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Two people are dating, should the AA or the man entertain?
This is mainly related to people, but it is best to say well in advance, as girls, we must always remember the phrase "do not take advantage of others at any time".
Many times, when girls insist on this, there will be no embarrassment and embarrassment behind them
If one of the two parties proposes AA when they are on a blind date, then each party chooses their favorite meal, which is also easy, as for whether it will succeed in the end, or because the man proposed that the good impression of AA on him disappears, that is a matter of later.
Many girls don't like stingy men, but at the same time they don't want to take advantage of men, and always put themselves in a position of equality with each other.
During the blind date, the man let him casually order, and after the blind date, he asked for AA
A girl and a blind date in Nanjing were about to meet at Xinjiekou, and the two of them ate hot pot.
When the man says casually when he is on a blind date, the implication is that he invites guests, of course, if he is not invited, he probably does not have the right to let the other party order casually.
The girl tacitly accepted that he was the guest.
The last two people ordered more than 1,000, and a hot pot cost more than 1,000, which is indeed a bit high.
At the time of checkout, the man still seemed very generous, took the initiative to pay the bill, and then the two people went home separately, so that the girl could not understand the things happened, the other party asked AA, let the girl bear half of the meal cost.
The reason is that "more than 1,000 is also my hard-earned, not easy"
Later, the girl transferred half of the money to the boy, and then blackmailed the other party.
Netizens have different comments on this
In the face of this embarrassing thing, netizens' evaluations are different.
Some people say that girls order more than 1,000, it is too exaggerated, after all, only two people eat, eating hot pot to spend more than 1,000 is really dare to order, after all, not to spend their own money.
Some people say: can AA, but in advance to say good, this man is too stingy, there is no pattern, eighty percent is to feel that it is not successful, and go to ask for meals.
Some people say that they can understand this man, eat a meal to try out the quality, think that this girl just wants to take advantage.
Of course, some people say that AA women will lose, after all, most of them are men's food, women's eating not much, if the points should also be four or six points...
Coffee is the most suitable for blind dates
Two people on a blind date, the first time they meet, in fact, it is not appropriate to eat, and it is most appropriate to drink a cup of coffee.
Drink some coffee to talk about, willing to AA to choose AA, choose their favorite taste, the man must be invited, but only a few dozen pieces, do not have to feel too careless.
But eating is different, slightly high-end restaurants, consumption is hundreds of yuan.
In addition, from the perspective of the length of time, it is easier to control in the café, the time can be long or short, the chat is good, you can chat for an hour, the chat is not good, and you can drink coffee at any time to end the blind date.
What you want to say to girls
Girls must remember one thing: they can't try to take advantage of anyone at any time.
If you want to take advantage of the opposite sex, there are no more than two results, one is to let the other party take advantage, and the other is to embarrass yourself.
There is a line in "Thirty Only" that says: "Before the age of eighteen, I was raised by my parents, and after the age of eighteen, I made a living on myself." ”
Girls should be independent, have dignity, be wary everywhere, and not suffer big losses because of taking advantage of small things.
Take the above case, if the girl explains from the beginning that eating AA, there will be no embarrassment and anger behind.
We can look down on a man who is calculating and inconsistent, but there is really no need for us to be angry about it, because personal behavior is also problematic.
In the eyes of the other party, he will think that what he said is polite, when the other party ordered more than 1,000 yuan of meals, his inner standards have changed, he will think that girls deliberately want to eat a big meal through blind dates, take advantage of him.
When girls keep their principles, they will exclude this series of bad things.
Since we girls continue to pursue independence, do not demand equality, do these two things first, in the process of getting along with the opposite sex, do not need the other party to bear anything, especially to bear the cost.
Even if they are married, two people should try to get as close as possible and maintain an equal relationship, and women are not attached to men and do not rely on men to support themselves in order to live beautifully.
In "The First Half of My Life", Tang Jing said to Luo Zijun: "Whether you divorce or not, you Luo Zijun must be able to rely on yourself, or you must have the ability to rely on yourself, that is the long-term solution." ”
When your daughter leaves the house, be sure to tell her about it
In college, there was a common phenomenon that as long as boys and girls were in love, boys would invite girls to dinner, and they would also invite girls' roommates to dinner.
It's not a good sign, it's a polluted campus atmosphere.
The same students, whether boys or girls, are all students, and they need to reach out to their parents for living expenses, and they are not financially independent.
Even if they are financially independent, girls do not have a reason to let their boyfriends support.
The family has a daughter, before the daughter leaves home, the mother must tell the girl that in the process of interacting with friends, including the process of interacting with the opposite sex, to maintain independence and equality, do not go to the head, to know that it is not easy to make money, and at the same time can not count on others to support themselves, can not take advantage of others.
In the process of interacting with the opposite sex, we must maintain principles, maintain independence, keep sober, do not think about taking advantage of each other, and do not think of pasting money to each other.
An independent, confident, and principled girl can live this life with a straight face.