Ms. Ding, 35, had just given birth to her daughter for a month, and her husband said to her: "You can take this child back to your mother's house, it doesn't matter if you have your last name." Ms. Ding returned to her mother's house for 2 years, her husband did not pay attention, even her daughter's living expenses did not pay a penny, and also proposed divorce, what is unexpected is that Ms. Ding tried to save this marriage in name only, what is going on?
3 years ago, Ms. Ding was introduced by her classmates and met Mr. Liu, who was one year older than her, and they all belonged to the older youth, and after a few days together, they felt that the conditions of the two were quite matched in all aspects, and they began to communicate.
They are both only children in the family, both parents have jobs, and both are college graduates. Ms. Ding's father was quite satisfied with this future son-in-law, and he said that his daughter was a wild lily who finally found spring, which was fate.
In early November, the two became acquainted, and after only two months, Ms. Ding became pregnant, so they hastily received a marriage license and held a grand wedding.
After living together, I found that there was a big difference in the personalities of the two, Mr. Liu was sensitive by nature, and Ms. Ding had a very strong personality, liked to be self-centered in everything, as long as it was slightly out of her mind, she would be furious and never ignored Mr. Liu's efforts.
The contradictions in life are continuous, and what makes Mr. Liu even more chilling is that Ms. Ding is also very selfish in her career, when Mr. Liu wanted to resign to start a supermarket by himself, and he wanted to borrow 500,000 yuan if he did not have enough funds.
Parents agreed to use the old house as collateral, if the loan is in the name of the husband and wife, the interest will be much less, but who wants to be at this juncture, Ms. Ding is unwilling to sign, Mr. Liu can also understand his wife's mood, and explain to her that even if she signs, she will not let her bear the risk, this is just a form.
Ms. Ding went home and told her father that he was also strongly opposed, and said that if his daughter signed this letter, he would break off the father-daughter relationship with Ms. Ding, and on the husband's side, seeing that his wife did not have the same heart as him, he also put down harsh words or you signed, or we divorced.
In the end, Mr. Liu borrowed 500,000 yuan through other channels, although he did not divorce Ms. Ding, but he was already a little cold to her.
And in life, Ms. Ding is also superior everywhere, treating herself as a "princess", everything needs to be coaxed, spoil her, once Mr. Ding was also beaten twice by his wife, he thought he had a gentlemanly demeanor, he did not move rough to his wife, but told his father-in-law about this matter, who wanted his father-in-law to blame Mr. Liu for being too calculating, and should let the woman in everything.
After getting married, Ms. Ding basically never did housework, on the grounds that she was pregnant, and sometimes when Mr. Liu cooked soup for her, he privately added some other ingredients, and she would keep nagging.
One thing made Mr. Liu grumble, one day he did not cook, let his wife order takeaway, and as a result, Ms. Ding only ordered one, completely forgetting that she also had a husband.
After Ms. Ding gave birth to her daughter, the contradiction escalated again, in the father-in-law's view, the son-in-law's family is a son preference, and when she learned that Ms. Ding had a daughter, he even said: "You can take this child back to your mother's house and let her follow your surname." ”
After Ms. Ding was discharged from the hospital, her mother-in-law said that she would rent out their marriage rent for 2800 yuan a month. Ms. Ding thought that her mother-in-law was driving her away in disguise, so she carried her daughter back to her mother's house and never came back.
The mother-in-law explained that she only had this idea, and the daughter-in-law did not agree, so she did not rent out the house.
But Mr. Liu is a very stubborn person, and he has been extremely disappointed in his wife, but he feels that it is a good thing for him that his wife returns to his mother's house, at least he can live freely and freely, not as tired as before.
He put all his thoughts on the supermarket, a year later the supermarket business is on the right track, during which Ms. Ding took the initiative to come back once, hoping to get along with Mr. Liu, he also gave each other a chance, the result was less than half a month, Ms. Ding's various problems sprouted again, and the two broke up again.
In the blink of an eye, two years have passed, Mr. Liu resolutely proposed divorce, Ms. Ding felt aggrieved, she has been taking care of her daughter in her mother's family for two years, all the living expenses are supplemented by the father, as a biological father, how can he not be willing to fulfill the righteousness of support?
Mr. Liu proposed to divorce, she did not agree, and finally she found a reporter for help, Ms. Ding hoped to save the marriage, at first Mr. Liu was resolute, and even sneered many times, saying that such a marriage is too ridiculous and there is no need to continue.
Ms. Ding offered to let him pay child support for his daughter, and Mr. Liu said: "I will not give a penny to my daughter in your mother's house, if you can't afford it, the child will be brought back to my home, I don't need you to pay child support." ”
The two broke up again, but Ms. Ding still did not agree to the divorce, and finally the reporter contacted the psychologist in the community, Xiaozhi analyzed the marriage with the two people emotionally, and thought that the problems they encountered were not many, as long as both parties were willing to make appropriate changes, the marriage could still have happiness.
In the end, Mr. Liu decided to give each other another chance.
Source of material "Search for Love"
A slap does not sound, when a marriage lights up a red light, first of all, we must find the reason from the body, find the deficiency, rather than blindly accusing the other party of being wrong, only when both parties realize their mistakes, can they prescribe the right medicine.
Also as only children, although they are quite mature, they are still very "naïve" in their minds, and they are always used to finding their parents when things happen, rather than trying to understand the problems themselves.
Marriage is a matter for two people, and if parents are involved, it will only complicate the otherwise simple things.
Marriage is not a business, do not always calculate the gains and losses, husband and wife work together, their strength is broken.
Learn to be considerate of each other in life, more understanding and tolerance, whether it is a friend or a lover, as long as both parties get along comfortably and are not tired, the relationship can last a long time.
