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From birth, it is as if we are defined.
We first have to learn to turn over, to sit, to learn to walk, and when we get old, we start school and get an education in school. After graduation, we enter the workplace and receive education in society.
We fall in love, get married, have children, and we play a twelve-point spirit to cope with the various tests and problems that life brings us.
Whether you like it or not, as long as you are born, we have to live. As for why they live, most people have never thought about it.
Yu Hua once said: "Man lives for the sake of living itself, not for anything other than being alive." ”
Compared with those who talk about living for their children, for their families, and for their loved ones, I am more willing to believe what Yu Hua said, that we live to live for the sake of living itself.
So, how do we who live for the sake of living live in this life not live in vain? I think that people live for a lifetime, and when they are old, they can leave two things for themselves, and most of them are not in vain.
01 Leave a good reputation
There was a friend who, until three years after his death, and someone shook his head at the mention of it. There is no reason for him, just because this friend's reputation when he was young is not good.
People who know him say that he began to steal chickens, ducks, grain, and so on from his neighbors when he was a teenager, and when he grew up, he began to steal big objects from other people's bicycle lights.
Because they are all from the village, their parents or grandparents know each other, and no one really compares with him or calls the police to let the law punish him.
Stolen by him, most people can only consider themselves unlucky. Some people who are angry go to his parents to ask for compensation. Therefore, over the years, although his reputation is not good, he has not suffered a loss.
Parents do not discipline, relatives and friends do not care, this friend to middle-aged depressed, in the society to do the chicken and dog thing.
But no one in society tolerated him anymore, and in a theft, he paid the price he deserved. Three years later, he changed his ways, found a stable job, and never did anything bad again.
Among the newly recognized friends, everyone's impression of him is that he is righteous, willing to insert a knife in the ribs of his friend, and the atmosphere. But among his relatives, in the eyes of those who knew him before, his reputation was still a mess.
Until his death from illness for three years, those relatives shook their heads when they mentioned him, and the evaluation of him was that he did not do serious things since he was a child, and often did some petty theft.
And these words also reached the mouth of his children, who were only ten years old, and were often ridiculed by children for this.
The so-called "good things do not go out, bad things spread thousands of miles", but if you have done a bad thing, it is very likely to reach the ears of all kinds of people, just like the paper wrapped fire, uncontrollable.
And when your reputation is too poor, it affects not only you personally, but also your descendants.
If a person has no good reputation, this person's credit will also disappear, and without credit, who can trust you? The feeling of not being trusted is extremely uncomfortable, and the feeling of being indisputable is painful.
Therefore, when you are gone but still have a good reputation, when future generations mention you, they do not shake their heads but give you a thumbs up, then your life is not in vain, but it is good to leave a good reputation, everyone remembers it.
02 Leave your love behind
In addition to leaving a good reputation, people want to live in this life, but also leave your love. A relative of mine, who had been married twice, had 4 children, but when he was lying in a hospital bed, an ex-wife, a current wife, and four children, none of them showed up.
As a distant relative of his, because my father had some connections, I carried something to see him once. Looking at the way I was lying there covered in tubes and no one took care of them, and I was honest, I felt a little sad. But I also know that the way he is now, he doesn't blame others, he just blames himself.
His ex-wife is a good woman, hard-working, a good hand at housework, just because she gave birth to two daughters, did not leave them in the family, he was abused for a long time.
Every few days he could see new wounds on his ex-wife, and eventually his ex-wife couldn't stand it and filed for divorce. When two people divorced, both daughters chose his ex-wife, and none of them were willing to go with him.
Naturally, even if a daughter like him wants to go with him and recognize him as a father, he does not want to carry a burden that will affect him from remarrying and having a son.
Perhaps by fate, he later remarried, and his remarried wife also bore him two daughters, although they were twins, which made people happy, but this did not satisfy his desire for a son, and after a few years of marriage, he began to abuse his current wife as soon as he finished drinking.
Before his current wife could file for divorce, he fell ill and was admitted to the hospital. Doctors say there is no hope of a cure, and lying in the hospital is barely surviving.
After learning this news, neither his two wives nor his four children came to see him for a day. Only his parents were paying him medical bills intermittently. But because he had never been filial to his parents before he was sick, and he did not have deep feelings for his parents, his parents almost never came to see him. Paying him medical bills is also based on the identity of his "son" and doing his best to be a parent.
It can be said that the reason why he fell into this fate is that he has not paid love to his children, wife or parents. Such a person, alive and sick, no one feels that he is really pitiful, and no one feels sorry when he dies.
What is the point of being alive for someone like this? Unwilling to give to those who love him, he will hurt unscrupulously. Whether alive or dead, no one will really treat him, not even his flesh and blood, and they have resented him for a long time.
Such a person, this life, is a vain life. Perhaps, his birth was a mistake in the first place.
When we come to this world, we must remember to leave a good reputation and leave your love. If you don't have either of these things, this life may be in vain.
May all people be able to walk in the world without vain, and since they have come, enjoy it, accept love well, and love others well.
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