Is there any truth in the remarriage of the elderly?
The TV series "All Is Good" is particularly true, a young woman is willing to marry the uncle, always have to figure something out.
Remarriage is not terrible, the terrible thing is that you think that love is pure, then you trap yourself in the field of feelings, and in the end reality will give you the answer.
The 84-year-old Uncle Zhu is like this, he remarried with a 48-year-old woman, bent on thinking that the other party really likes him, and the woman's attitude made him dumbfounded.
01 The mother-in-law went home to live for 8 days and transferred the family's savings
Uncle Zhu turned out to be a teacher, was well taken care of by his wife and children, and never did housework.
After his wife died of illness, he went to his son's house for a year to live, feeling uncomfortable, young people are busy with work, they are lonely at home, and there are no neighbors they know, walking around the house every day, life is even more lonely.
So, Uncle Zhu returned to his old house, he has a salary of more than 5,000 yuan per month, living expenses are enough, in order to make the living conditions better, he invited an hourly worker under the introduction of friends.
Only more than 2,000 a month, you can have food on time, the home is also cleaned, Uncle Zhu is also very satisfied with his life, he reads every day, is to go to the park to bask in the sun, the days go on leisurely day by day.
One day in the park, he met a woman who looked very sad, the woman said that she was divorced, was kicked out by her in-laws, did not find a job and no place to go, did not know how to live?
Uncle Zhu is a warm-hearted person, seeing that the other party is negative, he can't help but tell the other party about the philosophy of life, turn the knowledge in his brain into chicken soup, and persuade the other party to live well.
In order to help the woman, Uncle Zhu even quit the part-time job, asked the other party to take care of himself, and gave 3,000 wages every month, and the woman was very grateful and naturally agreed.
For a period of time, Uncle Zhu felt that women understand themselves very well, he likes to talk to each other about the content of books, women are also people who love to read books, always listen to it with relish, and have the intention of seeing each other and hating the night.
I don't know who took the initiative first, the two had a good relationship, and actually went to get a marriage license, but the woman said that she wanted to take care of the children, and could only live in a rental house first, and Uncle Zhu also agreed.
The elderly's desire for emotions, most of which need to be cared for and understood, he feels that being able to meet a confidant is a fortunate thing in life, and he has never thought too much.
02. The elderly remarry, should they talk about money
Uncle Zhu never expected that his other old house would be demolished, and he also received 400,000 yuan in compensation, which was sent to his account, but he also knew that his son's family also had a share.
Originally, he was planning to wait for his son to buy a house and take it out, so that his son could be used as a down payment, who knew that when his son needed it, he found that the money on the passbook was only 60,000 yuan, and where did the remaining 340,000 go?
The flow account shows that the money is transferred in batches from the mobile phone, but Uncle Zhu does not use a smart phone, nor has he ever transferred the account, he can't understand what is going on, and the daughter-in-law will help him check the reason.
The daughter-in-law found that the money was transferred within a week, and she asked her father-in-law, who did she contact that week? Father-in-law told his daughter-in-law that he had remarried, counting the time, those days just happened to be the woman taking the initiative to move back, and then somehow left, and no longer contacted Uncle Zhu, Uncle Zhu did not even know where the house rented by the other party was?
In order to find out the reason, the daughter-in-law found the staff and helped her find the truth together.
If you want to find a person, it is still very easy to have each other's identity information, they quickly found the woman, the daughter-in-law came forward and gave her a slap, asking the woman why she wanted to cheat the old man's money? He also quietly transferred the family's savings.
The woman did not resist, looked weak in personality, did not hide from being beaten, sat directly on the ground without speaking, and was asked by the staff to be anxious before saying: "We are husband and wife, and his money is half of mine." ”
What is this logic, the joint property of the husband and wife is the income of the two people in the marriage stage, not after remarriage, the other party's money has half of your money, Uncle Zhu's money comes from demolition, although in his account, but not all belong to him, and the time of demolition is also before he remarries.
From another point of view, even if it is the joint property of the husband and wife, one party wants to transfer the other party's large savings, the other party also needs to have the right to know, and the woman's behavior is obviously deception, she herself uses the mobile phone to transfer money, and cheats the old man's password, and leaves after the money arrives, such behavior will of course make the parties angry.
At first, Uncle Zhu still trusted her, thinking that she would not deceive herself, and that the loss of money may be a problem with the bank, and seeing the woman admit it, he finally realized that he had made the other party think simple.
03. Recognize yourself in order to avoid being hurt
Looking at this Uncle Zhu, people have to think of Su Daqiang.
The two are too similar, both believe in love in old age, thinking that the other party really loves themselves, in fact, the other party wants only money.
Old people have a weakness, that is, loneliness and loneliness, they are eager to be taken care of, if someone just booed him warm, he will let down his inner guard, and even willing to give the other party a part of the money.
In life, those people are taking advantage of the weakness of the elderly, selling the elderly some useless health care products, and some people pretend to have feelings to create a good old age for the elderly, which is actually an illusion.
So how can older people protect themselves from being cheated in their later years?
1. Recognize yourself
When you are old, you should have an old way of living.
You can talk to like-minded people about hobbies and hobbies, and you can also exercise appropriately, but love can not be sought, do not force it.
If you meet a young woman who says she loves you, what you need to do is not rejoice, but think about what you have that the other party looks up to, if you have a few money in your pocket, you still have to keep it well, after all, the money spent on yourself is better than giving it to others.
2, do not blindly believe in love
Remember Cai Genhua's admiration for Su Daqiang?
Men are easily attracted to Mu Qiang's psychology, but you have to see the essence through the phenomenon, love is a two-way rush, if you have no way to give each other a happy life, don't easily agree to be together.
Feelings do not equal feelings, sometimes you see a person in a happy mood, does not mean that there is love between you, but the other party deliberately created the atmosphere.
3. Communicate with your children more often
The elderly live alone, but also communicate with their children, eat and chat together, and feel the happiness of their children and grandchildren around their knees.
If Uncle Zhu did this, it is estimated that he would not be deceived, but he believed too much in women, quietly got a marriage license, and also told the other party the password of the bank card, the other party achieved the purpose and left, he did not even know how it happened, it was really sad.
Here, I also want to tell you that if you have time, go home to see more, use your own company to alleviate the loneliness of the elderly, and don't wait for problems to regret it.
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