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I like a sentence very much: "The superior people do not move to do things, the middle people are busy and do not do things, and the inferior people are buzzing and doing things." ”
Since ancient times, there has been a saying of "making a fortune in a muffled voice". People who can make a lot of money will not be exaggerated and ostentatious, but those who are poor and scum will desperately put gold on their faces.
Whether it is making money or expanding power, it is necessary to be "quiet", cleverly avoid the eyes of others, and surpass the front.
In interpersonal communication, most people like to brag and make friends, but only a small number of people are accustomed to being silent.
So, what are the silent people doing? They are not idle, but wisely observe everything, find the right direction and reliable connections, quiet and far-reaching.
The Indian philosopher Krishnamurti once said, "Observation without comment is the highest form of human intelligence." ”
It is true that the quiet person, the great thing is that it is observation.
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Observe society and create opportunities.
The Old Book of Tang and the Biography of Wei Zheng writes: "With copper as a mirror, you can wear a crown; with history as a mirror, you can know the rise and fall; with people as a mirror, you can see the gains and losses." ”
Society is like a mirror, you laugh at it, you cry when you cry it. If you don't pay attention to everything in society, you will be eliminated by society.
Interpersonal communication, ostensibly a group of people eating and drinking, or pursuing some kind of interest together, establishing a circle of common interests. In fact, this is a window of insight into society.
During the Qing Dynasty, Pu Songling was born in a scholarly mendi, but he took many consecutive examinations and did not get a meritorious name. Life was in trouble for a while, and there was no purpose.
Later, Pu Songling went from village to village to collect folk tales, and opened a tea house in front of his home, so that tea drinkers could use stories instead of tea money.
After years of collection and collation, it was written as "Liaozhai Zhiyi". Bizarre stories, beautiful love, and the yearning of life are all in the book, which makes future generations praise them.
Writer Lao She said: "The ghost fox has a personality, laughing and scolding into an article." ”
Whether it is a person or a demon, they all have personalities and different life trajectories, not to mention the society composed of people?
A person who has mastered the various forms of sentient beings knows the current situation of society, and then analyzes it, can become an article, and can also find a way out of life. Pushing yourself in the direction of social development is to go with the flow.
A person who is not familiar with the world, walking into society, is like a blank piece of paper, doing anything, it seems naïve, doomed to be difficult to achieve.
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Observe yourself, reflect and be alert.
A child of a friend's family, because the family is very rich, the friend does his best to create a good learning environment for the child. Therefore, when the child goes to primary school, the grades have always been good. By junior high school, academic performance had dropped significantly.
Once, the child came home with a math test paper that was only sixty points, and said to his parents: "Look at you, always let me go to the tutoring class, waste time and energy; look at you, let me go to a private school, regardless of my feelings; besides, in my class, there are people making noise every day..."
All the faults are someone else's, and this child never realizes what he has done wrong. Perhaps, he was used to living under the arrangement of his parents, and perhaps he was really at a loss and could not withstand any setbacks.
Everyone has a nature, but also has his own faults and virtues. But as soon as people open their eyes, they look at others, and habit becomes natural.
Zeng Zi said: "My three provinces and my body--for people to seek loyalty? Friends and not convinced? Can't get used to it? ”
When interacting with people, any contradictions and faults, the first time is not to blame others, but to reflect on themselves and put away all their "nonsense".
If you do this, you will improve yourself.
People who are silent will leave a lot of time to do the "blade inward" thing, just like scraping bones to heal wounds.
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Observe others, know thyself and know thyself.
The ancients said, "Know thyself and know the other, and win every battle." ”
If you don't know who your opponent is, just find someone to fight, and the end is your own life, which is really stupid.
Mr. Dongguo, not knowing how bad the wolf is, let the wolf, who is being hunted by the hunters, hide in his pocket. Later, the wolf's nature was exposed, and he felt fear when he wanted to hurt him.
If Mr. Dongguo had known about wolves, he wouldn't have done so.
When people interact with each other, the most feared thing is that "there is no distinction between friend and foe."
If you're an incongruous person on the team, you're being scolded — a teammate like a pig; if you're a great player on the team, you're a god-like teammate.
Whether it is confrontation with others or cooperation, we must know ourselves and know each other, otherwise the unlucky person will always be you.
Su Qin, a famous diplomat during the Warring States period, lobbied the six countries of Qi, Chu, Yan, Zhao, Wei, and Han to form an alliance and resist the Qin state together, in exchange for more than ten years of peace.
When he was in the State of Yan, he said that Yan and Zhao were interdependent in each other; when he was in the State of Zhao, he said that Zhao, Han, and Wei themselves were strategic partners; when he was in Korea, he said that Han was an attendant of the State of Qin, and that the State of Qin was bullying people...
Grasp the weakness of the opponent, know the subtle feelings between people, and then speak, then as soon as you open your mouth, you will win.
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Conclusion.
There is a passage in the "Zhou Yi" called "Elephant Transmission", which says five methods of observation: childlike view, voyeuristic view, view of self, view of the country, and view of people.
Childlike view is immature, peeping is immoral and one-sided. High-level people are "looking at me, looking at the country, and looking at people", adhering to the "supremacy of the great view", always taking into account the overall situation, but also taking into account the part, with the help of the wisdom and eyes of others, to achieve their own life and career.
As the saying goes, "The blessed do not have to be busy, and the unblessed are busy breaking their intestines." ”
The person who can do it without hurrying is not that he is particularly lucky, but that he has already done it.
Instead of being busy and talking blindly, it is better to observe quietly, slowly, steadily, and the blessings will come from nowhere.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
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The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.