In the past, the suffering of only children may not be so obvious, but now, with the increase in the cost of living, the only child may face more difficulties. Of course, it is not only difficult for only children, but also difficult for only parents, especially in the face of some unfilial only children, and later life will become more difficult.
Case: The dialogue between grandma and grandson poked at the pain of the only child, angry enough to fight for the second child, and regretted it even more after giving birth
Ms. Wang only gave birth to one daughter that year, and later due to busy work, a child could not be taken care of, and she did not plan to have a second child, she and her husband gave all their love to their daughter, so that the daughter was a little too much.
Later, the daughter got married and also had children, because it was relatively close to home, and the relatives were busy doing business, so they had no time to take care of the little guy, so the daughter had to send the little guy to Ms. Wang's house and let Ms. Wang help with the little guy's life chores. Even after the little one goes to kindergarten, it is Ms. Wang who is responsible for picking up and dropping off.
When the little guy was 8 years old, one day Ms. Wang looked at her little grandson and suddenly wanted to tease him, so she said, "Baby, you come to grandma's place to eat every day, every day your grandma is taking care of me, your mother didn't give me living expenses, you have to go home and let your mother want living expenses." ”
Originally it was just a joke, but I didn't expect the child to say without any concern, "Mom said, you are no longer here, the money and the house are hers, so it doesn't matter if you don't have to take money to you." ”
How the child can say such a thing, it must have been learned from the adults, Ms. Wang is also more certain that these words were said by the daughter to the child, and later asked the daughter herself, who knows the daughter's "Isn't this the case" This answer made her feel even more angry.
In a fit of anger, Ms. Wang decided to have a second child with her husband, which is also coincidental, but in two months, Ms. Wang was pregnant with a child, and also gave birth to the child smoothly, originally thought that she could relieve the anger, but the fact is that Ms. Wang's second child life has become busier, and the relationship with the eldest daughter has become very bad, her body has become very poor, the cost of taking care of the child is also very large, there is really no energy, and often a person also regrets it.
01 What issues should be paid attention to in the process of raising an only child?
In fact, not only in the past there were many only children, but many young couples are not willing to have a second child after giving birth to a child, in fact, in the face of this situation, if they do not raise children well, parents will face more problems in the future. Therefore, in the process of raising only children, parents must first educate their children well, do not spoil their children too much, and grasp the principle of moderation, otherwise they may spoil their children, and it will be more difficult for them to let their children be filial to their parents in the future.
Secondly, parents should teach their children to know how to be grateful, let children have a grateful heart, understand that it is not easy for parents, so that children will also be filial to their parents when they grow up, otherwise if even the only child is not filial to themselves, then in the future, when the parents reach the old age stage, the end will be more tragic.
Just like before I had a relative, only one child, very spoiled, her son was still nibbling at the age of thirty or forty, and he did not want to marry a wife, no matter what he did, he relied on his parents. The parents' pension and a little pension will also be looted clean, and the living expenses of the parents can also be very moist, but when her son is so robbed, life becomes very bleak.
Therefore, parents must teach their children to learn gratitude, not just let children enjoy the love of their parents, if this is the case for a long time, children will only get used to accepting love instead of sharing love.
Moreover, parents also have to cultivate their children's independent ability, after all, as an only child, it is still very important to have independent ability, if the child lacks this ability, it will be difficult to survive in society in the future, but also rely on parents, until the parents are not around, the child may not be able to make a living, and every step forward will become very difficult.
In addition, parents should also pay attention to the fact that if there is a condition, it is best to choose to have a second child, otherwise the pressure on the only child is still very large. Just like there was a previous interview, a young post-90s only child, her parents both fell ill in the hospital, on different floors, she shouldered all the pressure alone, every day the hospital, the company, the family three points a line, the hospital up and down the floor running back and forth, facing the camera, the young girl has been crying, she herself feels too much pressure, and the conditions at home do not support the caregiver, every day in the company to worry about the situation of parents in the hospital. Many times I wonder if my parents had more than a few siblings, wouldn't there be so much pressure now?
Of course, if you really want to have a second or third child, you must prepare early, if you wait until the ultra-high age stage to regenerate, I am afraid there will be more problems to face.