Hot search on a news, at first glance funny, and then think of helplessness.
How lightly do parents take their children's "secrets"?
I hope everyone understands that privacy regardless of age, giving children independent space is the parent's temperament and ability.
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Recently, Xiao E brushed such an interesting news on Weibo hot search.
A father from Zhengzhou, Henan Province, accidentally found his daughter's "revenge book" at home, which recorded the scene of her parents offending her, which can be described as a stroke of grievance
"Daddy came home and ignored me, I put up with it!"
"Dad spoke to me in that tone, and I put up with it!"
"Mom bought delicious food and didn't leave me one, I put up with it!"
In fact, it was all sesame-sized things, but the daughter recorded it, and when asked about her purpose of recording these, the daughter replied: "I will write it in a small book, and when the book is full, I will pay it off one by one." ”
The child's unscrupulous words made everyone can't help but laugh, joking that the daughter is so vengeful, and the little cotton jacket is afraid that it is not leaking the wind.
But after we've laughed, does the news reveal another message — where exactly are the boundaries between parental respect for their children's privacy?
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It is true that the terms and conditions written on this "revenge book" are only trivial matters in the eyes of onlookers. But from the perspective of the daughter, this is the embodiment of her emotions, her inner world, and if it is defined by nature, it is not too much to say that it is a diary.
But what do parents do? They first watched it themselves, not enough, thought their daughter was so funny, and shared it directly on the Internet for the amusement of netizens.
Later, this news rushed to the hot search, with tens of thousands of comments, and netizens ridiculed countless times. But as the daughter of the protagonist, what do you think in your heart? We don't know.
In fact, too many parents take their children's secrets or privacy lightly.
Xiao E took a few comments from netizens, I believe that everyone has a similar experience:
"When I was a child, my diary was read, and I really couldn't accept it at all, and my mother actually took a stroke mark on it."
"Heart to heart, when I was a child, I hated my mother peeking into my diary the most, and I cried every time."
"My mom questioned me when I read my diary when I was a kid, and I haven't written a diary since."
"When I was a child, my parents snatched my diary, and now at the age of 26, there are still shadows."
Xiao E also wrote a diary when he was a child, but he would deliberately buy a book with a lock, and every time he wrote it solemnly and then locked it. Although the age is small, the record is only the small things that are broken off with xxx today, but for the past, these small things are the big things at that time.
If you want to understand your child's inner world, you need to look at the way you keep a diary, and it's clear that this is your failure as a parent.
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There is a popular word called "social death", which is used to describe some embarrassing experiences of facing the world without face.
As young people or adults, sometimes in public, sometimes in the workplace jokes, will feel unable to wipe their faces, as soon as they think of such an embarrassing experience, the toes began to grab out of the three rooms and a living room.
Such a psychological state is not only possessed by adults, but children have always been "naïve" and "childlike", which weakens their emotional intensity and appears less "private".
Therefore, after watching the news of such a revenge book, Xiao E really couldn't laugh.
But what is even more uninteresting is that there are many videos that are similar to this, some are genuine children's diaries, and some are discovering traffic passwords and starting to make gimmicks. The common denominator of such "play" is to take the child's heart to attract viewers.
I hope that parents can understand that although children are given life by their parents, children are also independent and self-willed individuals, and parents should be responsible for parenting, not snooping and control.