,000 + two air tickets 6,000 + 40,000 domestic cemeteries. The money you paid yourself didn't give your new wife more than the bride price? Of course, this is only a moral judgment, from the point of view of an extremely refined egoist, as long as there is no problem in doing it illegally, everything is the best solution for himself.
In fact, if it were two Americans who did this, it would not be so shocking, but we still judge two exquisite people who have lived in the United States for 20 years and lived transparently with the values of Chinese 'there is a loquat tree', and we do not know that their world view has long been different from ours
According to the rules of the United States, the inheritance right does not include parents, the preferential inheritance right is the spouse and children' brothers, and even the inheritance rights of brothers and sisters are superior to the parents, so according to U.S. law, the woman's parents have nothing to do with him, he has no maintenance obligation, in this case, the man allows the woman's parents to live for a year is already interesting enough, and even if he gives the woman's parents tens of thousands of dollars, it can be regarded as "very generous" and "compassionate".
It is illegal for the woman's parents to lose their temper or even clash in his home, and it is also legal and reasonable for the man to call the police to expel him. Sorry, this is the moral standard of the Chinese, not the American, the sword of the Ming Dynasty beheading the officials of the Qing Dynasty? Do you think it makes sense?
And according to the moral standards of the Chinese, the pot of this matter must also be carried by the woman herself, is the woman herself did not reserve her parents' share in the will, and the man basically did not get the woman's inheritance Oh, the woman's inheritance is basically given to the child Is the man obliged to support the woman's parents?
In China, have you ever seen how many daughters-in-law support their in-laws after being widowed? None of them are there, right? So why change the gender and ask the son-in-law to support the mother-in-law and the father-in-law? Doesn't that make sense? The only lesson of this incident is not to send only children, especially only daughters, to settle abroad! From the day you sent her abroad, you were like not having this daughter, oh, it should be said that it was more miserable, psychologically inferior to those who had no children themselves
People are only once giving up something insignificant in order to "live better.". I know a post-70s old single stick, from about the age of 30 howling to immigrate (and then never moved out), it is said that every blind date will first tell the woman that he wants to immigrate, but also ask the woman to learn English to keep up with his own footsteps. As a result, in the case of people with houses and cars who look OK, they are stunned that they have not yet received marriage until they are almost fifty. Later he went to pursue the company's new front desk, unsuccessful, we are really curious, we went to find the front desk girl gossip, the following is the girl's statement.
"When asked about his parents, he said that he was an only child, his parents were in the countryside, and when I asked him what he thought of the elderly, he said that he didn't speak English anyway, he couldn't immigrate with himself, he didn't need to think about it, they would take care of themselves." To tell the truth, when I see this gossip in the question, my first reaction is, what about the man's parents? The woman and the man are classmates, there is no reason why the woman's parents are alive, and the man's parents will both die, right? Where are the man's parents? How about taking care of yourself at home?
A man, to his own country, to his parents are this attitude, you expect him to have feelings for his wife, what is this dreaming? Now many cases of elderly people dying alone in China are because their children are not around when they go abroad. Every time I see it, I think, what kind of thing can these people who can abandon their parents and let them fend for themselves? Don't have too many illusions about the character of people who are older and have not taken their parents abroad.