It is very interesting to see an emotional topic on a certain tone.
One netizen was upset because his wife used the bride price as her own private money. According to him, before marriage, the wife had her own savings of 60,000, he gave 60,000 dowries for marriage, and about 15,000 for three gold, and when she got married, her parents gave 20,000 to change the mouth, 10,000 to press the box, and the full count, all the money added up to about 160,000 or 70,000.
But the money, which his wife considered to be her own, was not the common property of the family. On this point he disagreed with his wife, who in his view was the joint property of the husband and wife.
In addition, before they met, he himself had a down payment to buy a suite in installments, and at present this property still owes the developer a down payment of more than 100,000 yuan, with a monthly payment of more than 4,000, and the decoration after the delivery of the house needs about 100,000, so many places that need money, the wife is not willing to pay he does not understand.
According to his wife, it was because the house did not have her name. So if they bought the second property together, she was willing to pay for it, and now that the two of them have been married for less than 5 days, the two are already in conflict. The reason for the conflict is that his parents gave his wife a change of mouth fee and the money to pick up his wife to get on and off the bus have been asked to leave.
This netizen is very interesting, dare to feel that he does not want to eat a little loss, has the chicken thief to this point? Even the wife's dowry money is being calculated, and it still feels that it is the joint property of the husband and wife, where does the joint property of the husband and wife come from? The bride price is given to the woman before marriage, and even if it is brought back after marriage, it is also the woman's own private money.
The house I bought before marriage does not have the woman's name, so why let the woman make a down payment and decoration?
There's nothing that can't be understood. If the woman really listened to him take out the private money, presumably the life after that would be miserable. On the fifth day of marriage, I have already begun to calculate the woman's money, which is really enough.
For this matter, some netizens incisively commented: "The Lang Lang in "Know It or Not" will not worry about his wife's private money, but you are worried about it, don't know shame? ”
There is a sentence in the original work of "Knowing or Not" that Sheng Hong said: "Partial and unbiased, only the man who did not show up was worried about the dowry of women all day, and my brother-in-law was also a famous family of three generations of official eunuchs, that is, he used the dowry of the royal family, and now he is not good at speaking in front of his eldest sister." When I first courted, I made a great determination, my wife's dowry I will not move, all left to Changbai, anyway, it is also the descendants of the Sheng family. ”
Only men who are not out of the woods spend their days worrying about their women's dowries.
In fact, women are really not afraid to spend money on their own families, but they are afraid that the pillow people around them will spend their minds to calculate you. His premarital property does not write your name and wants you to pay, you want to make money, you can write the name, between husband and wife, some accounts should also be counted on the surface.
The woman's change of mouth fee and the money for getting on and off the bus have been gone, indicating how selfish and greedy she is?
I often tell some married women that you must let yourself have some spare money in your hands, you have money to do things, even if you are wronged, you still have money to protect yourself. If you are really completely upturned, then your married life is not easy to say. People are happy to give you some money, people are not happy that you have no place to cry if you want to, who makes you subject to people?
Is the bride price the woman's private money?
In most of the families around me, whenever a daughter gets married, the parents will most likely take the dowry and give the bride price to their daughter. The bride price and dowry are generally in the hands of the woman herself, and the money is used by the woman herself as a childbirth and marriage risk after marriage. After all, the woman may lose her job because of the child, but the man will not face this situation. In case the woman has no job, her relationship with her husband is not harmonious, and she will not be able to live if she has money in her hand.
The bride price and dowry are considered to be the risk protection of the woman after marriage.
When I got married, I also had a bride price, but the bride price was only twenty or thirty thousand yuan, and my parents gave me a dowry of twenty thousand yuan, and then it was fifty thousand yuan. My husband will not worry about these tens of thousands of dollars, after all, these money really can not play a big role. But I can earn money myself, and the value I have created after marriage is far more than tens of thousands of yuan. If a man limits his vision to his wife's private money, then he will not have anything to do, after all, his own pattern is so big.
Whether the woman will take the money from the bride price and dowry to use it, the key is whether you are worth it. The man remembered too early, and calculated too early, which made the woman a little disappointed in him. After I got married, I also took out the dowry money and dowry to spend on family living expenses, the problem is that I can earn more money myself, far more than these tens of thousands, these tens of thousands I do not care so much.
But after getting married, I will still have my own money, which is really mine, and my husband will not care. Two people get married, raise children together and bear the living expenses of a family, do not calculate who, and do not count on the wife. If you really have difficulties and you get your wife's trust, she can naturally help you, but if she doesn't believe you, it can only be said that you are not trustworthy.
Reflect on your own problems, if you don't worry about her money too early, how can she argue with you.
Women have two aspects in terms of fertility costs, physiological and social costs.
Physiologically, it refers to the pain of pregnancy in October, the pain of morning sickness, and the changes in the female body brought about by pregnancy. The social cost refers to the impact of childbearing on women's participation in social labor and the obstacles to personal development. We all know that women are not equal to men in the workplace because of fertility. As a woman, being married and not pregnant is discriminated against, and you may be dismissed if you are pregnant. It is also obvious that childbearing affects women's career development.
Working women with regular jobs in big cities will have five social insurance and one gold and maternity leave, but for those women in the countryside who work around without five insurance and one gold, their childbirth costs are more borne by the father of the child, and the bride price is one of the forms of compensation. This is also the reason why in the countryside, the bride price still exists, while in the city, there is no concept of the so-called bride price.
I have written so thoroughly, and I hope that men who are worried about women's money can find ways to earn money on their own, rather than worrying about their wives' private money. Don't worry about tens of thousands of bride price, there is no need. Of course, the "sky-high dowry" is not respected, but if you calculate tens of thousands of dowries and dowries, that is your problem.
Do you think the bride price is the woman's private money? What do you think of the man in the text calculating his wife's money? Is the wife's savings joint property? Welcome to leave a message to discuss, thank you!