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Swipe to a short video like this:
The girl shared that she sent a lot of messages to her boyfriend during the day, and the boyfriend did not reply to a single one. In the evening, the boyfriend only replied to her with a "I'm on my way home." ”
For other messages in the chat box, the boyfriend didn't reply.
The girl was very disappointed, and when her boyfriend arrived home, he ignored him. As if realizing something, the boy took the initiative to say, "Today is really too busy." ”
The girl was a little aggrieved: "Busy enough to reply to a message? ”
The boyfriend smiled and hurriedly explained: "It is precisely because it is too busy that the reply message is not clear." ”
As he packed up his things, he told the girl everything that had happened that day.
After the explanation, he took out a box of desserts in his bag, smiled and said, "If you want to eat it, you don't have to wait until the next opportunity, you can eat it now." ”
Because the girl sent him a message saying that he wanted dessert, he went out of his way to buy it.
The video ends with this sentence: "The desire to share is the expression of love, the most sincere romance, response, and indispensable existence in the desire to share." ”
Feelings need to be managed, and the highest secret to maintaining a relationship is precisely these three words: the desire to share.
01. Losing the desire to share is the beginning of the break
Two people together, the relationship is good or not, it depends on whether the other person is willing to talk to you about some boring nonsense.
Studies have shown that in a day, women tend to say about seven thousand sentences and men need to say two thousand sentences.
People need to express themselves through communication and chat, and the content of these expressions constitutes the desire to share in daily life.
Because they care, they want to let each other enter their lives and enter their hearts, so they keep sharing and letting each other know what they are doing and thinking.
Most of the time, the existence or disappearance of feelings depends on how many words are spoken between two people.
If one party keeps sharing, but the other party is only perfunctory, gradually, the original enthusiastic desire to share will also be worn away.
Losing the desire to share is like eviction orders in life. My life no longer needs your involvement, and we have no future.
Therefore, the loss of the desire to share is also the beginning of the emotional dissolution.
02. Respond carefully in order to continue the desire to share
The parties in the video, maybe once or twice, will not affect their feelings, at most they both feel some loss, but what about after a long time?
What will be the result of such a large number of times?
I think girls will gradually stop sharing, become silent, and feel that everything doesn't matter. And will the boy feel that the girl is very sensible and no longer take the initiative to break this silence.
In fact, if caught in such a situation, the two people will soon be separated.
In the relationship, without sharing and responding, the two people are destined to become more and more estranged, and when one of them is completely discouraged, the relationship will come to an end.
Therefore, actively responding to each other, whether it is a message, or a phone call, or a daily small talk, is to maintain feelings, but also the most direct manifestation of loving someone.
Only by responding carefully can we continue to share. The desire to share is indispensable in a relationship and should be a two-way street.
Only the feelings of running in both directions can make each other feel at ease and happy, and they are more willing to go hand in hand with each other.
03. Maintaining the desire to share is also keeping love fresh
In general, feelings cannot avoid the freshness of three months. It's not that after three months they will definitely break up, but after three months, it is difficult for two people to maintain the initial feeling of heartbeat.
What happens every day is the same, and the personnel they have to face will not change much. Therefore, after a long time, you will feel that life is flat and there is nothing worth sharing.
But in fact, there are many small beauties in ordinary life.
For example, the clouds in the sky are very beautiful, found a good song, met a kitten on the way home from work, passed by the flower shop, and bought a flower you like...
These are all things we should share with our partners.
Don't think that these are too ordinary and do not need to be shared, like a person, is willing to talk to each other a lot of nonsense.
Because of sharing, memories will be more fulfilling and precious. Isn't it a very romantic thing that when two people reminisce about the past together, they can see each other's shadows in anything?
Maintaining the desire to share and responding positively to each other is taking responsibility for the feelings and for oneself.
Behind the desire to share, there is more trust and love. The other party wants to go down with you, wants to have a future with you, is the other party's dependence on the relationship and the sense of belonging they seek.
There are some things "I only want to tell you" and "I am willing to respond to everything about you", and just by fantasizing, I am already very happy.
The desire to share is the highest secret to maintaining a relationship.
When sharing becomes a habit in a relationship, and response becomes an instinct of a relationship, we will naturally be willing to pay for each other, without bothering to maintain a sense of freshness, and the relationship will naturally go on steadily.
Because of love, so want to share, this is already the best look in a relationship.
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