Now young parents are very busy at work, so in many families, it is the elderly who help with the baby.
In the process of bringing children, there will be great differences between the elderly and young parents in terms of parenting concepts and parenting methods, which has also become one of the important family conflicts.
However, although the concept is different, if the two sides can appropriately give in and compromise, under the continuous run-in, the old man will also bring the baby very well.
However, there are 3 kinds of old people, even if the parents are busy and tired, do not let them take the child, otherwise the consequences are endless.
An old man who likes to play mahjong
Cheng Cheng's mother could not imagine that the child was sent back to his hometown less than two months ago and lost.
One day, Cheng Cheng's mother was at work, and she received a call from her grandfather, saying that the child was lost, and Cheng Cheng's mother was so frightened that she suddenly sat paralyzed on the ground and cried.
It turned out that Grandma took Cheng Cheng out to play, the front foot went out, and Grandma, who was particularly addicted to cards, turned her back foot into the chess and card room. Grandma pondered so many people in the chess and card room, the child would not be okay when playing on the side, but she did not expect that Cheng Cheng would be lost.
Through the surveillance video, it was found that the grandmother actually found that the child was missing after cheng Cheng was lost for an hour.
The whole family was terrified, and the neighbors all went out to help find the child. Fortunately, the child was eventually found in the wheat field at the head of the village. It turned out that Cheng Cheng saw a puppy and ran out after the puppy, only to get lost and fall asleep crying.
Fortunately, the child was eventually brought back. Grandpa Cheng Cheng was so angry that he scolded his wife, and Cheng Cheng's father also had a big fight with his parents because of this.
The old man lost his child because of playing mahjong, resulting in unexpected news of the child, which we can often see.
Taking care of children is a very careful and cautious thing in itself, especially young babies, which are prone to accidents or being targeted by malicious people.
Those who are obsessed with playing cards have a poor sense of responsibility, low vigilance, and absent-minded care for children. Giving children to the care of such an elderly person is really dangerous.
The old man who likes to brush his mobile phone
Tingting's mother found that her daughter especially likes to rub her eyes recently, and she also likes to squint when watching TV. Tingting's mother giggled in her heart, and quickly took the baby to check her vision, and sure enough, Tingting, who was only 5 years old, became short-sighted!
When I went home, I learned that my grandmother had been obsessed with playing with mobile phones since she could use her smartphone. Now I rarely take Tingting out to play, and every day I am either brushing funny videos or squatting in various live broadcast rooms to buy cheap things.
As a result, Tingting also became interested in mobile phones, and when she returned from kindergarten, she brushed her mobile phone with her grandmother, sometimes until the middle of the night.
After knowing the reason, Tingting's mother was so angry that she had a big fight with her mother.
According to the "2020 Elderly Internet Life Report", Chinese netizens, elderly netizens over 60 years old account for 10.3%. In China, 99.2% of Internet users use mobile phones to access the Internet, which means that there are about 96 million "silver-haired people" active on the Chinese mobile Internet, and this number is rising rapidly.
After the elderly retire, if there are not many hobbies, brushing the mobile phone can easily become a substitute for them to pass the time. All kinds of funny videos, low-cost live broadcasts, and health classes have become the most popular content for the elderly.
When the elderly have also become low-headed, children are completely addicted to mobile phones, and children playing mobile phones hurt not only the eyes, but also brain development, children who like to play mobile phones, brain development slows down, will become more and more "stupid".
If the old man is obsessed with playing with mobile phones and wants him to help with the child, you must think twice!
The elderly who spoil their children without a bottom line
The strong mother found that the mothers of several children who usually played with the strong and strong had always avoided themselves recently. Confused, she asked one of her mothers to learn that her mother-in-law had recently offended the people in the community.
The mother-in-law is particularly doting on zhuangzhuang, and is also very "protective of the calf", in the eyes of the mother-in-law, the child cannot be wronged a little.
Zhuangzhuang plays with his friends, if others accidentally touch Zhuangzhuang, or grab a toy with Zhuangzhuang. The mother-in-law didn't say a word, and went up and scolded the other party.
A few days ago, Zhuangzhuang peed his pants in the kindergarten, and his mother-in-law thought that it was because the teacher was not responsible, and he actually hid it from the strong mother to find the head of the kindergarten and complained to the teacher!
The mother-in-law has been strong for more than a year, although it has reduced a lot of burdens on the couple, but the obvious strong personality has also undergone great changes, flying and being unreasonable, saying that one is not two overlords, as long as it is not happy, it will be sprinkled and rolled, and all kinds of tricks have been played.
The strong mother originally thought that the mother-in-law was just at home to protect the child, but she did not expect to fight all over the world outside, which made her feel very embarrassed.
It is natural for the elderly to be close to the child, but if there is excessive coddling, it is necessary to be careful. Because coddling is not love, it is naked hurt, and in the end it will only paint a tragic life for children!
If the elderly dot on children without a bottom line, and how to persuade them not to listen, it is recommended not to let the elderly help with the children for a long time, otherwise you will be more and more difficult to walk on the road to parenting!
Magic numb numb little warm said
The elderly help to bring the baby, although it can help young parents to reduce a lot of burdens, we should also be grateful for this. But if the elderly have bad habits or conduct, there are great problems in parenting, young parents should also think twice, rather than be bitter and tired, and do not let them help with their children.
Do not let the child's character, the golden period of character development is deviated by mistakes, and even unexpected dangers appear, otherwise it will be too late to cry