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A woman's best dowry is a considerate and warm heart, a man's best dowry is a lifetime of accommodation and love, but many women are ready for the dowry, but men are not ready for the dowry.
Perhaps for some women, what they care about is not the accommodation and love of men, after all, it is like this all their lives, and it is indeed a little reluctant.
But even if there is no lifelong accommodation and love, but the man who enters the marriage together is definitely not something that can be done at will.
For everyone, the lifelong partner you want may be different, but if you want to live happily in the future, you must see if the other family has these problems before marrying, and one of them should not be married.
1. Brotherhood and brotherhood
For many of the post-80s and post-90s friends, most of them have brothers and sisters, and they will be the closest people in this world, in addition to their parents.
Although they are very close to each other in terms of blood relations, in fact, not all brothers and sisters can live in peace, which is completely different from the nature of grabbing toys and eating when they were young.
At that time, everyone was a child, many things were not understood, and it was understandable that they would care more about their feelings, but if they grew up, the relationship between hands and siblings was still very bad, then the hidden problem was very big.
Some people may say that it is difficult for a clean official to break the family affairs, maybe there is only a misunderstanding between brothers and sisters that has not been solved, or the difference in the three views will cause the current situation, which does not mean that everyone is a bad person.
But you know, even if you don't live with your family after marriage, they are all a part of your life that can't be eliminated, especially when it comes to the future in-laws' pension problems, there will be endless troubles.
In fact, in many people's livelihood news programs, it is not difficult to find such problems, because the relationship between brothers and sisters is not good, resulting in the two sides facing each other in court, no matter what the final result is, everyone's life will inevitably be affected.
2. Parents are not filial
Perhaps when it comes to filial piety, the first thing everyone thinks of is to be a child, but in fact, parents are also other people's children, and they also have their own obligations to support.
With the continuous development of medical technology, the life expectancy of human beings has been extended a lot, and many elderly people are still healthy even if they are 80 or 90 years old.
It's just that because of the problem of age, the self-care of life will be a lot worse, and someone needs to take care of it closely, if it is a filial piety child, it will certainly do its best to let parents enjoy their old age in peace.
But not everyone can do it, many children, even if they have entered old age, but they have not put themselves in the shoes of their parents.
In order not to fulfill the obligation of maintenance, it can be said that everything can be done to the extreme, and most of the children raised by such people are more or less problematic in the three views.
The so-called upper beam is not right and the lower beam is crooked, and the parents do not have any filial piety, let alone kindness, so it is difficult for children who have lived in this environment for a long time not to be stained by their whispers, and it is easy to learn from them in the future and will not fulfill their maintenance obligations.
3. Relatives have bad habits
Not everyone has the right three views, some people know that this thing is wrong, but they will continue to do it, and in life, many people have all kinds of vices.
For such a person, everyone will stay away, and because they have nothing to do with themselves, they will not pay too much attention, but if it is the boyfriend's closest family members also have bad habits, they should pay attention.
Not only parents, but also siblings have bad habits, because they are a whole, moving and holding the whole body, no matter who is in trouble, no one else can stand idly by.
No matter how motivated and excellent everyone's boyfriend is, as long as they have such a family behind them, sooner or later they will drag him down.
Maybe because of a moment of warm love, everyone can accept such a thing, but after marriage, as the problem continues to erupt, the bottom line is challenged again and again, and one day it will be intolerable.
There are many couples who will choose to separate, not because of their own problems, but because of each other's family environment, so if you don't want to follow in the footsteps of these people, you must stay away from such men in time.
Marriage and love are different, love is a matter of two people, and marriage is a matter of two families, if love is simply determined by hormones, then marriage must remain rational.
Although marriage and love are based on love, but the direction of the two is different, love is a good medicine, used well, can make people miss a lifetime, use bad, can only hurt themselves again and again.
Many women who are deeply in love always think that as long as there is love between each other, it is enough, and everything else can be ignored.
But reality will tell you that love will eventually be worn out in the long years, and the rest that can support everyone to go through this life will be those problems that have not been put in your eyes.
If you can clearly understand this, then the future married life will not be worse?