As the saying goes, "young couples come to be partners", for the elderly, in their old age, they can support each other with their spouses for a lifetime, and live a warm "sunset music" is the greatest comfort in this life.
However, Aunt Liu was first "divorced" at the age of 79, and then "cleaned out of the house". When people arrive in old age, they not only have no place to stand, but also suffer repeated verbal insults from their stepdaughters.
And where did all this come about?
First, the fate of the divorced property of the elderly is a mystery
The source of all this goes back to the divorce of the old man three years ago.
On the morning of July 29, 2019, at the Intermediate People's Court located on Fuqin West Road in Jinniu District, Chengdu today, a divorce lawsuit was decided due to the breakdown of feelings.
Unlike everyday divorce cases. One of the parties to the court is 79 years old (the woman) and the other is 85 years old (the man).
Why did you come to divorce at such an old age?
Speaking of this, the party Liu Mother-in-law has a stomach full of grievances. It turned out that it was not the first time that I had been "sued to court" by my husband to ask for a divorce.
As early as the end of December 2018, the court held a court session on the marriage between the two. However, at that time, the court took into account the old age of the two elderly people, and as a wife, Grandma Liu had a strong performance in court to save her feelings, so after comprehensive consideration, she rejected her husband's divorce claim.
However, what the wife did not expect was that only five months later, the husband once again "sent himself to court" and said in court: "If this marriage cannot be divorced, I will not be able to swallow this breath when I die!" ”
The husband hated himself so much, which really made Grandma Liu, who had not seen her husband for half a year, angry and sad.
According to Grandma Liu's recollection, she met and married her current husband, Lai, in 1985. At that time, she was widowed by accident and met Lai Mou, who was also widowed, under the introduction of her friends. They both had two children, and after a while together, they felt that the other was not bad, so they came together.
After marriage, the two walked hand in hand for 34 years of life. Although they did not raise children together because they both had children. But fortunately, the relationship between the two sides has been good for decades. When they were young, the two worked hard to raise four children, and when they were older, they often went for walks and groceries together. Although the life is not to say that it is rich and expensive, it is good that it is plain and stable.
But all this was completely changed after the husband fell ill and was admitted to the hospital after the sudden cerebral infarction in May 2018. And it was because of that illness that Grandma Liu, who was 79 years old, did not see her wife who had been with her for decades until her husband died.
Lai has been plagued by diseases for many years because of his weak physique since he was a child. Not only did he suffer from Meniere's syndrome, cerebral infarction, but he also had frequent bleeding from his gastrointestinal tract.
And the wife Liu Mother-in-law in these years, can be described as dedicated to her husband. Every time her husband fell ill, Grandma Liu accompanied her meticulously at the bedside. Even the old neighbor of the two for many years said: "If it were not for her, Lao Lai would have died a long time ago!" ”
However, in the onset of this cerebral infarction in October, something different happened than usual.
Lai's biological daughter, who had rarely appeared in the past, suddenly came to her father's bedside to take care of the elderly. Moreover, after being discharged from the hospital, he took Lai on the grounds that it was more convenient to take care of Lai. Since then, the wife has not seen her husband again.
"At first he was willing to take my phone and talk to me. Later, the attitude changed and there was no contact. "Wife Grandma Liu recalled...
Two months later, the husband took himself to court for divorce on the grounds that the relationship between the two parties had broken down. On the husband's indictment, it reads:
"Soon after marriage, the man found that there was a big difference in personality and values with the woman, and the woman was a very selfish person, and the feelings had been bad. However, due to the man's own cowardly personality, he thinks that the family ugliness cannot be shamed and ashamed, and has been reclusive, as he grows older, the man needs more and more the care and care of the family, but the woman as a spouse does not care at all, every morning and evening return completely fails to fulfill the responsibilities and obligations of the wife, and is now completely cold, very eager to end this extremely painful and unfortunate marriage as soon as possible in her lifetime. ”
In this regard, the wife Liu Mother-in-law is both sad and cold. However, she did not abandon her husband because of this, and in court, she tried her best to save the marriage regardless of her face. However, due to the man's very resolute attitude, a few months later, the second instance trial still ruled on the end of the divorce between the two. This is the case, and the wife has every possible reason to agree to divorce.
This may be done when the two are dividing the common property of the legal marriage. Grandma Liu found that the house they jointly owned had been sold by her husband to someone else at a very low price below the average market price.
What is even more unexpected is that twenty days after the sale of the house, the husband also died suddenly!
So who exactly did this house go to?
Second, 34 years of love and hatred became empty overnight
The sudden death of her husband and the sudden resale of the house made Grandma Liu, who had just been "divorced", suddenly feel as if the sky had suddenly collapsed.
Helplessly, she found Qiu Wenfeng, a lawyer at Sichuan Henghexin Law Firm, under the introduction of her relatives and friends. With his help, the truth of the matter gradually became clear.
It turned out that the joint property of the two people, a set of 64.37 square meters of a house within one ring of Chengdu City, was urgently sold by her husband Lai before the divorce.
He did not consult with Grandma Liu in any form in advance, nor did he obtain his wife's consent. However, such a house, which should have been as high as 17,000 yuan per square meter, was sold to a woman with the same surname Lai, Lai Qianru, at a price of only more than 6,000 yuan per square meter. The total transaction price was only 410,000 yuan, which was almost 3 times lower than the market price at that time.
So why didn't the husband consult with Grandma Liu before deciding to sell the house? Why is the selling price so much lower than the average market price? Why is the buyer also surnamed Lai? Why didn't the buyer show up to inspect the house before buying it? Has the client's husband been suspected of colluding with an acquaintance to transfer premarital property privately? And to whom was the 410,000 yuan given afterwards? With these questions in mind, lawyer Qiu Wenfeng carried out further evidence collection.
According to the phone number provided by the real estate bureau, he took the initiative to call the buyer's mobile phone named Lai Qianru. After connecting, the other party repeatedly pushed back and said: "Typing wrong, typing wrong, she is not surnamed Lai, nor do she know whose surname is Lai." Then he hung up the phone.
The other party's emergency response quickly aroused further suspicion from Lawyer Qiu. So he called another important person about the incident, Lai's own daughter.
After the connection, Lawyer Qiu asked directly: "After your father and Mother-in-law Liu divorced, the house that was the joint property of the husband and wife was sold urgently, do you know about it?" ”
Lai's daughter heard this and replied:
"We all know about the divorce, we know about the sale of the house, but the house is not the joint property of the husband and wife. The house she lived in when she married my father was originally owned by my mother and my father. Later, after my mother passed away, they got married, and they moved to this house to change the house in time for demolition, and my father bought it in 1996. She didn't pay a penny for the house, and she knew and admitted it herself, so do you think the house belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife? ”
Lawyer Qiu went on to say: "Your father and Liu Mother-in-law have lived together for 34 years, if it is really a disagreement, why didn't you divorce early, but divorced Liu Mother-in-law in your later years, is it because the property is going to be demolished?" ”
Lai's daughter replied angrily:
"Don't listen to Grandma Liu's nonsense, this person has already lied and become a sex." My father had a disagreement with her before he was born, and he had endured it before. And usually playing outside does not care about my father's life or death, such a person, such a feeling is still necessary! And now that the court has made a fair ruling, whether it is his own will or not, the result is also clear at a glance, is there still a need to say! ”
"So is the buyer your father or an acquaintance of yours?" Why didn't she come to see the house when she bought the house? And why is the price as much as three times lower than the market price? Continued to inquire.
Lai's daughter said
"The house was indeed sold to acquaintances! Sell it to someone else, can someone else want it? Outsiders want to see the house, can Grandma Liu let in the door? The main reason my father sold the house was to see a doctor! He has no way, he doesn't have a penny on him, my father has been squeezed dry for many years, doesn't he live without selling the house? As for why it is so much lower than the market price, the price is not low, can we sell it off? Grandma Liu is in the house, the price is not low, it can't be sold at all! ”
Qiu continued to ask, "So, after selling the house, where did the money go?" And after your father died, you built a spiritual hall in the house, and your father's portrait is still inside, is there no taboo for buyers to do this? ”
"Qian has already said that my father is sick and has spent on medical treatment, and as for the rest, I am not convenient to say too much." After speaking, Lai's daughter also hung up the phone.
Third, the elderly have become a problem in litigation
According to the answer of Lai's daughter Lai Mingxia. We also found several issues. First, has the relationship between Liu's mother-in-law and her husband Lai, as a wife, changed over the decades of life? Second, is the question of real estate really not the joint property of both husband and wife, as Lai's daughter said? Third, can Grandma Liu's husband unilaterally dispose of the property of both parties and recover it?
With these questions in mind, lawyer Qiu and relevant reporters also visited some old neighbors who had been with the old couple for more than ten years.
And according to the information they provided. As a wife, although Grandma Liu and her husband Lai are a halfway couple, their feelings have always been harmonious in the decades-long marriage. Usually, they do have the AA system, but when Lai was ill, Grandma Liu did give care and care.
And for the situation that Grandma Liu usually goes out to play, neighbors have also said that it is because she was tricked into going to some health care classes, and there is no situation like Lai Mingxia said in daily life.
Not only that, these old neighbors also said a situation, that is, after the death of her husband Lai, her daughter once came to the community to make trouble, so that her stepmother rolled. Only later was stopped by everyone before he left sadly.
As for the house, Grandma Liu herself said that in 1996, the husband and wife were eligible for housing reform according to the national policy at that time. However, at that time, they could only choose one of the units, add up the length of service to buy a house together, and consider the two of them to choose to buy a house in the name of their husbands.
In addition, the previous husband and wife to buy a house did not have to write the name awareness of both parties, so the property purchased at that time has always been in the man's name. And Lai's children even used this as a reason to believe that the house belonged to the man alone!
However, lawyer Qiu believes that the two did not make other agreements when they bought the house at that time. After marriage, the income bonus of the two belongs to the common property, so the house used to buy naturally belongs to the common property of both husband and wife. However, the man did not notify Grandma Liu when dealing with this issue, which was a private handling of the transfer of the common property of both parties. Therefore, according to the legal process, it should be recoverable.
As for the problem of Liu's mother-in-law's pension, it is understood that the 79-year-old man currently has a son and a daughter. The daughter has settled abroad, and the son is also a frequent business traveler, and he rarely takes care of her.
According to his son, "For the house, in fact, it is not very important in their family's view, and the mother's body is the most important when she is older." It's just that she learned that the marriage she had been running for more than 30 years ended up with a dismal ending, which was too sad. ”
Now that Grandma Liu has defected to her son, she has finally become old and dependent, and her lawsuit with the lai family's children is still continuing in public. In the company of her son, Grandma Liu's mood has calmed down a lot, and this marriage that lasted for 34 years but ended in rupture has always been a scar that is difficult to heal in Grandma Liu's psychology, and has become a past that she does not want to mention too much.
epilogue:
A gentleman loves money and has a way of getting it. As children, there is nothing wrong with sharing their parents' legacy after the death of the elderly. But if you have to plan for this, go to great lengths, and even take advantage of your father's happy life in his old age and a lifetime of fame to achieve the goal, then this is not only ugly, but also more loss in filial piety.
China has always been a country that pays attention to filial piety, but in today's society, the status quo of "difficulty in providing for the elderly" has not been completely and properly resolved. Most of the main reasons for this phenomenon are related to the division of property.
Although the State has introduced many binding provisions to protect the rights of the elderly from the legal level. But directly confronting Bo Gongtang with children is never the end that parents want to see. Therefore, it is difficult for these provisions and provisions to be truly and completely implemented.
One day we too will have our own families and children. Imagine what kind of attitude we expect our children to treat themselves when we become old? Compare your heart to your heart, and don't let your parents, who have worked all their lives, be left alone in their old age because of various problems. This is not only the responsibility of our children, but also our obligation.
The waiter is based on joy. Let everyone actively respond to the call of the state to build a filial piety society, and I hope that all parents will have fun in their old age.
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