Before getting married, I believe that everyone is full of expectations for marriage, who said that middle-aged people must be tired, who said that middle-aged marriage is only a chicken feather?
However, when people reach middle age, they have to start to accept reality.
Life really does not treat everyone differently, and people finally understand this truth until they are middle-aged, fortunately, it is not too late.
I remember reading an article "Whose old age life is not a bloody storm",
When people reach middle age, they find that whose life is not a bloody storm, but only that everyone suffers their own pain in their own field.
It's just that everyone's pain points are different, so we always think that other people's lives are better than ours, but this is not the case.
There is no perfect marriage, and whatever you think is perfect may just be what you think.
The friend was a real woman, her family of five girls, she was the second eldest in the family, from a very young age, there were often people laughing at her family that there were no boys, but that was twenty or thirty years ago, because since she had her, she was her family man.
When she was a child, several sisters were bullied, and she went up and beat her up, and then no one dared to provoke her, as well as the little sisters in her family.
Since the time of the girl, she has always been so tough, and then married, the in-laws are good to her, and then slowly softened down, but it is still a big personality, and the big things and small things in the family can't be separated from her.
She had always thought that all families were like this, and that women were the backbone of the family.
Some time ago, one of their relatives fell ill and she went to help for a few days.
This relative is the best mixed among the younger generation of their family, in his early forties in the unit is a second-in-command, has prestige and ability, not only the people of the unit obey him, relatives often think of him.
I always thought that he had money, ability and ability, and that life should be quite smooth, but this time he was sick and hospitalized to find that it was not at all.
He is the only son in the family, the old man is not in good health, so this time sick do not dare to tell them, only let the wife accompany the bed, but his wife came for two days on all kinds of dizziness and shortness of breath, there is no problem with the examination, and finally the doctor said that it may be frightened, plus the child still needs to be managed, so he asked a nurse to let his wife go home.
My friend's husband just happened to be fine for a few days, so he took care of it in the hospital for a few days, and he was discharged from the hospital a few days ago before he came back.
Came back to a friend said that I thought this sister-in-law could make money and do it, but that day where to put the toilet paper and the children called to ask, asked a bunch, it seems that the family outside the home, usually are brother management, think about him is also tired.
Many people always see others at a glance and think that people live like this, in fact, how other people's homes are, you will never know.
So, when you envy how happy other people's marriages are, it may just look, really, and only the couple knows.
Middle-aged marriage, one of the most taboo things is to compare your own unhappiness with the happiness of others, to know that this will not only not improve the shortcomings of your marriage, but also make you dissatisfied, more and more disgusted with the other half.
Middle-aged marriage needs to be understood, and it needs to be more considerate.
I remember reading a story once.
There is a couple with a hot temper, often a quarrel will make the neighbors can not be peaceful, they always think that it is the other party's problem, a quarrel with each other and a model couple upstairs.
The husband feels that his wife is gentle and sensible, and the wife feels that her husband is not romantically considerate.
It wasn't until the two couples met unexpectedly that they found that the couple upstairs was actually more envious of them, because they were born with disabilities, and one couldn't hear the other and couldn't speak, so they felt that the couple who often quarreled were showing affection.
The world of marriage is not easy, and perhaps, as the story says, only the half-deaf and half-mute "disabled" can live the ideal marriage, because there are many things they can't see, and of course they can't calculate.
It sounds a bit ironic, but it points out the biggest problem in marriage, that is, it is too calculated, so the feelings will be less and less.
Middle-aged people, who have gone through the ups and downs of life, should have more understanding and understanding of life and family.
Whether it is a husband or a wife, it is not easy, and it needs to be understood and considerate of each other in order to have more energy to face life.
In this world, there has never been a happy marriage, and there are no two people who are born together.
Only couples who are willing to accommodate each other, couples who are willing to help each other, they move forward hand in hand, and they have composed a moving love story.