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In the custom of marriage, the in-laws will give a dowry, the mother-in-law will also have a dowry, the dowry is naturally mostly given to the mother-in-law's family, so is there a part of the in-laws' family in the dowry?
This is naturally an understanding of a person, some people feel that the mother's family is something for the daughter, can not be counted as the joint property of the husband and wife, and the in-laws are more beautiful and half-cent relationship.
Some people also feel that as long as it is marital property, it belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife, and as for the in-laws, it basically has nothing to do with it.
Therefore, most of the views still revolve around the issue of marital property, and this property can not be counted as the head of the in-laws.
But some people always feel that good things should have something to do with themselves, and Sakurako has met such a mother-in-law.
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At first, Sakurako did not want to marry her current husband, but Sakurako was not young, and her parents were anxious about her marriage, so under the persuasion of her parents' relatives and friends, Sakurako still got married.
Sakurako's in-laws' family is not very well-off, they did not give much dowry money when they got married, the house was not mentioned, and the in-laws still lived in the old bungalows before, and even the floor did not have the kind.
Sakurako's family also knows the situation of the in-laws, afraid that the girl will be wronged, so she married a three-room house, and after marriage, Sakurako and her husband also cleaned up and moved in.
But within a few days, the husband took the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law together, that day Sakurako just came home, she saw the mother-in-law and the sister-in-law in the living room watching TV, originally thought it was just a guest, did not expect to be a permanent residence.
Sakurako's father-in-law has been working outside for many years, and the two women who have not yet married are really afraid of their sister-in-law and mother-in-law living in the bungalow, so they want to come and live with their sons, and anyway, the three-room house also lives.
Although Sakurako was not happy, there was no reason to refuse, so she had to let her sister-in-law and mother-in-law live first, but her intuition told her that this must not be a good thing.
Sure enough, within a few days, Sakurako began to be unable to bear the little sister-in-law's daily drama until very late, and the sound was still very loud to disturb her rest. And the mother-in-law is also not used to Sakurako not like to clean up the house, and sleeps until eleven o'clock on the weekend to wake up.
The smell of gunpowder between the three of them grew stronger and stronger, and every word they said had to be clipped with a gun and a stick.
Sakurako is a person who is more arrogant, can't stand a little grievance, originally felt that she was married, and still had a bad relationship with her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, thinking about it, she wanted to end this marriage.
But because her marriage family also worried a lot, if she divorced, her parents must not let her die of anger.
Struggling, Sakurako found out that she was pregnant, and sakurako had a child, her heart was also solid, she was not young, it was not easy to conceive a child, and she dispelled the idea of divorce, but this matter made the mother-in-law and sister-in-law mutter.
Sakurako has only been married for more than a month, and the speed of this pregnancy is too fast, and the mother-in-law thinks that this child will not be her son's.
The two of them thought about it and told Sakurako's husband about their thoughts, and the whole family jumped directly.
In the end, Sakurako's mother-in-law and her mother-in-law's family accompanied Sakurako to the hospital for a check-up, calculated the time, and determined that the child was indeed her husband's, and this matter was finished.
But this matter Sakurako is not so easy to put down, then as long as the sister-in-law does not go home at night, Sakura will ask the mother-in-law, the sister-in-law is not in love, living in the man's house can not be unmarried and pregnant.
The angry mother-in-law jumped straight to her feet, and there was no way to take her pregnant woman, so she could only complain to her son every day, hoping that his son could manage Sakurako.
But helpless, the son is not useful, after all, Sakurako is pregnant, can not say it, in the end can only be cold treatment, the whole family no longer cares about Sakura.
Since sakurako married in, she knew that her husband and herself were not the same heart, and now that the family lived in their own house and gave themselves a look, Sakurako was angry.
But at the moment, she couldn't do anything when she was pregnant, sakurako could only endure, but fortunately, she didn't see her heart at work every day.
But this calm did not last long, and the sister-in-law was a demon again, bringing back her boyfriend and saying that she was going to live together.
The sister-in-law is actually not young, four or five years younger than Sakurako, and in recent years, she has also talked about a lot of love, all of which have ended in disease, no job specifically at home to nibble on the old, and the money earned by her father-in-law working outside is also spent on her.
The mother-in-law and the sister-in-law came to live in Sakurako's house, but when they brought a strange man back to live, Sakurako firmly disagreed. "You don't let her bring a partner to live here, she can't marry out later, are you responsible?" The mother-in-law's words made Sakurako angry and funny.
On the same day, she hung the three-room house for sale at the agency, and bought a two-room house, and when she learned that Sakurako had sold the house, her mother-in-law was even more angry: "Where did you sell the house so where do we live?" "Don't you have a house yourself?" Why come and live in my house as an outsider. Sakurako looked unremitting.
She had a showdown with her husband early in the morning, and if she wanted to live, she would move to a small house with her, and after the birth of the child, the family would be happy and harmonious, and if she didn't want to get over, she would get divorced and get out. Although her husband was distressed about her mother and sister, Sakurako couldn't really afford it, so she had no choice but to send her mother back to the bungalow.
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Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law also pay attention to one thing and one thing, as long as you have the initiative and a strong heart, you can make yourself invincible.
First: You should not associate living with your parents with filial piety.
Is it filial piety not to live with your parents? We may all have had similar doubts.
In the past, when married, most of the women married into the man's family and lived with the in-laws, but now it is more that the younger two are not in their hometown, but go to other places to settle down.
Although he did not live in the man's house, he still inevitably fell into the situation of living with his in-laws.
Many people feel that their lives are good, they should take their parents to enjoy the so-called happiness, regardless of whether their parents live in habits or not, whether their other half minds or not.
Just like Sakurako's husband in the above article, after marriage, regardless of whether Sakurako agrees or not, she will take her mother and sister to live, which will cause a series of contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and even the mother-in-law wants to be anti-guest and unite the family to bully Sakura.
Fortunately, Sakurako was meticulous in her thinking, and in this marriage relationship, she turned the tide and drove away her mother-in-law and sister-in-law, so that the marriage continued.
Most men want their parents to live with themselves, not simply want to fulfill filial piety, but also want to enjoy the care of their parents, and filial piety eventually becomes a matter of wife.
The mother-in-law was originally a stranger to his wife, suddenly appearing in her life, criticizing her everywhere, and letting her do filial piety, thinking that no one would be so willing.
The resulting family conflicts are numerous, but most people are still reluctant to separate from their parents.
In fact, filial piety and not living together are not necessarily related, nor do they have to live together to fulfill filial piety, but respecting the wishes of parents can make parents happier.
Not living with parents also greatly reduces the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the contradiction between husband and wife, and their own small life, isn't it very good.
Second: the best way to get along between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to stay away.
The mother-in-law relationship is a rare relationship that gets closer and worse, mainly because of the person who is in contact with each other.
As a mother, for the future daughter-in-law must have her own set of standards, but this set of standards is obviously impossible to be exactly the same as her own son, so the mother-in-law looks at the daughter-in-law, how is it so bad. If you live together, it is inevitable that you want to say a few words, and naturally everyone will be unhappy.
As a daughter-in-law, I always hope that my mother-in-law can also hope to kiss herself like a daughter-in-law, but people are always close to each other, and how can they be completely satisfied. Coupled with the comparison with other friends, I always feel that my mother-in-law is not as good as other families, really live together, and I can't meet my own requirements.
Therefore, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is still only suitable for a long-distance view, do not understand each other, do not disturb each other, and there is naturally less contradiction without intersection.
But some people have said, even if you don't want to get along, you must get along, now the social pressure is so great, you have to go to work with children, you can't help your mother-in-law to help with your children, how can you hide from it?
With children, you can also live together, you can rent a similar house for your parents, send your children during the day, and pick them up at night, so that you can take care of your children and leave space for each other.
In fact, the so-called respect and distance, it is not necessary to get along, but do not interfere with each other, even if there is a limited intersection, do not cross the boundary.
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