With the opening of the two-child policy, many parents are eager to have another baby, after all, "children and daughters are complete", in the eyes of many families, it is a very happy thing.
Therefore, when we sometimes hear who is a son and a daughter, we will inevitably show envious eyes and praise others for their blessings and save the "galaxy" in the previous life.
But in fact, with the progress and development of the times, children and daughters are complete, and slowly it is no longer the best "family combination", and according to the latest survey data, there is a new "family combination" method, which is more and more popular with everyone, and has the meaning of a winner in life.
The sons and daughters are no longer popular, and the best "family combination" turns out to be this
According to the latest survey statistics, the family combination with the highest satisfaction with family happiness is not a son and a daughter, but two daughters, followed by a son, or only one daughter, followed by a son and a daughter, and finally two sons.
The ranking is as follows: two daughters> 1 son = 1 daughter> 1 son and 1 daughter> 2 sons
Seeing such a ranking, are you a little bit convinced, how come the happy moment of the legend of a son and a daughter did not appear?
So the question is, why is it that a son and a daughter are no longer popular?
In fact, in a family with a son and a daughter, many parents have shown that they will not "prefer sons to daughters" and will "treat them equally", but as children grow, they will find a wonderful thing, that is, although the balance is not impartial, in fact, it is difficult to be absolutely fair.
In addition, some families, although they are treated equally, will have "invisible patriarchal" behavior, and this behavior will often reduce the happiness index of the family, so that the two children will also suffer some harm in the process of growing up.
In fact, for a family with a son and a daughter, if you want to know whether it is a bowl of water, you must see whether there are the following performances.
A family of sons and a daughter, if there are several manifestations, in fact, a bowl of water is not flat
1, small things on the coaxing daughter, big things on the son
There are some families with a son and a daughter, whether they are away from home or at home, we can see that this family is extremely fond of their daughters, but once there is a conflict of interest, or a relatively large thing, the gap will be clear at a glance.
This situation is also a typical "invisible patriarchal" mentality, usually there is no manifestation, but once the allocation of resources, or more important things, it will appear, the most typical is that many poorer families, often in the question of who will continue to go to school, most of them will choose sons.
2, there is something to find the daughter, nothing to help the son
There are also some parents, once they have a headache and a cold, often think of their daughters for the first time, and once they are healthy and have something good, they often think about their sons.
In addition, when there are tedious and complicated things, they will also find their own daughters to help, in fact, this is not to say that they are close to their daughters, but often afraid of trouble for their sons.
3. Unbalanced distribution of resources
Although some families seem to be very fond of their daughters, once the daughters marry, then the drawbacks will be obvious, for example, in the distribution of resources and property, often married daughters, must be an outsider, and those who enjoy inheritance rights are often their own sons.
Although this kind of parents are reluctant to admit that they "prefer sons over daughters", they still adhere to the principle of "marrying out the daughter and spilling the water", so it is obvious that a bowl of water is not flat.
Mom says to you:
In fact, every child is a unique existence in this world, and they are also the best gift from God to our parents, so no matter what kind of family combination and matching, we should love them equally.