There is a phenomenon that deserves our attention, that is, there are many older unmarried women, and some women are very good in all aspects, but they just can't get married. In fact, it's not that they can't find a partner, but they can't find an ideal object. For example, I was chatting with an older, unmarried woman once.
She said, I have a high education, it's not too much to ask the other party to have a high education, right? I have a job, so it's not too much to ask for a job, right? My parents have pensions, so should I treat the other parent, not too much, right? I have a house and a car, and it's not too much to ask the other party to have it, right?
I nodded helplessly, saying that it is not too much for you to take out only one of these conditions, and if you ask the other party to have them all, it will be a bit excessive. In other words, even if a man has everything you mention, will people be waiting for you with peace of mind?
In fact, it is not the man who hinders the marriage of these women, but herself, and if the conditions are lowered appropriately, there will be no problem of not being able to find a partner. Recently, a female anchor called "Shenmu Sanqian Sister" has become popular, because her words make it difficult for many men to accept.
It can be seen from this name that this female anchor is from Shenmu in Yulin, Shaanxi, and the sentence "Don't think about marrying me if you only earn a few thousand yuan a month, I only complain about ......men who earn 3,000 yuan in my live broadcast room" Her words undoubtedly hurt the hearts of many men, because in most cities, people's monthly wages are basically around 3000.
In her opinion, after a month, she can't afford to buy her a bag for 3,000 yuan, and what else can she mention to support her family. It is reported that this woman's conditions are relatively good, she is beautiful, and her monthly salary seems to be more than 10,000 yuan. It's understandable that people have a higher standard for choosing a mate, but you can say that this kind of need is not suitable, but you can't look down on men who earn less money.
Different division of labor is destined to be different in pay, in any case, everyone works through their own hands, and there is no situation where anyone looks down on whom. When I saw the expression on her face when she said this, it was not only a look of contempt, but even a mockery. From her words, she felt a kind of sadness, love and marriage are equated with money in the eyes of some people.
Or rather, you don't deserve love and marriage without money. Her remarks have been criticized by many people, and many people have also commented on her words. For example, some netizens said that she looked down not only on the monthly salary of 3,000, but that people who did not exceed 10,000 were not qualified to marry her.
For example, some netizens said that no matter how much money you make, in short, it is all earned by hard work, and we don't ask you for money, why do you look down on us; Some people also say that whoever marries such a woman who worships money is the biggest failure in his life.
If there is opposition, there will be a voice in favor, and this part of the people said that the woman's words were not said, but they were a little more straightforward. The monthly salary is more than 10,000 yuan, and it is not too much to ask the other party to earn more; Another netizen said that if the man's monthly salary is more than 10,000 yuan, can he accept the woman's monthly salary of 3,000?
However, in the end, there were more accusations, and some netizens even reported it, although the woman later posted an article explaining that she had said the wrong thing, but netizens still didn't buy it. Later, the female anchor may not be able to stand the accusations of netizens and simply cancel her account.
Soon someone found out her identity, the woman is about 24 years old, and it is indeed as she said, her monthly salary of more than 10,000 yuan is probably true, because her work unit is a new energy listed company. If you have a good job and earn a lot, it's okay to show off yourself and express your concept of marriage.
It's just that sometimes don't talk too much, and don't be open-mouthed, the most basic principle between people is mutual respect. Respect others, you will get the respect of others, you look down on others, the consequence is to be condemned by more people. So I still agree with this sentence, be a person first and then do things. What do you think about this?