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Although they have been divorced for three years, and both of them have formed their own new families, but angry still hate Xiao Lu, in these three years, she will never let Xiao Lu see the child, she does not say a bad word about Xiao Lu, she does not even mention his name, who mentions her and who is anxious.
If it weren't for Hehe's illness and the need for him to do bone marrow matching, she planned to never have any contact with Xiao Lu in her life, nor would she let their father and daughter recognize each other.
After Xiao Lu knew, she was very anxious and wanted to come to see Hehe, but she still had the same attitude as before, and the atmosphere when the two people met was extremely tense and depressed, and the volcano erupted in no time.
When she was pulling with Xiao Lu to divorce, netizens spoke for Xiao Lu, saying that Xiao Lu was actually a good husband, although he did not spend time at home, did not accompany his wife and children, but he at least worked hard to make money and strive to provide a better family environment for their mother and daughter.
Compared with most men, he at least has the advantage of being motivated, so many people think that Xiao Lu is also good. But if you look at his marriage with Dong Fan, you may understand why Yinuo hates Xiao Lu so much.
Dong Fan and Xiao Lu's marriage is actually a bit similar to the marriage of Yinuo and Xiao Lu, they were very sweet at the beginning, and the two people were very happy together, but after entering the marriage, they slowly changed their taste.
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Dong Fan was before marrying Xiao Lu, and after marrying him.
Before getting married, Dong Fan was a very optimistic and cheerful and lively, very gentle little girl, full of expectations for marriage, she was very sensible, very happy, and Xiao Lu was with her, she felt very happy.
But after marriage, she changed, although she was still the one who was very sensible and gentle, and her personality was soft, but she added some sensitivity, some suspiciousness, and became insecure.
She would make delicious food for Xiao Lu in her own hard work, he was not in the mood to eat, Yinuo sent him a message saying that he could let him see Hehe normally in the future, he happily said that he wanted to eat cake to celebrate, feeling a little lost.
She would go to the hospital to take care of Hehe in Xiaolu, she was alone at home, thinking wildly, wanting to send him a message for fear that it would disturb his and Hehe's happy time, and finally couldn't help but call over, and as a result, he fell asleep and didn't answer, and the next morning she went to bring him clothes.
She will feel lost because Xiao Lu threw herself on Hehe, feel insecure, and want to have their child to seize Xiao Lu's heart. She happily became sensitive, suspicious, less optimistic, and less carefree than she used to be.
If she hadn't married Xiao Lu, then she would still be that carefree girl, she wouldn't have become such a sensitive, suspicious and insecure person, to put it bluntly, Xiao Lu hadn't seen her and ignored her, so she would be like this.
Dong Fan is actually a very sensible person, but Fan Xiaolu can see her, not ignore her, not snub her, she will not become like this.
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Seeing Dong Fan's changes before and after marriage, perhaps everyone can know why Yinuo hates Xiao Lu so much.
Yinuo hates that Xiao Lu has no sense of family responsibility, hates that he can't see his own efforts, and hates that he can't see his own existence. She herself worked hard at home to take care of Hehe twenty-four hours a day, and he came home later and later on the grounds that he was busy at work.
He was dating other girls when she was out in the middle of the night taking care of the kids until she broke down, when she needed him to hug warmly in the middle of the night, when he was in someone else's arms, when she needed him to come home early and take care of the kids.
What Yinuo hated was his neglect and snub of himself, as if he was not the person in this marriage, he was just a passer-by, the home was his free hotel, and he came back only because he was sleepy and needed to sleep. Woke up in the morning and went out again.
Xiao Lu's invisibility to Yinuo also happened to Dong Fan.
He went to the hospital to accompany Hehe, obviously he could call her before going to bed, talk to her, talk to her, let her feel that he had her in his heart, and he thought about her, she wouldn't think much about it, but he didn't, and he went straight to sleep.
He He was sick, he took care of He He, that was a matter of course, it was understandable, Dong Fan was not the kind of person who did not understand things, otherwise she would have made a big deal with him a long time ago.
But Xiao Lu really didn't understand things, when he was with Yinuo before, he didn't go home under the pretext of work, ignored Yinuo, and now when he was with Dong Fan, he used Hehe as an excuse to ignore Dong Fan.
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In fact, when it comes to going, it is easy for Xiao Lu to ignore the people around him.
He would care about Hehe, and love Hehe so much, entirely because it was his bloodline and was related to him, so he would be like this. But for his wife, he easily ignores her existence.
This is true for Yinuo, and it is also true for Dong Fan.
That's why Yinuo would hate him so much, hate him to the bone, and the damage to her by cheating was far less than the damage caused by his neglect of her. This can make women particularly sensitive, suspicious, and become less like themselves.
Marriage is originally two people, it requires two people to work together, as long as one person's heart does not go together, the marriage will quickly become another.
Marrying this kind of man, it will be really difficult to be happy, unless he really understands the true meaning of marriage, and can really see his wife, understand her, understand her, and share the storm with her, and will get better and better in the future.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Dear Little Child"