Author/Pond Fish
It's a reader's story.
25 years ago, at the age of 22, she went out to work to meet her husband, and married from Sichuan to Anhui. When she got married, she didn't think so much, because her husband's family conditions were good, and it was good for her, even if at the wedding at that time, due to traffic, her mother's family only went to her brother, she also thought it didn't matter. At that time, she was still young, and she always thought that everything would come to Japan.
After all these years, was her marriage happy?
There is no doubt that this is bliss. Until now, she still does not regret choosing her husband, as she said: "25 years of time, it is sweet and warm." "Her husband, a diligent and down-to-earth and kind person, has given her all the tenderness and romance in his temper over the years. In the years of marriage, she has rarely even cooked, nor has she ever been worried about the economy, and her in-laws are also easy to get along with, and she is considerate of marrying so far away, and she has really always treated her as her own daughter.
However, life has always been like this, and the so-called gains and losses must be lost. Especially in the case of long-distance marriage, when a woman leaves her homeland, goes to another strange city, starts her life again, and lives for many years, not only will the memory become blurred, but even many things that she originally owned may be lost one by one.
What she can't let go of is the dissipation of family affection.
01. Death of the father
The first time she felt the means of transport, unable to cross the thoughts and distances in time, was the year of her father's death. At that time, she had not returned to her mother's house for three years.
Many people, when leaving, always hold a natural idea, thinking that the traffic is developed, no matter which city they go to, it is very convenient to come back, it is the same. Until later, when I was dragged down by various tedious things in real life, I couldn't go home this year, and I still couldn't go home next year, the word home, in this year after year, gradually began to become strange.
So, when she received a call from her mother, she was completely out of touch.
Because her mother told her that her father was critically ill, the doctor had already spoken, and asked all the family members to come to the hospital. She was completely unprepared, because three days ago, when she called her father, he was still talking to her, saying that the tomatoes in the field were ripe, and that when she was young, she liked tomatoes the most, waiting for her to come back to eat, she joked that she would come back in two days, she did not expect a word, but she did not go back to eat tomatoes.
She didn't have time to pack up her things, rushed to the airport, there was a traffic jam on the road, the plane was delayed, she was so overwhelmed that she didn't know what to do, she could only hide in the toilet alone and cry.
She still hadn't seen her father for the last time.
Her mother slapped her, and although it didn't do much, the pain spread to her heart. Mother said, when you first told you not to go so far, you had to listen, dad waited for you with his eyes, until the last moment, did not see you come back, he left with regrets. Later, she heard her brother say that when her father left, he looked up, as if he was searching for something, but in the end he didn't say anything, just a tear slipped from the corner of his eye, and he passed away.
She said: "It wasn't until my mother gave me a slap that I really realized that as parents, they never let go of my distant daughter." Bai Yang, can not do filial piety around, only occasionally can send money back, always on the other end of the phone, even the last side of the father, can not be as desired. ”
And this matter has also become an eternal knot in her heart, as long as she thinks about it, she assumes countless times, if she had rushed back, her father should be able to walk more peacefully, right?
She is the youngest daughter in the family, her father hurt her very much, when she was young, she often rode on her father's shoulder, she said that when she grew up, she would buy a big house for her father to live in, and she should be filial to them. Later, when her father was away, she recalled these things, like a dream in another life, with her father's smile, and later she could only settle in the dream together.
This is also the reason why she often advises people now that they should be cautious in marrying far away, and there is no means of transportation that can catch up with the speed of life and death.
Some regrets in life can never be made up.
02. The indifference of family affection
As the old saying goes, distant relatives are not as good as close neighbors, and this saying is vividly reflected in her.
She also has two older brothers, both living in the local county, and when she was young, her brothers also hurt her, but then they had their own families, and she went far, and the blood closeness gradually faded.
After the death of her father, her mother no longer lived alone, but took turns to live in the homes of her two sons, one of whom lived for half a year, and at this time she returned to her mother's house, which was equivalent to living in her brother's house, which was really inconvenient. If the time is short, it is better to say that if the time is slightly longer, you always need to look at the face of your sister-in-law, and the words reveal the meaning of trouble. Her brother was also inconvenient to say much.
She herself can only say sorry again and again, after all, she has been living in other people's homes, even if she tries to help with things as much as possible, she will also take a certain amount of living expenses, but sometimes she still has to make trouble. The house was not big enough, and every time she came home, she generally chose to sleep on the sofa.
She could not stop the indifference of affection, her children and the children of her two brothers, the number of times to meet is countless, it is estimated that the next generation basically do not know.
Later, she went back less and less, but as she grew older, the longing for her hometown in her heart began to become eager.
But the choice of life has always been so, in this life, she has been married, what kind of cause you choose, you will bear what kind of results accordingly, there is no regret medicine, there is no way back to go.
Long-distance marriage is not a matter of personal assumptions in many cases, and with the passage of time, the impact of far-distance marriage is definitely a lifetime. When you are young, for love, you can ignore it, but the years will always bring people new insights and entanglements, and the experience of people who come over is mostly what the latecomers will also experience. Therefore, long-distance marriage should be cautious, the original suffering in marriage, if you add long-distance marriage, then this hard work will probably be doubled. You have to be responsible for your own life, don't choose to marry easily as soon as your head is hot, this must be a well-thought-out, all aspects must be examined before you can make a decision.
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