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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional teacher, writing emotional texts that take the heart, hoping to use warm words to bring you some spiritual comfort.
Wilde said: "If a man's love is not single-minded, then he will feel happy with any woman." ”
Indeed, if a man's feelings cannot be loyal, it is impossible to cherish the women around him, but he will use affection for every woman he likes, which seems very cheap.
We know that feelings cannot tolerate a single flaw, and once they destroy the original purity, they will not go back.
Even if you try to save it, even if the other party has forgiven, the spiritual damage cannot be released.
However, after many men enter marriage, they cannot abide by the bottom line, and they are prone to extramarital affairs, which eventually makes the marriage fall apart.
Some women are very puzzled, they love men so much, wholeheartedly for the family, why in the end they can not be cherished?
In fact, men will have relations outside of marriage, which shows that they are irresponsible, basically irrelevant to women, but the problem is in himself.
In the end, a man, having sex with the opposite sex outside of marriage, can't escape the following three reasons:
First, the marriage has entered a period of flatness, and it is impossible to bear loneliness
In this world, no matter what kind of feelings, at the beginning, they are warm and affectionate, and they are particularly sincere.
However, over time, feelings must gradually cool down and become very flat.
Especially after entering marriage, feelings cannot be as fresh and romantic as when they were in love, and more are chicken feathers of chai rice oil and salt.
At this time, the feelings of both sides are cold, the relationship has begun to be estranged, if you can not communicate and maintain in time, it is easy to make the marriage cold.
Because of this, many men gradually become impatient with loneliness after their marriages enter a period of dullness.
They begin to look for fresh feelings outside, and once they meet a woman who is in love, it is easy to breed ambiguous feelings.
In fact, no matter what kind of marriage, the husband and wife will have a period of estrangement.
For example, people often say "three years of pain, seven years of itch", in this stage, if men can't stand it, can't stand loneliness, it is easy to betray the marriage.
In reality, those men who have a relationship outside of marriage are nothing more than not holding on to it during this period, and finally one wrong step, one wrong step, and the marriage is falling apart.
Therefore, this requires men to correctly face the bland period in marriage, must take the initiative to maintain feelings with women, and must not have other thoughts.
Because, once the marriage is destroyed, even if you try to save it in the future, you may not be able to return to the original state.
Only by putting your mind at home and guarding the marriage with your heart can you get true happiness.
Second, the bones are full of heart, and they are disloyal to their feelings
In reality, the reason why some men are prone to extramarital feelings is nothing more than that they are careful in their bones and are not loyal to their feelings.
Such a man, in the relationship appears extremely insincere, has no sense of responsibility, and cannot give women a real sense of security.
Once they feel tired of marriage, they will quietly go out and seduce other women in order to get inner enjoyment and satisfaction.
In marriage, no matter how well a woman does, they turn a blind eye and don't care.
Moreover, even if a woman loves him wholeheartedly, it is difficult to touch his heart. Because, they spend their hearts in their bones, and they will not cherish you because of your efforts.
This kind of man is basically what people often call "scumbag" or "Aquaman".
Those who have watched "Thirty Only" know that Liang Zhengxian in it is a man with a heart in his bones, he has a girlfriend himself, but he goes around to stir up other women, and he is particularly irresponsible for feelings.
At first, when he pursued Wang Manni, he showed affection, but later, when the freshness passed, he gradually did not care.
When he finally broke up with Wang Manni, he acted particularly desperate, calculating everything, without responsibility and sincerity to speak of.
Moreover, he will not stop there, he will still pursue other women, and the feelings are very cheap.
Such a man, whether in love or marriage, cannot be faithful, and once he is tired of feelings, he will re-shift his goals.
At the end of the day, many men will have relationships outside of marriage, i.e. they are intrinsically careful and irresponsible for their feelings.
This kind of man can't be loyal and single-minded, and it won't bring the happiness that women want, and it's the least worthy of women to pay.
Third, covet the tenderness of the little girl and ignore the warmth of the home
Some men will have sex with the opposite sex outside of marriage, and another reason is that they covet the tenderness of little girls, always thinking that they are very considerate, and ignoring the warmth of the family.
In their opinion, the little girl is young, very happy to get along, can find her previous feelings, and feel more gentle and considerate.
However, what they did not think about is that any feeling is not set in stone, and the romance and thoughtfulness you think, when you really live together, will inevitably produce other contradictions, and the cycle will start again.
Therefore, instead of immersing yourself in extramarital feelings and coveting the tenderness of the moment, it is better to guard your marriage with your heart, which is the happiness of a lifetime.
However, some men do not understand this truth, nor can they resist the gentleness of the little girl, and eventually go wrong, and the gain is not worth the loss.
When it comes to waking up, there may be no going back, because the woman who is hurt can't let go of her life.
Take Xu Huanshan in "Thirty Only", who later fell in love with Lin Youyou, is she really better than Gu Jia?
No, but she brings men ambiguous tenderness, and a momentary freshness, not to mention that when this woman still has some means, it is easier for men to compromise.
In the face of Gu Jia's such a good wife, inside and out are a hand, and one hand to help her husband to achieve career success, she finally did not get cherished, not her own fault, but Xu Huanshan has no principles, and is confused by the young Lin Youyou.
Once men have no basic principles and no moral bottom line, they are easily guided by external feelings and eventually lose themselves.
Therefore, the reason why many men enter the feelings outside the marriage, that is, the tenderness of coveting little girls, feel that they are more considerate, and the short-term tenderness makes them lose the bottom line.
However, after all, the love outside of marriage will not last long, if the man violates the bottom line and is unfaithful to the feelings, he will eventually pay a tragic price.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
For men who have love outside of marriage, they will never only love one person, especially those men who have a heart in their bones, but also see one who loves one.
In their eyes, all the women who can be touched are his little treasures, acting particularly selfish, without any sense of responsibility and responsibility.
Therefore, I hope that men can treat marriage correctly and do not forget their bad wives, because this is the lover who will accompany you for the rest of your life.
Those so-called love outside of marriage, there is no true love, do not lose the most precious emotions and family because of a momentary freshness, can not keep the bottom line, and the ensuing cost must not be able to bear.
To sum up, a man, having sex with the opposite sex outside of marriage, cannot escape the following three reasons:
Marriage has entered a period of blandness, can not stand loneliness; bones of flowers, unfaithful to feelings; coveting the tenderness of little girls, ignoring the warmth of the family.
I hope that men can remain rational in marriage, and only by adhering to the bottom line of marriage can they have true happiness.
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Author: Ye Feifei yff, focus on the field of emotion creation and sharing, with emotions to communicate with you and my heart, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.