In marriage, the belief that you have to work hand in hand is important. No matter what kind of quarrel occurs, no matter what kind of burnout occurs, the two people are still willing to deal with the problems they encounter, including the inappropriate parts.
Although I regret it and want to divorce, I can still say "I do" again and again.
I'm afraid that if I really start to preset my own retreat, then the divorce will be put on the agenda sooner or later.
In fact, divorce does not come from the temptation of the outside world, and many of them are caused by internal contradictions and crises. The things that disappoint people are simple, cold, selfish, harsh, and fed up with the attitude of taking it for granted, will accumulate day after day, year after year.
The snowball rolled up, and the final result was either an explosion or a collapse, although there were many women who were sure that they would be happier than they are now if they found another one.
In any case, everything has traces to follow, and whoever wants to divorce will have signs.
If a woman, she wants to get a divorce!
1. Withdraw from the interests of the family.
No longer regard yourself as a member of this family, leave the relationship in family interests and internal affairs, and do not think that you have any responsibilities and obligations that you should fulfill.
No matter what happens, her attitude will always send you a message: "That's your family's business." ”
This is not a kind of anger between husband and wife, always with a threatening nature, but really indifference in a calm tone or attitude.
I don't want to ask about the affairs of my in-laws, and I don't want to blend in, and I don't want to draw a line with any result. From the previous positive attitude to the current slack and laziness, what is it like? She felt that she had found the center of gravity of her life and only had to take care of her children and parents from then on.
Including the membership of the in-laws' family, family conflicts, and human relations, even if they hear the discussion of the outside world, they are too lazy to go out for whom and argue for anything.
2. Prepare your own protection.
All departures are premeditated, and this process of premeditated departure is also a process of preparing for retreat and determining guarantees. Specific performance, will hide, will conceal, will transfer, especially in the matter of money.
In ordinary life, men will also find that she is living more and more selfishly, except to take care of herself, but to ask nothing. For matters of interest, it has also begun to become calculated, and if you can fight for one more point for yourself, you will fight for one more point for yourself, which has been decided, but the time is not up.
It seems to be calm, but behind this calm, it seems that a great storm is brewing.
Or the preparation for divorce, how to arrange children, how to arrange parents, as far as possible before divorce, cut off their own concerns.
In fact, it also shows that she has made up her mind to divorce and made preparations, just so that after the divorce, she can be completely determined.
3, can not tolerate anything.
Maugham said:
"A woman can be crueler than anyone to a man who still loves her but she no longer loves; she is not only unkind to him, but she cannot tolerate him at all, and she becomes an irrational rage."
Temper became so big that he couldn't tolerate everything he did, did everything wrong, and couldn't be satisfied with any effort.
Often with the help of some small things, I vented my inexplicable anger to him. See how unpleasant he is, for no reason, uncontrollably irritable and disgusted, and will become extremely picky. He is also often in anger, degrading him to nothingness and denying everything.
There is no longer a smile on his face, full of anger and irritability.
Impatient attitude, often make men feel that their own superfluous, existence is superfluous, care is superfluous, heartache is superfluous.
4, too lazy to argue again.
This kind of performance is obvious, the person who is willing to argue with you, must still love you, is hoping to solve the problem between two people through the quarrel, to solve the problem that occurs.
People who don't want to argue are people who don't care about the result, people who don't care about the result anymore.
There is nothing worth worrying about yourself, anyway, you are ready to leave, why bother torturing your emotions. For the contradictions between husband and wife, they are often handled with an indifferent attitude, like the Cold War, which cannot be solved in the Cold War, not solved, not faced, and not communicated.
Until the man's patience is exhausted and he has to let go, the relationship is officially drawn to an end.
Behind the Cold War, in fact, it has reflected a negative attitude, and there is no hope for "good".
5, no longer need for husbands.
She also doesn't need her husband to provide her with any more value, emotionally, physically, materially, and spiritually. To people outside, you can smile and talk, and when you return home, you will be silent to your husband.
When you encounter difficulties, you can obviously find a husband to solve it very well, but you would rather skip your husband, solve it yourself without fear of trouble, or seek help from outsiders.
I don't want to show what I need from my husband anymore, nor do I want to have any more involvement.
Even if the husband took the initiative to send her needs, she felt that she did not need it, and responded coldly to her husband's enthusiasm. Force yourself to get out of your habit of your husband first and get used to being alone.
Physical resistance, in particular, is very obvious, and that look and expression almost tells you the answer.
It is said that women are obsessed with love and desperate, in fact, it is really so, when they love you, when they want to live with you, they can eat any pain, and they can suffer any grievances. When you don't want to live with you, no matter how good life is, it is not enough to be a reason to keep her.
It is not ruled out that there is a possibility of changing the heart, but more often a desperate choice, forced to no way back.
People's hearts can't be hurt, they are cold, they are hurt, they are not something that can be burned later, including the mistakes they have made, and there is never any way to make up for them.
In any case, divorce is not a trivial matter after all, or according to their actual situation, calmly consider clearly before making a decision. Realize that divorce is often worse than you think.
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