In the era of students with the purpose of further education, of course, it is to focus on academics, even if they fall in love in high school, parents and teachers will beat the mandarin duck, not to mention the early love in primary and secondary schools will be eliminated.
People say that women's hearts are needles, and today's parents' worries about their children are more like rain and fog, more like wind, forever uncertain.
Before the children's college entrance examination, parents regard love as a flood beast, afraid that once the child is stained, it will self-destruct the future; but the child's front foot has just stepped into the university's school door, and the parents' attitude has 180 degrees turned around, and all kinds of urge the child to find a partner.
Men should be married, women should be married, and female students should reach the age of doctoral students, let alone 26 or 7 years old. It is the golden period of marriage and childbearing, for the girls who have not yet objected, even if they can be calm and relaxed, the seven aunts and eight aunts have long been busy into a pot of porridge, all kinds of help to find and Zhang Luo.
A female doctor in Shanghai has been independent since she was a child, and in terms of personal emotions and marriage, she is more calm, long-term, and large-scale, a kind of wisdom of "strategizing, winning thousands of miles away".
She disregarded the world's vision, did not care about other people's gossip, and very uniquely made her mate selection criteria fair, and everyone could not help but sigh after seeing it: too high to be cold, so that Puxin men are afraid.
Before talking about the right thing, it is necessary to explain the new term "Puxin man". The so-called universal man is a man who looks (externally) and has (on the inside) extremely ordinary appearance (externally), but is particularly obsessed with self-confidence (narcissism).
The mate selection criteria of female doctors in Shanghai quickly spread on the Internet, causing a burst of heated discussion:
Some people say that this female doctor's mate selection criteria are so detailed and thoughtful, worthy of being a cultural person who "drinks enough ink", with meticulous thinking and thoughtfulness, from appearance to academic qualifications to strength, it is simply all-encompassing, and it is really a shrewd Shanghai woman.
Some people also say that the man's economic conditions are so good, the female doctor does not need to struggle in life after that, a high degree diploma for a long-term meal ticket, from which it seems that "I have suffered from reading, I do not have to eat the pain of life" is a reasonable saying.
Some people say that female doctors have such high standards for men, in addition to their high education, what other housekeeping skills do they have? Successful men marrying wives do not necessarily have to look at academic qualifications, but they must show their wisdom and be in line with their own feelings.
Some people even said that the female doctor's mate selection conditions are too harsh, this person should only be in heaven, how many times on earth to hear? The "doctoral" degree is not an advantage for girls, it is likely to be a disadvantage. Because in the traditional concept of male and female protagonists, it is difficult for female doctors to balance family and career.
To say that female doctors insist on their own views, in fact, there is nothing wrong with it, after all, there are hundreds of people, all kinds. Biting their own standards and requirements rather than indiscriminate, maybe there is such a thing in this world that "one is willing to fight and one is willing to be beaten".
"Jiang Taigong fishing, willing to take the bait", he is not fishing small fish and shrimp rice, but "King and Hou" kind of big fish. In fact, carefully considered, the female doctor and Jiang Taigong are very similar, whether it is a coincidence or an imitation, we do not have to investigate deeply.
The female doctor must have her own reasons for doing so. In today's market where academic qualifications have been devalued, the phenomenon of "college students let go, undergraduate students wait, graduate students please stay, and doctoral students sit down" abounds.
Female students can have a doctoral degree in hand, at least in terms of IQ and knowledge is superior. As the saying goes: a good horse is equipped with a good saddle, and the people themselves have high academic qualifications, and it is also reasonable to raise the requirements for their spouses.
But then again, the female doctor's mate selection criteria are indeed different, not only requiring the other party to be rich and handsome, but also having certain requirements for her origin and family background. If boys really have such good conditions, wouldn't it be more fulfilling and fresh for a man to marry a white, rich and beautiful young woman?
The standard that requires an ID number is estimated to hurt the hearts of many Puxin men. Boys with more money and a table of talents are not enough, they must also be indigenous Shanghainese. This..., I don't know how many people will arouse the unique feeling of Shanghainese.
Shanghainese sense of superiority
Ala Shanghai Silver, from which country did Nong come from? In the eyes of Shanghainese, except for Beijing, all other places are rural.
For this reason, the Shanghainese people pulled up hatred and were attacked by everyone: "stingy", "stingy", "selfish", and "timid". However, in terms of equality between men and women in Shanghai, it is indeed a model for the people of the whole country: Shanghai men can buy vegetables, cook, and wash clothes, which is the biggest advantage in front of girls with improved social status.
Don't forget your original intention, insist on being yourself
We all know that doing the right thing at the right time. When the female doctor reached the age when the female university was married, she knew that such a mate selection criterion would cause controversy, but there was nothing wrong with her insisting on her own point of view.
In a person's life, each stage has a corresponding thing to do, the student era is focused on academics; at the age of marriage, if you miss the golden period, it is very possible to smash into your own hands and become a leftover woman.
As a highly educated female doctor, there is a feeling of being cold in a high place, after all, a boy with a similar degree may not be willing to marry a girl with the same degree. Because there are no two tigers in a mountain, if both people are career-oriented, then how to run a happy family and take care of children is a big problem.
Talents with high IQ and high education may not have a sound personality and the ability to manage happiness. Marriage is not a business, it is not necessary to take the scale to weigh who is lighter and who is heavier, or to argue on the scale for two pounds.
Therefore, when we choose the other half, although we must remain rational and objective, we should not be too attached to external conditions. After all, the inner emotions, three views, happiness, etc. need to be gradually revealed on the basis of mutual contact, understanding, and familiarity, and if the material conditions are stuck too rigidly, many opportunities will be lost.
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