Have you ever encountered an embarrassing moment when private family affairs were made public in kindergarten? Cheng Cheng's mother had encountered such a time.
Once, she had a disagreement with her mother-in-law over childcare, and an argument broke out, and the war escalated to the point of quarrelling. After being personally attacked by her mother-in-law, after Cheng Cheng's mother sent Dabao back to the kindergarten, she took Xiaobao to report a three-day short-distance tour group in a huff, and went with the group to relax.
After going out, he specifically called the teacher to let Dabao come and pick him up, telling Dabao that he had taken Xiaobao on a tour and asked him to be obedient at home with his father and grandmother.
I thought everything was normal, but I didn't expect that the next day the kindergarten class teacher took the initiative to call over to communicate with Cheng Cheng's mother, saying that Cheng Cheng took the initiative to come and share a secret with him, he said, "My mother and grandma quarreled and ran away from home, I am not happy." He also asked the teacher, "Will my mother not want me, and will my parents divorce me"?
The ugly things in the family were publicized, so that the kindergarten teacher knew, which made Cheng Cheng's mother feel embarrassed, so she had to explain to the teacher that the child misunderstood her, and she just took Xiao bao out for a few days to travel, and let the homeroom teacher help comfort Dabao.
The secret of the family, being spread in kindergarten, is really an embarrassing thing. In fact, the incident of private events at home being leaked in kindergartens has been encountered by many parents in reality. To avoid embarrassment, there are some more intimate events, and children can be avoided if necessary.
Although the disclosure of private matters in kindergarten will make parents feel embarrassed, it is not entirely bad, parents do not have to mind too much, at least 4 points parents should be happy:
The child adapts well in kindergarten
The baby will take the initiative to share secrets with the teacher in the kindergarten, indicating that the child adapts well in the kindergarten, has a strong sense of security, can trust and rely on the teacher; when difficulties are encountered, dare to find the teacher, indicating that he and the teacher are not in a good relationship, this kind of child psychology is more powerful, more confident.
The child's expression ability is very good
Generally speaking, children in primary classes are only four years old, and children can clearly express and describe the events of daily life and their emotions, which requires certain association ability and scene reproduction ability, and this ability is conducive to the future learning of the baby, because the human text in the textbook is out of the scene.
Children are extroverted personalities
When things happen, they will not hold themselves in their hearts, know how to seek foreign assistance, this kind of child will grow up with a relatively cheerful personality, psychological health will be relatively healthy, and social skills will not be too bad.
Help your child choose the right kindergarten
When children encounter things in school, the teacher can pay attention to the child's emotions and state, take the initiative to communicate with the parents, indicating that this kind of teacher is responsible, will take the initiative to care for the child, and the parents help the child choose such a kindergarten, indicating that the choice is right.
So why would a child be happy to share the secrets of his home with his teacher?
In addition to the above-mentioned children trusting the teacher, and the kindergarten teacher is responsible, it is also because the child's childlike heart is pure and the perspective of seeing the world is different from that of adults.
In the eyes of children, many adults feel that they should not share the "troubles" with others, in his eyes, there is no such meaning, for example, the reason why Cheng Cheng will take the initiative to share with the teacher "mother and grandmother quarrel and run away from home" is because he does not feel that it is not good to say this matter.
Cheng Cheng's appearance of such a situation shows that the differences and disputes between parents will really have an impact on the child, so usually there are conflicts between parents, and the child's emotions should be taken into account.
But life is bland and trivial, parents and elders are not saints, living together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be friction and disagreement.
So, how to avoid disagreements and disputes between adults from affecting children's mental health?
Try to avoid arguing in front of your child
Adults have lived together for a long time, it is inevitable that there will be friction and disagreement, it is really unavoidable, try not to quarrel in front of children, after all, children have limited understanding of the adult world, adults speak loudly in front of children, full of anger, and the look of viciousness is particularly easy to scare children and reduce children's sense of security.
Explain to the child afterwards that the quarrel between adults has nothing to do with the child
In order to avoid quarrels between adults and have an impact on the child's psychology, after the quarrel, parents can explain to the child: the quarrel between adults is not his fault, it has nothing to do with him, the relationship between adults, and the love for him will not be reduced or changed.
In the process of quarrelling, try to restrain your emotions and discuss things as much as possible
Quarrel is a bad thing, but people are not sages, but even if there is a quarrel, the family has children, remember to tell yourself to try to restrain, do not let the emotions spread and flood, try to discuss things, seek solutions to problems, and thousands of personal attacks.
If the quarrel is skillful, it can sometimes promote the resolution of the matter.
Conclusion: Children are a gift from God, and home is the source of their sense of security. As parents, we have a responsibility to provide them with a safe and warm haven and try to make them grow up happily.
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