I have also told you before that I am a life planner, and over the years, I have provided a large number of netizens with advice and reminders on life.
Today I would like to share with you a case of my life planning for customers, as well as some of my own feelings about life.
A few days ago, an old customer contacted me, it was a lady, she came up to me and said, Teacher, you have shown me before, and you have given me some advice, but unfortunately, I did not take your words too seriously. Now that I think about it, it's a real shame.
The situation of the lady is this: she was a full-time housewife, her husband at the time was a businessman, the business is not big, but with the income situation at the time, it is still enough to support the family, but in the process, the lady also developed some not very good habits, such as her like to spend lavishly, including buying various luxury goods, and obsessed with online gambling. If you take her ex-husband's income situation at that time, there is still no particularly big problem.
But unfortunately, his ex-husband encountered some setbacks in the business and the company went bankrupt, which was a huge blow to her, but she was really vain and very strong at that time, and she did not want to lose face in front of her so-called girlfriends and good sisters, so she still wanted to maintain her original decent life.
His ex-husband, a man who had been through the ups and downs of the business scene, believed that he could make a comeback, so he told the lady not to go to those vain social occasions, not to associate with the people in Vanity Fair.
But this lady has not listened, but has intensified, and she has even begun to spend money on the Internet and borrow money from friends around her. After repeated persuasions were ineffective, her ex-husband wanted to threaten divorce and hoped that she would relent.
However, this lady was already a ghost at the time, plus she knew a married man outside, that is, a so-called blue-faced confidant, the married man promised that as long as you dare to divorce your husband, I can meet all your needs, your future life will only be better, and even I can divorce my wife and go to the marriage hall with you.
The woman had listened to the promise of the opposite sex outside of marriage, so she wanted to divorce her husband, because she thought that her husband had become a wreck, and she could no longer see the man's hope.
At that time, this lady found me in such a situation, she actually had an iron heart to divorce, just hope that I will help her analyze and analyze from the perspective of the I Ching and life planning to see if her choice is correct.
When she sent the information, I said to her, you must not go to divorce, your husband is a very responsible and good man, you must not be hooked by the outside man, otherwise you will definitely regret it.
In fact, I was still bitter at the time, and I didn't want her to make a wrong decision.
But after listening to my suggestion, this lady is still indifferent, she said to me, teacher, in fact, I can't see my husband's hope, I can't feel his love, and to be honest, there is not much nostalgia, I found you today, just thinking that we have a common child, but now your words, but let me be more determined to divorce.
I asked her why she thought that.
She replied, I heard the little sister say that in your line of work, you are all persuaded and not persuaded, so your suggestion, I think, is very unsuitable for me.
I said to her, I am definitely not here the so-called persuasion and dissuasion, I really speak with conscience, if I analyze the conclusion through the way of the I Ching, it is that these two people are not suitable together, or very reluctant together, it has done more harm than good, I will definitely persuade them to divorce, in fact, in the process of my career, I often persuade some unsuitable couples to get together and disperse.
But unfortunately, this lady did not follow my advice, and she did not even continue to listen, because I found that her QQ avatar had turned black.
Just a few days ago, she came to me again, saying that she regretted that she did not follow my advice, and now she is really extremely remorseful, when she just divorced, she thought that she had regained her life, and finally she could get rid of this bankrupt husband, and the blue face confidant outside the marriage was indeed very good to her at first, but then she found that this so-called blue face confidant, turned out to be a flower flower too old, he had a mistress with more than double digits, and he spoke very unreliably, running trains with his mouth, and he was also suffering from a variety of sexually transmitted diseases. This so-called blue-faced confidant did not have much money, not only was he an emotional liar, but he also cheated each other of money among more than a dozen mistresses, and lived the life of demolishing the east wall to make up for the west wall. What's worse is that this man's character is still very bad, often taking some so-called bed photos to threaten her, making her spirit almost collapse, until last year, the so-called blue-faced confidant died of an venereal disease, she was freed from this bitter sea.
However, in these years, her ex-husband has come and gone, and the ex-husband, with the help of relatives and friends, has really achieved a comeback and made a lot of money, villas, luxury cars. And the lady also learned that on the spring evening of 2022, because of a line in Shen Teng's sketch, a copycat digital currency was brought to fire, making this digital currency rise thousands of times overnight, and her ex-husband just happened to invest in this digital currency, making hundreds of millions of dollars overnight, and quickly cashed out. On the other hand, this lady, who has lived all these years, has been played as a monkey and has a debt.
To be honest, when I heard this, I also felt very surprised, because I also watched the news, and I knew that Shen Teng's line in the Spring Festival Gala sketch was indeed a digital currency, but I really did not expect her ex-husband to become a beneficiary, but when this lady came to me for consultation, I did use the method of I Ching calculation, and it can be seen that her ex-husband will make a comeback, so at that time I strongly opposed their hasty divorce.
This lady said to me, teacher, I know that you are very accurate in looking at people, so I really ask you to help me take a serious look, I am now single, there is no boyfriend around, I really want to remarry my ex-husband now, I just don't know if there is this opportunity, or, you help me see if there is a crush around him now, I know that he is not married now, I just don't know if he has a new girlfriend.
I am very sorry to tell this lady that I really think that you have no possibilities anymore, he should have a new belonging.
The lady replied, however, that he was not yet married, and that we had children in common, and that he had a good relationship with my parents before, especially what my mother said, and he still listened to them, so I would like to ask if I asked my mother to come forward and ask him to remarry me, I don't know if there is any glimmer of hope.
I still say to this lady with absolute certainty that there is really no hope, you still have to accept it
reality. I advised you not to be impulsive, but unfortunately you didn't listen to my advice.
After two more days, the lady left me a message saying, Teacher, indeed as you said, I asked my mother to ask, he now has a girlfriend, and soon to get married, I really want to strangle myself now, if I had listened to your advice, it would be good, but unfortunately there is no regret medicine in this world. But sometimes think about it, I myself deserve it, or to say it ugly, this is also a kind of retribution, I am indeed not a good woman, not a good wife, I am not even a good mother, divorce for so many years, I left the children to their family, I never took the initiative to see my children, just divorced, I did feel completely relieved, the family's debts do not need me to manage, the children do not need me to manage, his elderly parents do not need me to manage, And at that time I thought I had found a man who really loved me, but I didn't expect that the final outcome would be such an ironic effect, the clown was actually myself in the end, and I now feel that everything is gray, and even loveless. Teacher, I actually hope that you will share this experience of mine, so that women who are as stupid as me can be taken as alert, I am indeed a stupid woman, and I really have no hope for the future at all.
Hearing her say such negative words, I said to her, I can indeed share your experience, but you must not go to extremes, do not be full of pessimism about the future, because you are only in your thirties now, or belong to a very golden age, you can still find a suitable man, but in the future, when choosing a man, you must open your eyes and choose carefully, because your appearance, temperament, taste are actually still good, which is equivalent to a hundred yuan bill, Even if it is trampled on, it is still a hundred-dollar bill, and its value is still greater than that of fifty yuan, twenty-dollar bills.
Hearing me say this, the lady suddenly became a little more cheerful, and she replied, Teacher, this analogy of yours is absolutely broken, I really should be hopeful about the future, and I believe that I can still find a fairly good man in the future.
I said to her, of course, and your child is still your bloodline, you will compensate the child psychologically in the future, he will definitely be willing to re-accept you, after all, is his own mother. No matter how much money your ex-husband has, whether he will have children in the future, your children will have the same inheritance rights when they grow up. Of course, you can't treat your children in a particularly worldly way, you must be sincere and care about the growth of your children from the heart.
Yes, yes, the lady replied, thanking the teacher very much for her teachings.