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Xiao Cui has been married to her husband for more than ten years, and has been diligently handling the housework since she passed the door, and has added a grandson to her in-laws' family.
It is reasonable to say that the in-laws have a daughter-in-law of her, and they have the credit of Tim Ding, and they should be liked by their mother-in-law.
But Xiao Cui's life is not good, the in-laws have a little sister-in-law, and the in-laws are the kind of parents who value women over men.
The sister-in-law was born to her mother-in-law around thirty-five years old, so she has always been particularly spoiled for this little daughter.
When she first married in, the sister-in-law was not yet married. At that time, sweetly called her sister-in-law, and she was very happy in her heart.
But when it came time for the sister-in-law to get married, Xiao Cui was not very comfortable in her heart.
It turned out that the mother-in-law had prepared a dowry of 300,000 yuan for the sister-in-law, and it should be known that the dowry for Xiao Cui's marriage was 50,000.
At that time, the mother-in-law always said that there was no money in the family, and other parts of the wedding could be saved.
Now that the sister-in-law is married to her in-laws, she can even take out 300,000 yuan, which makes Xiao Cui see the eccentricity of her in-laws.
Because her in-laws cried poor for many years, XiaoCui's two sons could only struggle on their own, and only bought a new house and moved out in the sixth year after marriage.
At that time, when buying a house, Xiao Cuiniang's family gave 100,000 yuan, while the in-laws only symbolically took 20,000.
Therefore, the sister-in-law's dowry made Xiao Cui find her husband and asked: "Qiangzi, where did your mother get so much money to marry your sister, how did he not care when we bought the house?" ”
The husband listened to this for a while, and after a few minutes said lightly: "My sister married my mother to give some dowry you also have to worry about, do you want to give us all the money?" ”
Xiao Cui was a little angry in her heart, she obviously didn't mean this, but she didn't want her mother-in-law to be too eccentric.
But every time she complained about her mother-in-law, her husband did not count her down in a good way, resulting in the feelings of the little couple not being the same as before.
I thought that life would be so salty and not light, but everything changed after the little sister-in-law became pregnant.
As soon as the mother-in-law heard that her daughter was pregnant, she happily announced the good news to her relatives and friends.
In order to ensure that her daughter is nutritious, she also secretly took out her own pension to subsidize.
Even in order to buy authentic river fish and river shrimp, I took a car out early in the morning to find a stall.
To tell the truth, Xiao Cui saw her mother-in-law taking care of her sister-in-law so carefully, and her heart was really not a taste.
I think when she was pregnant with a child, where she could eat a small stove, not all of them had something to eat.
In the third trimester of pregnancy, she wanted her mother-in-law to bring back a durian, and the old lady came back empty-handed, on the pretext that it was sold out.
Look at the sister-in-law's treatment, and she was at that time, it was a world of difference.
In the end, the sister-in-law finally gave birth to a baby, a white and tender girl.
The in-laws saw that their granddaughters were happy and never did, and kept saying that they were the same as their sister-in-law when they were young.
Next is the matter of the sister-in-law confinement, the mother-in-law directly left the words, saying that she will move to her daughter's house to take care of her the whole time.
The old lady was particularly distressed about her daughter, not only accompanied her throughout the hospital, but also returned home with her daughter when she was discharged.
For her mother-in-law, she moved to her sister-in-law's house, and Xiao Cui shed a lot of tears at home.
In the past, after she broke her abdomen and gave birth to a son, her mother-in-law only came to the hospital once.
When she was confinement, the mother-in-law found an excuse to run back to her hometown, and later heard that the mother-in-law returned to her hometown to play cards with neighbors every day.
Xiao Cui's mother's family is far away, and she doesn't want her parents to know that she is not having a good time, so she survived by herself during the confinement period.
It wasn't until she was out of confinement that her mother-in-law returned from her hometown refreshed, still holding a lot of souvenirs in her hand.
Xiao Cui has always wanted to buy her own house as soon as possible, so when the child is one year old, she wants to go out again to find a job.
But the mother-in-law did not agree to help her with the child, but had to say that she was not in good health and needed to rest.
He also asked Xiao Cui not to go out to work, and there was a care for the family to live together.
The mother-in-law's meaning is obvious, that is, she does not want to take the child to let Xiao Cui make money to buy a house.
But Xiao Cui had a twist in his heart and found a job dedicated to the night shift.
During the day she was at home taking care of the children, and when her husband came back from work, she just went out to work.
In this way, she stayed up by night shift for four years, and the child finally reached the age of kindergarten.
This time, she resolutely sent her child to the nursery, and she found a day shift job again.
However, after several years of staying up late, Xiao Cui's body has always been a little weak, and she often has inexplicable back pain.
Fortunately, with the previous thrift, she finally bought a mortgage house at her insistence.
After moving out, the mother-in-law was obviously very unhappy, and privately counted down that the son could not control the daughter-in-law.
Xiao Cui has long seen through her mother-in-law's affection, so after moving, she rarely goes to see her in-laws, and they have never visited their grandchildren once.
This time the sister-in-law gave birth to a child, which made Xiao Cui completely chill her heart, and also remembered her mother-in-law's vendetta.
Co-authors have money to marry their daughters, and have the energy to take care of their daughters in confinement and give birth to children, but they do not care whether they are dead or alive.
She decided not to interact with her in-laws again, and from then on she was married!
For the next ten years, Xiao Cui took the child to live her own life, and the mother-in-law has been helping to cook with the child at the sister-in-law's house.
I don't know if it is retribution, the mother-in-law suddenly had stomach pain one day, and finally found a stomach tumor.
After the operation, you still need to recuperate in the hospital bed, and you must have someone around to take care of it.
Although the sister-in-law was unwilling to take care of the old woman, she did not dare to directly refuse.
He Cheng thought that the old lady said directly: "Let Xiao Cui come to the hospital to take care of me, she has sharp hands and feet and can cook, it will certainly be no problem." ”
Xiao Cui's husband agreed after listening to it, and said that he would let Xiao Cui come to the hospital tomorrow.
But in the evening, Xiao Cui listened to her husband talk about this, and directly refused: "Who made you promise, why should I take care of your mother, she helped your sister bring a child for thirteen years, why are you still hiding now?"
When the husband saw Xiao Cui say this, he said unhappily: "What do you say about those useless things, your mother is sick now, and it doesn't matter what your daughter-in-law looks like." ”
Xiao Cui did not care about her husband at all, and said that the old lady would find whoever took care of the child.
The husband did not expect Xiao Cui to speak so absolutely, so he said loudly: "You dare!" You don't go to the hospital tomorrow morning to try it, and you get a divorce if you don't wait!"
Xiao Cui looked at her husband with a cold smile, and the next day before dawn, she packed up her things and returned to her mother's house, while the son who lived in the school did not know about them.
Xiao Cui agreed to the divorce this time, moved back to her mother's house and never went back. She was ready to fight for custody of her son no matter what.
And the angry husband regretted it after the divorce, the house was empty, and soon he would be sold for shares, so where should he go?
He was a little scared in his heart, and after losing his wife and son, he realized that blindly helping his mother seemed like a mistake...
The mother-in-law in the case was too eccentric, and finally let the daughter-in-law endure it and end the marriage.
This tells us that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should not only respect each other, but also remember the following two truths.
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One: Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law cannot get along like mother and daughter.
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has been a problem since ancient times, and it is also a matter that troubles countless families.
So that the modern mother-in-law will always say good things to the daughter-in-law, as if she really wants to treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter.
As everyone knows, what they gave birth to is their relatives, and no matter how good the daughter-in-law is, she can't get along like a mother and daughter.
Therefore, whether it is a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, we must face this fact and treat the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law rationally.
Because we can't be as close as mother and daughter, we must respect each other and understand each other.
Don't be like the mother-in-law in the case, favoring the daughter and ignoring the daughter-in-law, and finally letting the daughter-in-law go to the hospital to take care of her.
It should be known that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are not a mother-daughter relationship in essence, but may only be a kind of kinship relationship.
Maintaining distance and proportion is the fundamental way to live in harmony.
And the daughter-in-law should not be too demanding of the mother-in-law, let alone use the mother's standard to demand the mother-in-law.
If your mother-in-law is really unwilling to help you, it is better to calm your mind and close the door to live your life.
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Two: Filial piety is an irresponsibility of men.
A messy mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is inseparable from a foolish filial piety man's obstruction.
As a man, you must have the responsibility and wisdom to face the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
It is even more necessary to have an objective analysis and fair evaluation of family conflicts.
Don't be like the husband in the case, who turns a blind eye to the grievances suffered by his wife and has no dissatisfaction with the mother's excessive eccentricity.
Finally, he listened to his mother's instigation and let his aggrieved wife take care of her mother.
Such a paranoid and unreasonable husband is undoubtedly destroying his wife's hopes for marriage.
Any woman who encounters such a blind and foolish husband has only one way to divorce.
Because no one wants to endure injustice in marriage for a long time, and they will not accept the oppression and threats of their partners.
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Contradictions in the extended family are always one after another.
Parents with many children also find it difficult to achieve a bowl of water flat.
Those who are just elders must learn to stop at the right time.
Do not ruin your child's family in confusion and barbarism.
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