When Xiao E surfed the Internet, he brushed up on a bizarre question: "Will you feel ashamed because your parents don't like to dress up?" ”
Instead of examining whether your parents are bright or not, whether they are decent or not, it is better to reflect on yourself, why do you not have the ability to make your parents "perfect"?
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The experience is roughly like this: a girl with fair family conditions, her mother does not like to dress up, "never wear makeup, do not wear lipstick." Therefore, since kindergarten, she is not happy for her mother to pick up and drop off, and her mother has gone to a parent-teacher conference, and she also feels particularly humiliated.
Later, when the girl grew up, she did not want to follow this old road, so she carefully studied dressing, and hoped to correct her rough lifestyle, "She wanted her mother to learn to dress up a little, but her mother did not want to." ”
Later, the girl talked about her boyfriend, and when the parents of the two sides met, the boyfriend's mother dressed appropriately, and her mother was "very inferior".
The girl is not unaware that there is a problem with this concept, but she still feels embarrassed, and the bone is in the throat.
After reading this experience, Xiao E can't help but sigh: the difficulty coefficient of parenthood is too high, not only to support the family, but also to make money while taking care of the "face" of the children - even if this face is not worth a penny.
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I remember when I was a child, every parent-teacher meeting was the "mirror" of my parents, some of whom were personable and some of whom were dusty servants.
It must be admitted that when Xiao E was relatively young, he also had a bit of vanity on his body. Mom is not a person who likes to dress up, Xiao E saw that other classmates' mothers were fashionable and could not help but be envious, so she told her mother whether she could dress up and have a parent-teacher conference.
Because too much time had passed, at that time, my mother's expression could not be remembered at all, let alone understand her mood. I only remember that every time I had a parent-teacher meeting later, my mother would wear stockings and a skirt, and then lightly apply some lipstick.
Later, xiao e grew up, and her mother's desire to dress up was lower, but this was not the existence of making herself "embarrassed" - if my parents were not old and young, if it were not for my parents bothering to buy a house in the provincial capital, how could it be my turn to be carefree?
Therefore, Xiao E loves to "break the fee" to send some gifts to his parents, even if they scold and spend money, but his heart must not be angry.
Is it possible that it is not that parents do not pursue life, but that they have invested too much energy and financial resources on their children. However, people have the luxury of perfect parents, who can both make money and be good to themselves, and can also take care of their own "decency".
You are not outstanding yourself, why should you desire such extreme parents?
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I once saw a news that the Hangzhou takeaway brother revealed that he never wore work clothes to pick up and drop off his children. The reason is simple, first, that he believes that teachers look down on the profession; second, that it also affects the child's mental health.
"Some people would rather sit in the office and get 5,000 yuan a month than earn 10,000 yuan a month by running errands."
It is true that "respect the robes first and then respect the people" is not just an old saying, countless people wear colored glasses, but existence is not necessarily equal to reasonable.
Those who can support the family with their own hands, shelter their children from the wind and rain, and take on their due responsibilities are great parents.
Taking a step back, the old saying also says that "wealth is not revealed", and eating, drinking and having fun is only a narrow side of the lifestyle in the end.
Can you say that Zhou Runfa, who donated all his family property after announcing his death, was poor? Can you say that Ma Yun, who wears cloth clothes and shoes, is poor? It is precisely because it is understood that the so-called "decent" is not worth anything, that it does not care about this illusory glory.
Ordinary as you and me, put away the desire for the "perfect parent" as soon as possible, instead of pinning on the parents, it is better to make yourself stronger and give the parents unlimited confidence.