Text/Xi Xi Huan
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Once saw a seventy-year-old grandmother on the Internet sent a daily selfie, the video of her every day at a fixed time to get up, eat breakfast, meet friends, fitness, etc., she will put on exquisite makeup, although the hair is gray, but still very fashionable, all kinds of trend lipstick on her mouth does not look abrupt, but full of aura.
The clothes worn by the grandmother are not ready, always fit well, and even the tight skirts are there, which makes people lament how amazing the results of perennial exercise are.
What can be imagined is that the grandmother's living state and way have been envied by many netizens, and many netizens have said that I will live such a high-quality life when I am old in the future, and I will also let myself live so exquisitely.
It is undeniable that the grandmother's "high-quality life" needs a certain economic foundation to support, in fact, in the eyes of many people, the so-called "high-quality life" is inseparable from the support of money after all.
The high level of material life seems to have long become the conventional standard of success, and if you live a cheap life when you are old, it is inevitable that people will feel that the achievements of this person in this life are not successful, because they are not enough to support the high-quality life that should be had in their later years.
However, few people really think about the real meaning of the words "high match" and "low match", and everyone has thought about a good life, but living it, but invisibly putting themselves into greater trouble.
Therefore, when people are old, what they have to learn is not to compare, not to envy the lifestyle of others, but to learn to "live a low-quality life", otherwise it is easy to cause unnecessary trouble for themselves.
01 Unnecessary human interactions should be reduced
If a person wants to survive in this society, he is inseparable from the exchange of human feelings, and dealing with people is not only necessary for life and work, but also sometimes brings himself rare opportunities.
In the process of dealing with people, the emotional intelligence of this person is tested, neither showing vitality nor losing the sense of boundaries because of too closeness.
Especially after getting older, many elderly people can't adapt to life after retirement, and the original busy days suddenly become idle, and the gap in psychological burden will be very large.
The psychological satisfaction of being respected and valued in the work will also disappear, and will be replaced by the loss of no one needs after retirement.
At this time, the elderly will habitually want to continue to meet their psychological needs through exchanges with previous colleagues or friends.
However, when people get old, they actually have to learn to streamline their friends, because if some unnecessary people continue to take time, energy, and even money to maintain, they are actually causing trouble for themselves to some extent.
Neighbor Uncle Wang was once a warm-hearted person in the unit, no matter who had a family affair, he was willing to find him to drink and eat, after retirement, the old colleagues who had been in contact with him had no contact, which made Uncle Wang feel particularly uncomfortable in his heart, and it seemed that all the people were suddenly far away from themselves.
In order to find the once lively feeling, Uncle Wang began to organize old acquaintances to party together, and in order to show his generosity, the cost of each party was paid by Uncle Wang alone.
At the beginning, Uncle Wang did feel that the lively and intimate feeling that he had once had returned, which made him very happy, but the number of times was more, and others felt that they did not have to take money to party every time anyway, and they were happy to participate, but they suffered from Uncle Wang, who did not have much pension.
Even his wife said that he was confused, and that a good pension was used to do something bad, but to serve those who did not know the etiquette.
In the end, Uncle Wang began to stop organizing parties, which caused dissatisfaction among those people, and even some people ridiculed him in person for being stingy and reluctant to pay for those parties.
In fact, when a person is old, the energy is not as good as when he is young, and when he is moving towards the twilight, what needs to be done is to cherish the people around him, and spend his limited time and energy on more worthy people and things, rather than wasting it on unnecessary human feelings, otherwise the face is there, but the real suffering is still himself.
02 Reduce materialism
Each of us has material desires, the pursuit and yearning for material life is the common sentiment of people, even in the old age, some old people like photography, so they are willing to invest in the purchase of cameras; some old people like to travel, so the money spent in this area accounts for the majority.
Especially after retirement, the elderly, because they do not need to work, so they have more free time, and their hobbies are especially important, because they will accompany them through the period of loss after retirement.
But when people get old, they must learn to reduce their material desires and understand what kind of material life they really need, otherwise they will only add unnecessary economic pressure to themselves and even to their children.
The friend's mother, Aunt Zhang, was a famous beauty when she was young, and even when she was old, she could still see the handsome appearance of that year.
My friend had always been proud of her mother's beauty, but now that her mother was old, she couldn't be happier.
It turns out that the friend's own life is a chicken feather, there are two children in the family, the mother-in-law is not in good health, can not help with the baby, and can not help too much financially.
At first, the friend hoped that his mother would help take care of the child for a while, but the mother refused on the grounds that bringing the child would accelerate aging.
Friends have been carrying their own babies for several years, and when it is most difficult to take the baby while working part-time to reduce the pressure on her husband, my mother travels around and never asks her if she needs help.
Some people may say that parents go out for a walk when they are old, there is nothing wrong with relaxing, since the children have chosen to have children, they must be responsible for themselves, but if the parents choose to stand by when they are capable, when the children are most difficult, then the relationship and atmosphere of the whole family will really be good?
Especially the friend's mother herself does not have much pension, but she has a heavy heart of comparison, seeing where others go to play, she also wants to go, and when the money is not enough, she forces her friends to give, and for a long time, even the marriage of her friends has been affected.
Reducing materialism and seemingly living a "low-quality life" may not be a more transparent way of life, because only by reducing materialism will you truly liberate yourself from the materialistic desire of comparison, and you can better understand what you really need.
We can not only think about ourselves, only think about what we want, more often for the family and lovers to consider, the real "high-end life" is to enrich their own hearts, so that they can live more fully in spirit.
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