Marriage urging is not a new topic, but recently I heard a voice: the post-00s came on the field to rob people, and the post-80s and post-90s are still dreaming.
Post-00 girls are at most 22 years old, and they are married at the right age, can they really become a case of justification for this matter?
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Recently, Xiao E brushed a few data and shared it with everyone to see.
According to the 2021 China Statistical Yearbook, in 2020, there will be 494.16 million households in the country, of which 125.49 million will be living alone, that is, more than 125 million households, accounting for 25%.
This follows a forecast that China's population will reach 92 million people living alone in 2021.
People's willingness to live alone is reflected in indicators such as marriage rate and newborn birth rate, and the state is also synchronized, and more and more people are not very interested in marriage, even if they are married, they are not very eager to have the next generation.
As a young person, Xiao E understands this state of life very well, but occasionally saw some other arguments, such as the B station blogger said: "When the older leftover women are still drinking poisonous chicken soup and dreaming, the post-00 girls have begun to grab men." ”
Her implication is that the post-80s and post-90s girls are still stressing the need to be independent women, firmly believing that a person can also live a wonderful life, and the post-00s girls are very sober and shrewd, and have entered the marriage market and begun to choose the best development objects.
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We need to admit that the phenomenon of blind date age is getting lower and lower, many young people have not yet left the school, parents are choosing the right age object; or just graduated, the family is anxious to urge marriage.
But between existence and rationality, one cannot blindly draw an equal sign.
Is it necessary to get married? At what age should I get married? There is no fixed answer to these questions, not to mention that these opening and closing mouths are "seizing men's resources", whether they insult men or objectify women themselves?
If you want to form a family and enter into a marriage relationship, you can't avoid some substantive considerations, such as the family and professional attributes of both parties, but what is more important should be the inner will of both parties, and they can stay with each other for a long time.
Whether men or women, they are only at the right age, pushed into the market of marriage and love, rather than they are commodities to be sold at a price, which can be clearly marked with the same amount of replacement.
Taking a step back, if there are more men, why not sell anxiety to women?
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The correct guidance of public opinion should respect a variety of voices.
It is inappropriate to blindly advocate the freedom of singleness, because in the long run, the small number of new students will inevitably lead to a shortage of labor, which is not beneficial to social development, and there is indeed a lack of responsibility for the human process.
But from this point of view, can we encourage more children? By the same token, it is not.
Some people or subjective will to reject, even if the birth can not be a responsible parent, it is better not to have children; some people are hindered by the conditions, can not provide sufficient living and educational conditions for the next generation; and some parents prefer sons to daughters or want to have babies to prevent old age, their own three views have not been corrected, why is it so painful to raise the next generation in a hurry?
As some post-00s girls said:
"Who loves to tie the knot, study hard and make money has already carved smoke and smoked the lungs."
"My classmates are all 00 years old, graduate school, public examination, job hunting."
In the old society, mothers told their daughters that "the sooner they bind their feet, the less painful it is", that is, society did not give them the right to choose. Today's so-called post-00s are grabbing resources and advocating competition among female groups, which is also a spiritual wrap.
Because women have the right to choose. Marriage and love are a natural thing, so why rush into the battlefield and be bound to stand out? Life is not only family, more communication with friends, more learning skills to enrich themselves, not necessarily isting time, not necessarily the so-called "life defects".
You know, whether you marry or have children or not is a subjective will, and should not be constrained, and even advocate that the more competition is more profitable, the better.