The data shows that the proportion of men and women after 00 is still out of balance, but experts say that son preference is not necessarily happy

The idea of son preference has been circulating on the mainland for thousands of years, and until now there are still such decadent ideas in some regions, and many people will be persecuted by the idea of son preference.

Some people believe that the family must have a son to be blessed, and the woman is just a loss of money, married daughter, spilled water sooner or later will become someone else's family.

But nowadays, the cost performance of adopting a daughter has become the consensus of more families.

According to census data from the National Bureau of Statistics in 2010, the total number of people born after 2000 is about 146 million, of which more men than women are about 13 million, which means that many men will face the dilemma of not being able to find wives in the future.

On the mainland, it is widely believed that the idea of son preference has led to a serious imbalance in the proportion of men and women on the mainland today.

Although the State policy is ostensibly fair, for example, men and women are paid equally for equal work, and women also have the right to participate in various jobs, as well as the right to participate in politics and politics, and to enjoy maternity leave at work.

But in fact, in the deep concept, women's status is always inferior to men's, for example, as long as women are dressed exposed, or women's faces are good, they will be habitually used as playthings by men.

The psychology of son preference stems from the collective consciousness of human beings

Childbearing is actually the ultimate goal in the human subconscious and one of the manifestations of human animality. The idea of son preference is at least thousands of years old on the mainland and has become a tacitly accepted collective subconscious.

The collective subconscious is a proper noun in psychology, which can also be called the collective unconscious, first proposed by the famous psychologist Jung.

In the process of human evolution for thousands of years, collective experience and spiritual sediments are preserved at the lowest level of the human spirit, which are universally possessed by human beings, and will not be realized in the lifetime of individuals, and are inherited, which is the collective subconscious of human beings.

After continuous research by psychologists, what people can realize at present is also the most intuitive collective subconscious, that is, the virgin complex, in evolutionary psychology, son preference is also a manifestation of male power.

Happy married families: It is okay to have boys and girls

Why do some families necessarily want to have a son? The child was originally the crystallization of the love of the husband and wife. However, in some families, children have become "things" that please others, such as having a son to make the mother-in-law happy, making the husband happy, and so on.

Many women even have to have a son in order to block the leisurely mouths of those around them. Aren't families who have daughters unhappy?

In fact, in addition to the above objective factors, the desire to have a son also comes from the subjective factors of the mother, which is the so-called same-sex repulsion and heterosexual attraction.

In life, most fathers prefer their daughters, while mothers prefer their sons, and mothers will rely more on their sons emotionally, because their sons will become a man when they grow up and will be able to protect themselves in life.

This is actually a very normal psychological phenomenon, and we will focus on some abnormal psychological phenomena below, that is, son preference means intergenerational inheritance of the family.

In the feudal family, the status of women is extremely low, and after marriage, the status will become lower, and they will be oppressed by the mother-in-law for a long time, while the husband will only listen to the mother's words. In this case, if you can also give birth to a son, you can complete the emotional transfer to a certain extent.

When their sons get married, the mother will have a feeling that her hard-earned son has been snatched away by other women, so she has jealousy, causing them to speak ill of their daughter-in-law in life.

And women who marry in will repeat the same mental journey as their mother-in-law, giving birth to a son of their own – emotional transfer – thinking that the son has been snatched away – and being very harsh on the daughter-in-law. This creates a vicious circle and forms intergenerational transmission.

According to research, having a daughter is more likely to make parents happy

According to a study by Nanjing University of Finance and Economics, among families who have sons, parents are between the ages of 17 and 30, and their happiness is significantly lower than that of families who have daughters.

According to a study by Princeton University in the United States, most parents prefer to have a daughter in their later years, because their son is only one in two times more likely to be able to take care of his parents when he grows up.

So, will the family that gives birth to a son be happy? This is already a very backward concept, boys will behave very rebellious in adolescence, and when they grow up, they will have to marry and have children, which will consume all the manpower, material resources and financial resources of their parents. And when the parents are old, they may not be able to exchange for the care of their sons.

Of course, we are not advocating that it is better to have daughters than sons, and that men and women are equal in modern society, and as we said above, in a happily married family, having a son or having a daughter is the same.