"Old age has to rely on" is the biggest wish of every old man in his old age, parents work hard to raise their children to adulthood, and when parents become old, it is natural for children to raise the elderly, but in real life, the elderly are abused by their children or the phenomenon of old people having nothing to rely on is not uncommon.
In the Chinese traditional conception, filial piety is regarded as important, and for some young people who are not filial to the elderly, they are usually condemned by society. Perhaps the reason behind the filial piety of children is not only the reason for children, and the old man's previous practices may have some inappropriateness.
The neighbor's Grandma Lin is already in her 70s, and for the elderly of his age, it is even more important to enjoy the blessings at home, and the children and grandchildren should go around their knees and enjoy the happiness of the world. But Grandma Lin not only did not enjoy the joy of heaven, but even she had to run for a living and take care of her son who was not angry.
Grandma Lin has a pension every month, which may be OKAY for maintaining her own life, but if you still have to take care of your son in your thirties, it is a bit stretched, so Grandma Lin not only saves money, but also often does a little manual work to earn some living expenses. In fact, Grandma Lin's son is more than 30 years old, not only did not have a family, the usual life and living also need To take care of Grandma Lin, and he is healthy because he has developed the habit of eating and lazy since he was a child, so he does not want to find a job, but still eats at home.
In fact, your grandmother also has a daughter, has been married, the family conditions are very good, she will give Grandma Lin a living expenses every month, but she rarely comes to visit Grandma Lin at home, Grandma Lin has a lot of criticism of this, and even often tells others that her daughter is so unfilial, no matter her brother.
In fact, the reason why Grandma Lin has this situation now has a lot to do with his previous practice, Grandma Lin has favored sons over daughters since she was young, she thinks that her daughter will marry sooner or later, and reading is useless, so when her daughter is still in junior high school, let her drop out of school and go out to work to earn money. However, for his son, he is extremely pampered and responsive, so his daughter has been particularly independent and strong since he was a child, and his son has also developed the habit of eating and lazy.
Sometimes the children's filial piety may not be entirely the fault of the children, or it may be that the elderly are young, some practices break the hearts of the children, which makes the children unwilling to face their parents when they grow up, resulting in the current situation of the children not filial piety to their parents.
Parents who do not receive filial piety from their children in their later years usually do these three things
1, too doting on children
Parents' love for their children is selfless, and many parents are too doting on their children and do everything for their children, which will develop the habit of eating and lazy. At the same time, some parents will help children to bear the wrong things, which will make children have no sense of responsibility, and it will be difficult for children to survive independently in society when they grow up, and it is simply too difficult to want such children to give themselves a pension.
2. Treat children differently
In China, the idea of son preference has a long history, although with the progress of society, the idea of son preference is no longer so serious, but in many rural families there will still be patriarchal ideas. Therefore, for some families with more children, when parents treat their children differently, children who are snubbed will resentful and will not be particularly filial to their parents when they grow up.
3. Not filial piety to the elderly
Parents are the child's first teacher, but also a very important role model for children, when parents are particularly unfilial to their elderly when they are young, this influence will take root in the child's young mind, and when they grow up, they will also learn from each other, and they will not be very filial to their parents.
We usually say that raising children to prevent old age, but some parents do have inappropriate practices, which will make them old and have no one to rely on, so as parents, they must not only treat their elderly well, but also pay more attention to the education of their children, so that when they become old, they will have a happy old age.
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If you want your child to learn mathematics well, the first step is to first understand the basic concepts of mathematics; secondly, the origin of its basic concepts, which requires parents to accompany their children to read more mathematical books and play some mathematical games in the process of tutoring their children's mathematical problems.
However, climbing the pinnacle of mathematics is not an easy task. Yang Zhenning, a world-famous physicist, said: "I also think mathematics is very boring, but when I saw Liu Xuanyu's math book, I was very surprised. Can you still learn math like this? ”
Yang Zhenning was the greatest physicist after Newton and Einstein. The math teacher he can recognize, Liu Xuanyu, can't be wrong.
Who is Liu Xuanyu?
Compared with mathematicians such as Hua Luogeng and Chen Jingrun, Liu Xuanyu is not well-known, because his energy is mainly in mathematics teaching and the preparation of primary and secondary school textbooks.
Liu Xuanyu wrote many mathematical books in his lifetime, the most famous of which are these three:
The first book is "Mr. Ma Talks About Mathematics", which mainly talks about how to use the graphical method to solve some of the four problems of arithmetic
The second book is "Mathematical Fun", which mainly talks about the mathematical problems encountered in daily life, we say that all things are mathematics, and learning mathematics through all things is the fastest.
The third book is The Garden of Mathematics, which is a bit more difficult, and it talks about the concepts of functions, continuums, induced functions, differentiation, integrals, and sums, as well as the basic principles of their operations. Although it is a little deep, the method of explanation is very good, and the sixth grade baby can still understand part of the content.
Colleagues show this book to children, usually children also tutor mathematics, sometimes feel that cram school is a bit boring. But when the child read this book, he found it very interesting, and he could also use what he learned in the cram school.
I didn't feel tired after watching it for an hour! Parents: It's a rare good book!
For this set of classic mathematical science books compiled by Mr. Liu Xuanyu, parents also gave a high evaluation, parents said that "this series of books in general has a kind of follow-through temptation, from shallow to deep feeling, the language is particularly convincing"
It can be said that after reading this set of books, there is no need to worry about mathematics in elementary and junior high schools.
This set of classic mathematics series, the biggest benefit is to stimulate students' hidden enthusiasm and desire to learn, so that students love to learn mathematics, many parents said that "Mathematics Three Books" is a rare good book, can not be missed!