I looked at my watch, and my wife had been talking on the phone with her friend for forty minutes, still elated and full of energy, and as for the content, I didn't hear anything, but it was all parents short and frivolous.
But it must not be said. As soon as she said it, she would definitely focus on my friends, and then my friends in her mouth became fox friends, wine and meat friends.
This is not surprising at all.
For couples, the further back they go, the less common friends there are. As for their respective friends, they will only look down on them more and more.
This is by no means my discovery, perhaps it can only be said that this is the difference and difference between men and women, especially since each other has experienced more people and things, and gone through youth.
Mutual friends will only appear in youth, and over time, this friend will be divided into weights and intimacy in the hearts of two people. In short, the further back you go, the closer the man will be to the man, and the closer the woman will be to the woman. Here there is not only the difference in the cognition of men and women, but also the sense of proportion that adults must respect in their interactions.
Don't understand? For example, the word Blue Face Confidant, although it exists for a reason, but for people after forty, this word is a joke. It is not that I do not respect its possibilities, but that I have no need or possibility to let it exist.
No matter how good the blue-faced confidant, can be as unscrupulous as a same-sex friend? As reasonable as that? Feel the same? Just as unscrupulous? As bright as it is? The same to make others feel bad?
Not possible. It's just a matter of asking for trouble. Therefore, just from the gender selection of friends, we can understand the maturity of a person's mind.
As for friends who don't look up to each other, this is a problem that cannot be explained.
Men make friends, pay attention to liver and gallbladder, pay attention to two ribs to insert knives, pay attention to like-mindedness, pay attention to smelly, and pay attention to righteousness. Therefore, in all the tolerance and trust in the world, except for parents, for men, it is a friend. Mistakes are wrong together, injuries are hurt together, drunkenness is drunk together, difficulties are difficult together, loss of people is lost together, everywhere reflects a sense of empathy, affection and brotherhood.
Women, on the other hand, never measure it that way. For women, some people are willing to listen to their own talk, some people are willing to talk to themselves without concealment, can talk together, can have common topics, can identify with and understand their feelings, the three views are the same, the aesthetic is similar, and this friend can be made.
For men, it doesn't matter if friends say or don't say anything between them. For women, having nothing to say between friends is the biggest problem.
For friends, men can hand themselves over while women can hand over patience. This is the biggest reason why they can't look at each other's friends.
For women, the existence of a man's friend is the encroachment and separation of their own lives and rights.
For men, the existence of a woman's friend is to ignore and despise herself, as well as to provoke.
This is perhaps the most interesting aspect of life.
Everyone craves friendship and love. Friendship generates friends, love generates marriage, and after a long marriage, the most exclusive thing is their respective friends.
It is not surprising, because after all, all feelings have exclusivity, just like the choice of fish and bear paws.
But the truth is that no one is either or the other, and they all cling to the fish in one hand and the bear paw in the other.
Who would find themselves emotionally rich? It's always been fearful of less.
(Like my text, please pay attention to the public number: middle-aged emotional chatters.) ）