Film and television drama lingering, fairy tale perfection, and reality is quite a big gap, life for many married women is a disaster, once full of infinite longing for love, think that you can really and the right person to spend a lifetime of love, because the expectation is too perfect, so the gap will be even greater.
Life and love are not the same, will turn the once beautiful into unrecognizable, but also will make the once tender like water woman into hysterical. You can't simply say that women have problems, nor can you simply say that men are all scum.
The boredom of life and the fragmentation of the day make it difficult for us to maintain the appearance we originally expected. However, in real life, a qualified husband may also be confused, but it needs to meet these standards. Because for women, either to seek wealth, or not to be good to themselves, in short, they need to ask for something, and the days will have value and run.
He has needs, that person he is in
Some time ago, the seventy-year-old mother "made a divorce" on the hot search, nearly 1.3 million people liked, the protagonist old lady side told the past when she gave birth to two children.
When I gave birth to my eldest son, there was no one around, or just in time for someone to visit the door, so I helped myself to give birth to the child on the ground.
After the birth of the child, the mother-in-law was afraid that the child would make trouble at night and affect her son's rest, so she let her husband sleep in the next room, and the husband really agreed without any objection or consideration of himself.
When the second child is born, the situation is almost replicated, the child is born alone in the house, and then he still takes care of the child by himself, whether it is birth or belt, he is always alone.
The lack of the role of the husband in life can be said to be the norm, like the real case of this big mother, there are many, because under the understanding of men, they feel that this is what women should do, "Isn't it all like this?" "But the majority, not necessarily right, but in the world of men, it's no big deal to think it's a big deal.
And the harmony of a family, the happiness of a woman, can not be separated from a qualified husband, the mark of qualification may not need how much money you have, how high status, but when this woman needs people, you are there.
Once upon a time, every woman longed to find someone who could take care of herself for the rest of her life, and a husband who cared for her thoughtfully was far more attractive than money. What can impress women is actually not a domineering president, but in the middle of life, he is booing himself and asking for warmth.
However, the lack of roles in real life has made many women change from simple little girls to shrews. The little things are thunderous, because they bear too much alone, and they have no dependence on themselves. The gender of men and women is different, many things are different from needs to cognition, so don't always stand in the male mind and think for yourself, but want the other party to think.
Women need a man, just like the escapee needs a parachute, if you are not there at this moment, then you do not have to do it later, so a qualified husband will think from the perspective of a woman, no matter what the woman has any needs, any mood, she will be around, even if she can not give direct help, it will be a kind of comfort and companionship from the soul.
Have a plan, will try their best to fight, not a mess
Most people are not born with a golden key, perhaps we do not have to covet wealth and love vanity, all day with unrealistic expectations to dream of getting rich, but the struggle and pursuit of what should be needed. A man who does his best may not necessarily succeed in the end, nor does he necessarily have to be the richest man in the world. But for one's own family and one's own life, there must be planning and effort.
Deng Wen and her husband were married for three years, and the woman worked part-time in several jobs, just wanting to live a better life. His goal is not only to repay the loan for his own house, but also to buy a new house for his parents to live a better life, after all, the old man is old, and he has to climb the stairs, which is too hard and unsafe.
But all this is superfluous in the eyes of men, saying that it is good to have a house to live in, why bother so much. Not only is he not grateful to appreciate the woman's efforts for the family, but he will blame her for being unreliable. One of the things he often said was, "We are all ants, and you are a good and far-reaching, vain ant, climbing such a high wall, why do you fall to your death?"
The focus of men's life in addition to playing games is to sleep until they wake up naturally, life does not have its own planning, nor does it have its own responsibility, to use a not very polite description, it seems to be a state of "mixed eating and waiting for death" because there is food to eat under men's cognition, there is a place to sleep, it is a good day.
A qualified husband may not necessarily be rich and successful, but he must have his own plan for his life. Just like Mr. and Mrs. Deng Wen, they are still young, they will have children in the future, the education of the children's future growth, the support arrangements of both parents, he has no plan, and a qualified husband will not live like this, because he has responsibilities, but someone needs to be taken care of. Because a man's strong, brave, wisdom and responsibility are the true pillars of a family.
Relationship coordination and attitudes in the event of conflict
In life, the collision of two husbands and wives, the edge of the spoon is inevitable, and how a man copes with the conflict of such a relationship is not only a man's wisdom and emotional intelligence, but also reflects whether he is a qualified husband.
A qualified husband may not necessarily be completely bottomlessly tolerant of women, but will certainly know how to regulate awkward atmospheres when relationships conflict. He will not blindly use silence and cold violence to deal with relationships, and he will not be grumpy and childish, and use extreme behavior to show his authority.
Can become the helmsman of the family and coordinate the relationship between each member
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always an unavoidable problem of family contradictions, and a qualified husband will definitely not be inactive, or partial to his mother and filial piety to his son, he will be filial piety, but also understand the wife's not easy, and not must be filial to his parents, he will be grateful, but also know how to coordinate the harmonious relationship of family success.
It is not easy to understand the parents, nor will it ignore the grievances of the wife, may not be able to empathize, but understand that try to think differently, not so much that this is high emotional intelligence, in fact, it lies in responsibility and responsibility.
The harmony and stability of the marriage relationship require two people to work hard together, a qualified husband, and happiness is not only a woman, but the whole family and children to influence the life. Relatively speaking, what are the characteristics of a qualified wife, we will analyze it next time.