What kind of mother-in-law relationship is the safest? Keep a certain distance and always be polite.
The more unrelated the kinship, the more it is necessary to maintain a certain distance. Only in this way can the family relationship last longer. But where there is no blood relationship, and there is no inclusive family affection, once they live under the same roof, quarrels and contradictions are inevitable.
As the saying goes, parents love their children, and they have a profound plan for it. Parents who love their children have always put everything about their children in front, and as for themselves, they have accepted all good and bad with tears.
Some people say that it is right and natural for a mother-in-law to serve her daughter-in-law's confinement. Because the daughter-in-law gives birth to the son of the mother-in-law, the child also follows the surname of the mother-in-law's son. But is this really the case?
01. Take the initiative to take care of the daughter-in-law
Aunt Xiao and her wife have worked hard all their lives, just for their son. Fortunately, the son grew up from childhood to adulthood, with good grades, sensible and filial piety, and did not need his parents to worry. Only after his son graduated from college, after he found an only daughter in the city, the old couple's old age was difficult to say.
After his son graduated, he went to the provincial city to find a job. After working for three years, I said that I had a beautiful girlfriend. At that time, Aunt Xiao was very happy, and her son was finally willing to talk about marriage.
It was only later that the son brought the girl home, and the girl's words and deeds made Aunt Xiao and his wife not like or hate. Aunt Xiao felt that this girl was vain and materialistic, and she was not practical enough to do things, and she did not really want to live a good life with her son.
But helplessly the son likes, Aunt Xiao does not want to add to the blockage for her son, can only turn a blind eye, but also hollowed out the family foundation to buy a house for them, and gave the daughter-in-law a 100,000 bride price.
However, the daughter-in-law was still not satisfied, and she was determined not to marry unless she wanted to buy a car of more than 200,000 yuan. Aunt Xiao and her wife could not bear the failure of their son's marriage, so they had to borrow money everywhere to buy them a car, which made the daughter-in-law satisfied and married. But since then, the old couple has been saddled with about 100,000 foreign debts.
Aunt Xiao and her wife have a monthly pension, and while paying off debts, they barely have enough to live. Two years after the son's marriage, the daughter-in-law became pregnant, which made Aunt Xiao and his wife happy crazy. Aunt Xiao even took the initiative to ask Miao to take care of her pregnant daughter-in-law, but she was refused.
It was not until the daughter-in-law was about to give birth that she agreed that the son would take her in-laws to the city to serve her confinement. Only after arriving at the son's house, hindered by the daughter-in-law's face, Aunt Xiao and his wife were afraid of their hands and feet, and they were careful in everything they did, for fear of upsetting the daughter-in-law.
02, the son stole 5,000 to his parents was found
When I went to my son's house, my daughter-in-law never mentioned the cost of living. The old couple did not want to embarrass their son, so they paid for vegetables from their own pockets to pay for living expenses. Although the son later said that he would give his parents three thousand yuan a month for living expenses, Aunt Xiao watched her son work alone to support the family, and never asked for her son's money.
This month, Aunt Xiao changed the pattern to make soup for her daughter-in-law. At night, when the child cried, Aunt Xiao also got up to change her diapers and feed. In short, this month, Aunt Xiao did not let her daughter-in-law go to the ground, nor did she suffer from any tiredness.
But even so, the daughter-in-law still has a lot of opinions about her, thinking that Aunt Xiao will not take the child, and she is not attentive enough to serve her. After the full moon, the old couple wanted to go back to their hometown, and the son forgave his parents' hardships, so he secretly stuffed them with five thousand yuan, but was discovered by the sharp-eyed daughter-in-law.
The daughter-in-law has been making trouble all day, saying that it is natural for the mother-in-law to serve the confinement, and the in-laws treat her badly, saying that her husband carries her to give money, and also scolds the in-laws not only for not helping to reduce the burden, but also to increase their burden. The daughter-in-law's words became more and more difficult to hear, and the faces of Aunt Xiao and her wife were also extremely ugly.
The son couldn't bear it, so he had a big fight with her, saying that you had subsidized your mother's family thousands of times before, and I didn't say a word. Now I'm only giving my parents five thousand dollars, what's the matter? Just because of your pre-marriage vanity, my parents still have 100,000 foreign debts every month. This month, my parents have paid for it, you don't appreciate it, even if you don't appreciate it, let them paste it upside down, where has your conscience gone?
03, the daughter-in-law smashed the mother-in-law to take another ten thousand
The son's words stabbed the honeycomb at once. The daughter-in-law was even more angry, she picked up things and smashed them, and threatened to change the child's surname to her own, so that Aunt Xiao and her son could not even see the child.
Looking at the way the chickens and dogs jumped at home, Aunt Xiao couldn't help but burst into tears. She did not expect that she would take her son's 5,000 yuan, and her daughter-in-law would react so much. After that, when he was not in good health and needed his son to pay for it, wouldn't his daughter-in-law get divorced?
Thinking about this, and seeing her son shake his head and sigh, Aunt Xiao still couldn't bear it after all. She took out ten thousand yuan, plus the 5,000 yuan given by her son, all of which were stuffed into her daughter-in-law' brains, and told her that this was all our family foundation, and it should be a gift for her grandson.
After taking the money, the daughter-in-law's face improved slightly. Aunt Xiao knew it, took the luggage, called on her wife to turn around and leave. But the more I thought about it, the more I held back, and the tears couldn't stop flowing down. This ten thousand yuan is actually what she and her wife have saved for a long time and are ready to pay off their debts. But now that the daughter-in-law is in trouble, she has to take it out, otherwise her son's family will not be safe.
Looking at the daughter-in-law of the villain, and then looking at the son who bowed his head and was silent, Aunt Xiao did not know whether she would come again in the future. After all, no matter how much she pays, her daughter-in-law may not appreciate it.
Today's Topic:
Do you think Aunt Xiao should still go to her son's house to help with the children?
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